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Im Melanie. 16 Years old. Junior at My High School. Im good at giving advice. Very good! I will help you out, and tell you all I know, Im not always right, no one is. But ill tell you what I think, and the truth. I wont put it in nice terms ill say it as it is...........
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this is from: wait you didnt answer this.

back up plan?

is that right to be with someone who thinks you are a back up plan? i mean yes its true i do like her no matter what, but is it right to do, to be her back up? i think no and i should walk away. so i did but she seems to always drag me back, draws my attention to her and i know or maybe she does too, know that if i dont do it i will lose her. should i tell her "do you think i'm your back up plan? do you like me or what?"
whats the deal......

That sounds good tell her how u feel mabi it will all work out if not its just not ment to be

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This is from:Was this girl talk?

okay i dont really think she is using me for that, i never thought of it in that way but she told me last month that she told Bobby no that she wont go out with him. 3 days ago we all hang out together and the whole time she was giving me the addention and ignor bob as bob was trying to show his likings to her. the whole time she was holding on to me once in a while. but i dont know. she might be using me? i just never thought of it in that way.
but you didnt answer this question, why would she call me? when right after she got off the phone with him?

She dosent want to let you go, she called you after him because she still wants you to like her, and if someone like you likes someone for a while they wont stop at nothing to get that person, she knows you like her so much that ur not gonna stop. but she also knows that she can talk to other people and you will still like her, thats whare she has you.. Its kinda hard for me to explain but Im trying my best...she calls him..talks and watever.. then thinks ohh that girl likes me too, im gonna call her and see what she has to say....

to sum it all up------ur her back up plan..she called you after him because she know you will be there and you still have feeling for her, so you wont lose interest in her!! okay I think you just need to seat her down and straighten things out....this is a very tough situation---but i hope it all works goood--
------melanie

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(i like my friend more than a friend and she knows cause i told her about it two years ago.)
last month she called me and told me that our friend Bobby called her and ask her out. i ask if she likes him back and she said "well i do love him as a brother and care for him..." i told her "well if you like him more than a friend you wouldnt call me." she said "good point"
i told her the differents of liking someone more as a friend and as a friend.
she understood, but i dont understand why would she call me and ask or say what to do.
i mean if a guy or girl ask you out and you dont like them you will tell them right? i mean yeah you can think about if you do but why call your friend and ask for advice?
i told her that it is up to her of what she wants, but i know she does like him more than a friend. she and i care for him well but i dont see them together and i told her that. i even told her that i was jealous about it when he ask her. she didnt say much but she began to flirt to me. and still does.
was it girl talk?
or
whay would she call me?
FYI: I'm 20/f who is bi.

You probly already knoe this but dont relize you do because you are in the situation. Girls love when other people love them and are always there no matter what. and she probly see's you as a friend who likes her and because you liked her so long she knows you will be there no matter what.. she is holding on to you, you understand what im saying. if she goes out with this guy and something happens and they break up, she knows you will be there still. NO MAtter What, she will flirt with you, so you dont lose interest. N i hate saying this but, from what you told me in the question, I think she using you as a back up plan. When all fails she has you, n i hate saying that but that what it seems like, but don't be her back up plan. Tell her how you feel, say ok I like you, do you like me. If not don't hold on to me anymore, let me go, don't flirt with if you dont want to be serious. Thats all you have to do, and then move on with your life and still stay friends.. I hope I helped you
-------Melanie

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A long time ago my friend went out with a guy and she broke up with him because she didn't like him anymore. A few months later he and I started hanging out and we kissed. I didn't know how to tell my friend so I didn't because I didn't think it was going to turn into much. Then it got kind of serious and we were seeing each other heaps going out to dinner and sleeping at each others houses and I ended up losing my virginity to him, and the whole thing is still unbeknown to my friend. I found out that after late nights out and stuff when she had no where to stay she would stay at his house and they would hook up but claimed it meant nothing more than a place to stay. I know it means more to him...I guess the whole reason to this question is I don't know what to do and I feel like such a whore for letting him have sex with me! any help would be appreciated

So He isant your boyfriend? He is your benficial friend, Don't feel like a whore because your not your not sleeping around with a bunch of different guys, so your fine. Tell your friend, she wont be mad she has nothing to be mad about because thats not her boyfriend anymore. Tell him how you feel about the whole sistuation and tell him its weird and mabey he will stop, if not for get him, you could do so much better, don't let him bring you down and don't let him use you. Your probly saying ( i dont) but you may not even relize you are letting him take advantage of you. If he really wants to be with you for are not what you do with him, he will be. So I hope I helped you out
----Melanie

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Well me and my fiance have been together for 2 years. When we first dated we went through some hard times. Well he cheated on me twice and since then we got back together and have been together for a year and a half since those incidents. But now that we took the relationship to the next level and are getting married, I am having the hardest time letting go of the past and what he did. I constantly bring it up and cry about it almost everyday. And it has been over a year! It is affecting our relationship alot, emotionally and sexually. Please help! What can I do to get over this?

Its all on you, if you believe people change then you should be fine and not worry about it. Now me on the other hand I belive once a cheater always a cheater, if he loved you so much he wouldnt of did it in the first place, and I would never take someone back if they cheated on me... but it your opinion, and Im just here trying to help--Hope I did
----Melanie

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Okay so about a month & a half ago this guy asked me out & I said "Yes." but he was one of my best friends but i kinda liked him, so I was so confused, so i finally thought abuot it and made a decision about a week aftr i broke up with him because it felt so ockward to be making out with my best friend.
About three days after i broke up with him he started going out with my best friend, at first I was okay with it but after i saw them making out and holding hands I got sad & really jealous & I realized how much of a mistake that I made. Now they have been going out for almost a month & everyday at lunch they sit with us & they always cuddle up, get really close, hold hands, whisper in each others ears & I have to leave the table or else I get angry & yell or get sad & cry. There are other guys that want to go out with me but the only one I want is the one my best friend is going out with. I just REALLY need to know how to get over this, jealousy & what to do when I see them acting that way & what to when he flirts with me because yesterday he took my hand on the bus & held it. :/
I just really need help. I get so angry I want to et back with him so bad ! !
Personally I don't think they'll ever break up. :((

&&by the way I'm thriteen.
Thanks.
-Ashley.

Ashley, you will be fine, I understand that you are upset I would be too, But when you broke up with him, he was most likely upset and did what he had to do, Go out with your friend to make you jelous and want him back. But sumtimes when guys do that they end up likeing the other person(your friend) you will be upset for a little while but you will get over it. There are plenty of guys out there for you, maby he wasent the right one, and you were just ment to only stay friends. You look at your friend and him together and you miss the confort he gave you, and now you probly think you messed up big time, but you didnt. Date other guys, don't show him your jelous, (that the worst thing you can do!)--And everything should work out fine. I hope I helped you out
-------Melanie

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My girl's parents have kept her away from me, for like, one week. She wrote me a letter yesterday, assuring me she still loves me, but every few glimpses i get of her(we live in the same neighbourhood) tells a different story. How will i know if she still loves me?

Find time to talk to her when her parents arent around, talk about the situation and if you two will ever be able to hang out and her parents will allow it. See why they are keeping her away from you and then make things better.. if you can
hope everything works out
---Melanie

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