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21/F: So me and my “boyfriend” have had a lot of ups and downs. We’ve been off and on for about 3 years. He has a drug problem and since the beginning of the year has actually been in recovery. While he was in rehab, he called me almost every night and we had hour long conversations of just happiness. He shared like every detail of his life with me and I felt so important because he trusted me enough to really tell me how he felt. But one day he told me that he couldn’t carry on a relationship with me or call me so often because he needed to work on himself but really wanted a relationship later on. Well, here we are a couple months later and I am going insane. It’s not that I don’t think he needs time or whatever. But I am beginning to doubt how he feels about me at all…He doesn’t EVER call me. Sometimes doesn’t even respond to my texts. He is supposed to come up this coming weekend and I am super nervous. I am excited because I really do love this guy with all of my heart but I’m scared he’s going to hurt me again. He said he can’t be rushed into a relationship and he would come up here and take me out when he was ready. So now I know that’s probably his plan. But I feel as if maybe he will never be able to give me what I want from a relationship. We are long distance and I want someone that I can talk to whenever I want to. I’m not talking like all hours of the day. But if I want to talk to him, I don’t want to be ignored. I feel like no matter how I tell him that I want a healthy happy relationship with him or how I wish he would talk to me more, nothing ever happens. This is new ground though because he is in recovery. I don’t know what’s going on in his life at all, he has all these new friends which seem like a great support system. But I wish I was more included :/ I really love this kid and if he does end up coming up here, do you guys have any advice on what I should say? I hate being this sad :/ I just honestly want a happy relationship soooo badly :[ (link)
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I think that you should give him time and trust him. Because if he told you that its because he cares and if he is distant and you feel like he doesn't call or anything maybe his feelings weren't that true.
Try to stay calm and find another people to listen to you, rely on friends, try to meet other guys. Good luck with that!
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Ok so I have a boyfriend and we are the standard couple. We fight sometimes but easily get over it. We recently got into a fight because we were talking on Skype and we were on eachothers facebook accounts and looking through convos and I read one on his profile to my best friend that said "Well to be honest, I never really stopped liking you" I was crushed and hurt and we got into a fight about it. I couldnt stop crying because I was heart broken. I love him so much! Anyways, I told him that even if he liked my best friend a bit that I would never stop loving him. Today, he said that he stopped liking her and he loves me with all his heart. Then, he said "Im not gunna tell her that I dont like her anymore though." Why would he say that? He confuses me sometimes :$ (link)
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I believe it's pretty normal for a person to like another people even though they are a relationship. It's sad but true.
That does not mean that he loves you any less or that he doesn't care about you. If he told you that i think it means that he is not going to cheat on you or anything but he can't stop that feeling. I think you should tell him to back off a little bit with her so he can forget about those feelings and you forget about her and try to work on your relationship. Try to do things that reminds him why he loves you. Good luck with that and don't be afraid to contact me if you have anymore troubles.
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My ex and me broke up a few months ago. It wasn't a nasty breakup but I was angry & upset. I did tell him that if we were seriously done, then we were to have no contact so I could move on. So, obviously, we've had absolutely no contact since then. I'm not completely over him and I admit it. I am at the point though, where I'd like to be in some contact with him. I'd like to see how he's doing, what's new, etc.. possibly even start to be friends. I really think I could do that. I just don't know whether I should try to contact him or just let it go/leave it alone. I think if I didn't, I'd always wonder 'what if'. How do I figure this out? What could I say that wouldn't sound dumb/pathetic and more along of the lines of upbeat/curious? I'm such a prideful and stubborn person, but my gut keeps telling me to say something. (link)
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if there's no possibility of you guys getting back together i dont think it would be a good idea for you to contact him again. If you stay away you might forget the feelings you had for me, the feelings won't dissappear but you might learn how to live with it. But if you contact him you have to be aware of the possibility of getting all those feelings for him back. So if you contact him its because you are willing to take that risk again and because you are prepare to some suffer. GOOD LUCK
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Wow, okay so I have alot to say! Ok so I broke up with my old boyfriend because I felt the relationshup wasnt really going anywhere and so I told him I only wanted to be friends. Now, I have a new boyfriend and he is amazing! I love him so much! We hangout really offen at lunch and inbetween classes. Online, we get into fights though but we always find a way to get through them. I could never live without him and he has told me that without me his life would be incomplete. We recently got into a fight that almost cost our relationship. =/ Worst thing ever! We got through it though but now he says that he likes my best friend a tiny bit. I told him it was okay because I love him more than anything and I know most people would be mad but Im surprisingly not.. I never want to loose him. Should I be a bit mad that he likes my best friend? I love him so much and I could never move on, he's perfect for me! Advice? (link)
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I think that the fact that he likes your bestfriend its because they are way too close maybe, and thats normal it happens a lot.
But if she is a true friend you should have nothing to be worried about. But be carefull with that and make him believe at least that you care, because if you act like you don't care at least a little bit he might think you are ok with that.
Good luck :)
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