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I really need to move on from my last relationship. It's been almost 5 months and I still can't. I went out with him for more than a year, and he is over me completely while I am not.
Also, we have a baby together. He was just born, I need to know how I can meet people if I'm always stuck at home?
I don't go to public school, and I have lost contact with a lot of my friends :(
I really need to know how to meet new people, also if you have any stories at all similar to mine please tell?
Thanks

Alright honey for the guy problem, from what i heard he isn't a great guy. Relationships are hard to just get through fast, i know but you need to see that you are an independent women with a baby. You will see that throughout time you will see that he wasnt good for you. Dont try to get over him too quickly because it wont work. About you meeting people, i have two suggestions. First i suggest you stay at home for a while. You have a newborn that needs you right now. I am sure you still have contacts with some of your friends so if you do contact them and have them come over. If they are true friends they will come. If your determined to meet new people if its a nice day take your baby out for a walk in the park where new people are always at. Also the mall is a good place too. Either place you can go with or without your baby.
I hope i helped,
Xoxo, Farrah G.

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im 14 a guy and my penis is just over 4 inches long im a bit worried is that about vaerage for my age? do girls care about penis size?

Its not the size but how well you can use it. Dont worry i am sure your fine....sorry i am not to good at this....hope i helped :)

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i like these 2 guys. aaron and ryan. they are both
soooo sweet and nice to me. but i dont know which one to pick. i need advice on which guy to pick.

If they are both great guys you should follow your heart. Its much better then your brain when it comes to that. Its actually much easier than it seems. Hope this helps! Let me know your feedback! Ttyl. -Farrah Gonzalez

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Well, I am a 19 year old female and I met a 22 year old guy in the middle of March. We hit it off pretty good. Only problem was he lived in England and I lived in the States. Four thousand miles apart, not cool. After a month and a half things started going down hill. He became extremely emotionally distant and very busy. I'd probably get only five minutes a week if I was really lucky. Finally after another month and a half I got fed up with it and walked away from the relationship.

Apparently, that struck a blow to his pride. Not but a few days after I left I heard news he was back out in the dating arena. I too also got involved with a crazy psycho unintentionally for a month, but finally ended it. Come to find out I missed my ex and decided to try and gain his trust back. He has not talked to me since I left him and has ignored both of my emails.

I know I did not hurt him that bad, for his ex-fiance did worse. I was very polite and nice when I left. Only other reason I can think of is he just wasn't really interested in me to begin with. But, I am still in love with him. I can't even date other guys because it only seems as though he is the only attractive male on this planet. I hate it. I want him to come back, but deep down I know he probably won't. I don't bug him constantly, I refuse to come across as needy and desperate. He is after all a Sagittarius and I a Capricorn.

I know I should just move on, but part of me still has hope for the future. A rather hopeless future destined to for a miserable life, but whatever. Maybe one day I will eventually move on. I just wish I knew how to get him out of my mind. I do not keep in contact with him and have not sent him any emails/texts/calls besides that one time. He knows I am single by now, but then again some people say if he really wants to be with me he will come back and if he doesn't I just need to move on...so yeah give me some thoughts. Thanks.

If he doesnt come back it just wasnt meant to be. If he didnt like you in the first place dont get all upset because he isnt worth the trouble. Get a new hobby, try sports, or just anything to get him off your mind. In time your heart will mend and you'll find someone better that actually likes you for you. Hope this helps! Ttyl! Xoxo, Farrah Gonzalez

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So, I'm about to sound completely messed up. So i need some help on this hah. Alright, so there's this guy Josh. He treats me like crap sometimes, he doesn't even care, but I've NEVER EVER liked someone SO MUCH as him. I'm like...addicted to this guy. I can't even explain. but all he really cares about is sex, and we aren't even dating. I bet he talks to other girls and blah but i like him a lot..and theres this other guy alex who is nice but one of those feminine guys? Who are really sentitive..but I have a feeling hes gonna ask me out tomorrow. And I don't want to get into that but he'd treat me better. AND THEN there was this guy DRAKE that I was talking to earlier this summer, we hung out and got really close, but now he doens't even talk to me or respond to my textes? And there's no way he could have found out about Josh. I really don't know. Should I stick in the single life and keep juggling this around? Or...? This is so fucked up ahhahaha its killllin me.

I think alex is best for you. Josh is a jerk and doesnt deserve you because he is only wanting you for the sex and after that you are gonna get hurt after he gets tired of using you. Drake doesnt even answer you so he isnt reliable. I say ask alex and if it doesnt work out stay single for a bit. It never hurts! Hope this helps! Ttyl. Xoxo, Farrah Gonzalez!

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Okay so I had a problem with two boys earlier that alot of people gave me advice on. I took a short break from talking to two boys that I cared so much about so that I could decide which one I wanted to be with. When I decided I needed only Jason in my life I waited a couple days then I was going to go hang out with himat his house. (turns out I shoulda called first) Well when I got there his mom told me he was in his room and I could just go in. when I came in the guy I had cared so much for and spent the last six months with was kissing his new "girlfreind" how suprising this all was concidering just 8 days ago he was with me. Anyways I pretty much acted like i could care less and everything was all fine. So when I left his house I guess I was very on the reboundish, when I ran into matt. This is jasons best freind, a guys that hits on me everytime I see him but also talks down on me at times > he's the total player type. So anyways we were talking and when he put his arms around my waist it just felt so great to be touched that I couldnt stop him, same when he kissed me I wanted to kiss him back and I did many times. The thing is I knew when I didnt have sex with him immediately he was going to tell me to leave. I expected it because I know him and how he treats girls, but if I expected it why did it hurt so much? Why did I care? And when he told me he wanted me to leave he said it in this sweet little way and then said but will I see you later? outloud I said no but in my heart I yelled yes. I dont like him never have but why do I want to see him so badly again, and why is all this crap happening to me? please help me

When you saw jason and that other girl you wanted someone to love you and Matt could maybe deep inside you also wanted matt so you could make jason jealous. I say both are bad for you cuz ones a sleaze and the other cant wait for you for long. Dump both and get someone who will care for you. -Farrah Gonzalez

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Okay so I had a problem with two boys earlier that alot of people gave me advice on. I took a short break from talking to two boys that I cared so much about so that I could decide which one I wanted to be with. When I decided I needed only Jason in my life I waited a couple days then I was going to go hang out with himat his house. (turns out I shoulda called first) Well when I got there his mom told me he was in his room and I could just go in. when I came in the guy I had cared so much for and spent the last six months with was kissing his new "girlfreind" how suprising this all was concidering just 8 days ago he was with me. Anyways I pretty much acted like i could care less and everything was all fine. So when I left his house I guess I was very on the reboundish, when I ran into matt. This is jasons best freind, a guys that hits on me everytime I see him but also talks down on me at times > he's the total player type. So anyways we were talking and when he put his arms around my waist it just felt so great to be touched that I couldnt stop him, same when he kissed me I wanted to kiss him back and I did many times. The thing is I knew when I didnt have sex with him immediately he was going to tell me to leave. I expected it because I know him and how he treats girls, but if I expected it why did it hurt so much? Why did I care? And when he told me he wanted me to leave he said it in this sweet little way and then said but will I see you later? outloud I said no but in my heart I yelled yes. I dont like him never have but why do I want to see him so badly again, and why is all this crap happening to me? please help me

Ok when you saw jason and that other girl you were hurt and wanted someone to love you. Matt was the one around so you didnt object because you wanted someone to do that and you didnt mind who did it. Also since matt is jasons best friend i think you would make jason jealous by being with matt. This is a common thing when a relationship ends so that crap happens to everyone and i know it sucks. Both jason and Matt are bad for you because matts a sleaze and jason couldnt wait for you for 9 days before sucking face with another girl. This is wat i think, and get a bf who will treat you better. Hope this helps let me know if it does! -Farrah Gonzalez

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19, female.

so there's this guy, we use to be pretty close like THREE years ago. we still see each other now and then but its nothing like what we were before. we're both attracted to each other but i just always have a hard time even texting him, let alone ask him to hang out. its that "having a crush on someone, nervousness" but like a week ago i had to ask him something so then we started talking and i was like can we hangout when i get back from vacation? and he was like yea im down. and so now i'm back but i just dont really know how to ask him to hangout. he's always busy too, playing sports. he always has hockey and baseball. so i kind of want to just be like "so...when are we hanging out" but i dont think that will get me very far because i can see him being like "whenever" and its different because i always text flirty with him like i've said "you only see the one side of me, and thats the good side" and he was like "well whats your other side?" and i was like naughty;) and he was like why arent you like that with me! and so on haha. AND the thing is i've been to my cousins twice since i've been back and he's their next door neighbor and not once did he text me even saying like yeah we should all hang out, because hes close with my cousins too. i just overthink everything! is there a good way to ask him to hangout without the fear of being rejected and him being like sorry im busy. AND i dont even know what we would do!

anything is appreciated:)

Well you should first off ask him before another girl does. Although sports is a hectic schedule he doesnt have them each day so check out which days he doesnt have them. Even if hes busy one day the worst he can say is maybe tomorow. Maybe you can even go to one of his games with a couple friends. Then maybe he'll decide to hang out with you. Hope this helps! -Farrah Gonzalez

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I'm a girl & i'm 16 years old. I was talking to this kid for almost five months, and i liked him a lot. Obviously i thought he liked me too, considering thats what he told me. He went to prom last minute, then met a chick there & they started dating right away. I was left hanging and he wanted nothing to do with me, and this was out of nowhere. I couldnt do anything about it, and it made me feel helpless. He's still dating this girl and i dont even know why. I dont know why i still care, but i do. He still textes me sometimes and i think he wants us to be friends. The whole situation still has me confused, what should I do?

You should confront him and ask him why he is giving you mixed feelings and let him know how you feel. Tell him he needs to understand and that all you want is the truth. Hope this helps! -Farrah Gonzalez

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