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Hello my name is FM. I believe Im the right person to give advice because I tell it like it is. I used to have my own email advice program, but it messed up. Feel free to ask me anything, Im all yours!

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you know i really dont know how to explain myself cause in all actuallity this guy is confusing as hell.

things were great i remember staying up having late night conversations, getting cute texts, and cute myspace comments and now its like i dont exist, you kinda like the drunk girl at a party type of thing. what should i do, i'm like 110% there is another girl.

Dear Confused,
Dump him! No guy is worth it when you know theres another girl. But if you don't want to leave him straight up talk to him about it.

My ex boyfriend used to be all cute, with text messages and comments and then I found out that he stopped because he was feeling guilty over cheating.. Maybe your boyfriend is feeling guilty, and you should talk to him about it.. It worked for us..

But if talking doesnt work, and you still want to be with him, show him that you exist.. If theres things that he wants you to do with him then maybe you should, like playing paintball or hanging out with him and his friends (you know, stuff guys do)..

Always remember that no guy is worth your tears.. and theres more fish in the sea! Myspace is the perfect place for that!

Good luck
-FM

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dear fm.
i lost the only guy i ever cared for over an arguement caused by one of his friends. he is too think headed to listen to reason and his friend is enjoying his handywork. i just dont know what to do.

-sufokate

Dear Sufokate,
All you can do is try to reason with him over and over again. If the arguemnet is over his friend, and he doesn't want to see your side of it then maybe he cares about his friend more than you. Which is fucked up, I must say, but Ive had it happen to me. I just wish that guys could see that we don't want them to leave their friends for us, we just want them to believe us on the same level as they believe their friends. Because we trust them on the same level we trust everyone else. Possibly even more. Maybe you could tell him that.
I really hope he understands that his friend is just jealous of you two, and I hope he can see that before its too late.
-FM

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its kinda hard to, but i could probably do it. i see that you're not single, how do you and your boyfriend talk to eachother about these types of things? I mean, does he feel that way about you or vice versa?

Dear, Valo?
well, yeah Im not single... I dont know if he thinks about things like that.. If he were to tell me that he doesnt like the people I talk to, then i might understand. It all depends on the way he says it.. if hes really demanding then im going to get pissed, but if he talk about why he doesnt like me talking to them then we'll see.. Good luck with telling her..
~FM

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Hi-
i started dating this girl about a month ago, she's really incredible, and she's been the right in my wrongs. We dont get to see each other that often, but the times i do get to see her i feel so close to her and i'm so comfortable around her. I've never been this comfortable around anyone, and to tell you the truth i really think i'm starting to fall for her. I'm not sure how much she cares for me, and i get worried sometimes about people that she talks to. What should I do? should I tell her how I feel, or should I let it be? I just dont want to lose this girl, she means a lot to me, and I cant think of some I'd want to be with more. Help me please.
-{Valo}-

Dear Valo,
I am happy to hear that your in a nice realtionship, but if you dont know how she feels then you should just be honest.. If you think that she doesnt feel the same then its better to know now then down the road when you really have strong feelings for her.. Be honest.. even if it hurts.. because hey, the truth can hurt sometimes.. Never hold things back, because it all comes out in the end which can make the possiblitly of friendship after the relationship impossible.. and the things about her talking to other people, you cant control it, but she needs to know how you feel.. Maybe if she sees that its making you uneasy then she'll stop.. I wish you the best of luck with this.. and happy Valentines Day..
~FM

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hey-
ok,so my story is i fell in love with someone,someone who i least expected it..someone who has always been there for me.and we have an amazing time together every single day we are together.i want her and she wants me,but for some reason,i dont think i am the right person for her..i want to be so much,but i dont think i am..how do i get over this feeling?
~Standby and watch me die~

Dear Standby,
Go for her. It seems like you want the best for her. If you love her and she loves you then there should be nothing stopping you. Just be with her for the right reasons, you understand.
~FM

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Ok... Say you have wanted someone for the longest time...and you know they love you... it just seems like they dont want to be with you... What do you do? You cant really stop loving this person right?
-Confined

Dear Confined,
yeah you can stop loving someone. Im really not the person to ask right now I have to learn to hate the person I just broke up with. If you want something go for it.. Thats the only thing you can do.
~FM

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how can you tell if your in love???

Dear culeless,
when your heart stops at the sight of a person.. when you'd do anything and everything for that person.. when you cant go two days with out talking or seeing that person.. you just know.. love is different to everyone though..
~FM

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FM, I have hheard of you through some friends, and I hear that you are good at what you do. I have read some of the advice you have given to people and I figured that it wouldn't hurt to get your advice on something. So with that being said, I'm gonna ask you a question. "If you are truely in love with someone, and you are certain she is the one you will always love, is there anything that should stop you from telling this person how you feel?"
-Hopes and Fears

Dear Hopes and Fears,
No, there shouldnt be anything in the world from stopping you from telling her! If you truly love her than nothing should keep you from her if she feels the same way.. I wish you all the luck in the world,
~FM

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if i like a girl that is taken and i want to spend more time with her how should i go about leting her know without being to blunt or should i be very blunt help.
mr.intimidated

Dear Mr. Intimidated,
Well this is the 2nd time Ive heard from you.. Im sorry but if shes taken theres nothing you can do to take it to the next level.. Hang out with her as a friend, but respect her relationship.. Just let her know that you want to be her FRIEND, because if the relationship ever fails she knows your there.. you know what I mean? Good luck!
~FM

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dear fm
i want to see if you can help me out here. alright i know this girl who has a b/f but hes kand of a butt hole and i wouldnt dout if he has cheated on her and i know i would treat her better.the problem is im just a little intimidated i guess u coul say but i realy like her and its the first time in a while that i realy found a girl thats intersting and wouldnt mind spending time with. so please give me some good advise.
mr.Intimidated

Dear Mr. Intimadated,
Well you know, the worst thing you could do is keep the fact that you like her to yourself. Tell her, even if you think you wont get her, because you never know. My advice is, try to point out that her boyfriend is a bitch without being disrespectful to her or him.. Be her friend if she does decide to break up with him. Then tell her that you like her.. Good Luck!
~FM

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Dear FM
=so i was "with" this girl for awhile. about 2 weeks. we live in different places so it was kind of hard to see each other. she called it off, because of how much time we didnt get to see each other. now out of the blue she wants to get back together. is this wise?=
stranger

Dear Stranger,
If you like her than yes.. If you dont then no.. Dont let distance stop you from caring about someone!! EVER!!
~FM

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dear fm, can you help me get a girlfriend that is a rocker?
-borninglife100

Dear boring life,
well.. I dont know.. All I can say is that you should just talk to a girl that you like and tell her that you like her.. Why does she have to be a rocker? If you like a girl, then dont label her.. But yeah.. Talk to the girl you like and get to know her better, let her get to know you.. and then you can ask her out.. Good Luck!
~FM

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Dear FM,
So i had this boyfriend, and he liked me..alot and i think more than i liked him, but he was around way too much, so i lied and told him i HAD to break up with his because of my parents. And i felt bad because he was heartbroken, but relived that he was hopefully going to leave me alone. But he didn't and he still is around all the time. But he asked me back out and I said no, and he still won't go away.

How do i get him to leave me alone without being mean. Please help.

---Annoyed, and confused---

Dear Annoyed,
Just tell him that you dont want to hang around with him. You have to use a little force to get what you want in life. You dont have to be mean, just tell him "(name here), I need some space. I still want you as a friend but a girl needs to do what a girl needs to do, you know?" If he doesnt take the hint then its fair game to say what you want because you tried to tell him in a nice way. Good Luck!
~FM

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i am 16 yr. old girl..yea..so i like 2 guys actually..both live in different towns and only one of them really knows me.uhhh, the thing with that person is-i dont know how he feels about me...i met him like 9 yrs ago. and we did go out..but everything has just been totally screwy lately..i try to talk to him,:) but it just never works out.hes always with his friends..or practice>>>>>>and the other guy has from what i have heard never had a g/f..and and him and his friends are totally cool..i havent really even met this boy-but we have had our "moments"???!?.i want to get to know him better..but i dont know how he will react..dude, com'on we are in high school for christ.so what do you think? *lost and alone..

Dear Lost and Alone,
dont feel lost and alone, because your never truly alone. If the one that knows you doesnt have time for you then dont waste your time on him. The other guy, the girlfriendless guy, is the one you should go for. Because you can be his frist girlfriend. Its really not hard to get to know someone, just talk to them alot. While talking to him just hint that you are into him and he'll get the message.. High Schools tuff when your in these kind of situations. But try talking to the guy *the one who HAS time for you, because your time is special, he needs to see that*.. Good Luck
~FM

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Hello, first let me tell you that I think what you are doing for people is great. I love your style, and how you are right to the point with your answers. Now for my question... Pretty much like everyone else, I like this girl that I know. And I know its wrong to want to take someone from their current relationship... but I really think she needs someone more stable. Dont get me wrong I am hella tight with her boyfriend, but I dont think he deserves her. I'm not even sure I deserve this person, she is much more than I could ever want or need. What do you think?
Signed,
Slowly Breaking Down

Dear Breaking Down,
Thank you for your compliment. Its good to hear that someone thinks i'm doing a good job. ok heres my advice for you: dont feel bad about wanting her, because shes probably a great person.. but, if she is with someone then you need to respect that.. If you even try to tell her that you like her shes probably going to think that you are trying to break her up with her bf.. so just wait.. you say that its not stable, then its probably going to end.. i wish you all the luck with her..
~FM

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Hi, my name is Greg. i live in a realy small town and there are a lot of cute guys there. no1 knows im gay becuse if they did they would kill me. theres a guy in my clas at school, named daniel, hes realy tall and skinny, and i have liked him for a long time. i dont know if he is a total fruit like me and im afraid to ask him. what should i do? if anyone finds out the town will find out very fast and my dad will kill me after my friends do. any help?
Greg V.

Dear Drew.. OOPS I mean Greg V,
tell him and be open.. but i know daniel and hes not gay.. hes really against it also.. sorry..
~FM
ps. FUCK U! u know i already have one gay ex boyfriend i dont need u as another.. even though i know this is drew..

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Hello.
What should I do when im home alone and horny?

Dear Homealone,
you call up someone and masturbate to their voice.. come on now.. everyone knows that.. if u dont have someone to call, u look at porn lol.. or!! just straight up masturbate.. lol.. thank you for asking.. i needed to lighten up..
~FM

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Dear FM,

I have a boyfriend, that I have been going out with for almost a month...let's call him "Tim". I barely ever see him and he lives in another town. I flirt with my friends a little too much sometimes, and last night I was a little too close to my one friend. I didn't do anything majorly bad, but I still feel bad about it. But I don't know if I like "Tim" as much as I should. I don't like my friend...but I'm still not sure about everything. And the problem is, one of my best friends, "Mary", is good friends with "Tim". If she knew about this, and if he found out, I don't know what I'd do. Should I break up with "Tim" or give it some time and see what happens?

Signed,
LoveInOhio

Dear loveinohio,
I know how the long distance thing goes. I dont think Ive ever had a good close distance relationship. Because the people here suck, but thats besides the point. Do you talk to "Tim"? I know that the long distance communication is hard. Trust me! My phone bill was close to $400 last month. If you dont talk to "Tim", but you still like him, then dont break up with him. Because it will work out! Although, you have to tell him about your friend that you were close to. Keeping it from him will just hurt him in the long run. My friends are backstabbers. Theyre all close with my boyfiend and they tell him every little thing that I do. But I tell him when I fuck up, or when I think its something that he needs to know, because hes very understanding when the truth comes from me. If "Mary" does that to you then shes really not a good friend to you. Its really freaky how much we have in common. Im really pulling for you and Tim! Good Luck, and please, keep the love(or just like) alive.
~FM

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Dear FM,
I have sorta built up this reputation as a pimp recently, on account of all the partying I have been doing. Now Im not complaining about the lifestyle, I mean I what ever man could ever wish for, Money, liquor, and women...HELLA women. The problem is, that I want something a little more...but i dont want to give up the being a pimp. What do you think I should do?

Signed
-Big []D [] []\/[] []D

Dear Big,
I think you should take a good look at your life. If you want to look back when your 40 *if ur not 40 already* and be like, damn that was fun, or do you want to look back on it and be like, I regret that. You say you want more, maybe you should give up the "PIMP" lifestyle and settle down for a while, if you find that you dont like that then by all means give it up. Just make sure that if you do settle down and its going to hurt someone if you give it up, then you might have to reconsider. This was a very hard question but thanks for asking. Good Luck!
~FM

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hey advice person..i need help..ok..im in love with this girl ive been dating for about a month and a half,and i love her to pieces and i dont know what id do without her..she makes me such a better person and without her,id just..wither away..i mean seriously,shes just soo amazing and im afraid ill lose her..i have a couple of questions..
1.do you think she feels the same way?
2.do you think we'll have sex? lol
3.if i love her soo damn much and she loves me sooo damn much,then why are we apart??

signed--
"Hands down chrstina's the best"

Dear Hands Down,
She sounds great. I'd like to meet her, I bet she could give ME advice. But yes, I do think she feels the same way. If she cares enough to make you feel like you do then yes for SURE she feels the same way! I dont know about the sex thing. Im pretty sure you will since your in love. I dont know why you are apart. It must be a long distance thing huh. Those suck. Especially when the phone bills get high and the girl gets in trouble. But she loves you alot so you dont have to worry about anything else. I can tell your love is strong enough to stand anything from the way you described it. Good luck Hands Down.
~FM

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