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last year I was on birth control and I was...insane...then I went off of it and I became sane again...now I am pregnant and back to insane...
I have been really hasseling my husband about thinking he is cheating on me even though there is no evidence. Tonight he got sick of it and he's mad at me. He is so good to me and I don't know how to stop from accusing him. I know he isn't doing it so why do I keep bringing it up?
Has this happened to anyone who has been prego or even just on birth control? I would like to hear if you have any suggestions to get through it. I am due in one and a half months so I just need to get through it for that long. Help me keep my family together please! (link)
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Boy, do you ever have your title right HORMONES. They can make you feel like you're going crazy, but relax, you're not crazy. Right now, you are going through the insecure period of pregnancy. You have gained weight and you believe you are no longer attractive to your man. Right? This is so normal. If you are positive he is not cheating on you, you really have to give him your confidence. Keep telling your hormones to get lost and trust your boyfriend. Tell him how you feel, it is very important for him to know where you're coming from. Take deep, long breaths in through the nose and out through the mouth if you think you are about to say something to him that will harm your relationship. Pregnancy should be a good time
in your life but you're insecurities have taken over. Take back your life and enjoy your pregnancy. Go for nice long walks with your boyfriend. This will help in the delivery of the baby. Cuddle together every chance you get. The heat from his body will relax yours. Talk about the things you both enjoy. Talk about the baby and start making plans for his welcoming home.
When you do feel insecure, tell yourself it's not him but you're hormones talking. Listen to upbeat music that makes you want to dance. DON'T listen to sad music that sing about heartache and breakups, this will only get you down even more.
Hang in there girl, it will soon pass. You will have your beautiful little baby in your arms and your hormones should go back to normal. However, after the childbirth (after about 6 months) if you still feel this way, talk to your family doctor. He will take blood tests and check your hormone levels for you. If they are still out of wack, he'll help you with that. Congratulations and good luck to both of you.
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hey this is ammie. i m 19 yrs old.i just have a very odd problem.almost two yrs ago i met a guy.and i kindda fell in love with him but i could not say it to him.he was my teacher actually.and i tried to be as calm as possible.there is no way i can see him and i cant stop missing him.and the grip of his love seems to be strenthenig with the passage of time.tell me what should i do.i hope that u understand my problem.i feel very heartbroken and the idea of spending my whole life without him is just so painful.waiting for your answer (link)
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Hi Ammie: Yeh, you do seem to have a dilemma here. The only thing you can do honey is to face him. You may just have had a crush on him and if you see him now, you might just ask yourself what you saw in him in the first place, You might find that by facing him today your crush has worn off. He may have been a good teacher and probably very cute. So be brave and go see him. Tell him that you had a crush on him and see how he responds. It's the only way you will know for sure what could have been or if it was in fact just a crush. If he is married or seeing someone seriously then forget about him. I feel it is very wrong to break up a relationship. Ask him first if he is married or not or in a serious relationship. If not be honest with him about the feelings you had in the past for him. He will either tell you there is no chance for a relationship with him or...I personally know a woman who fell in love with her guidance councillor and when she graduated she made her feelings known to him and to her surprise, the feeling was mutual. They have been married over 20 years now. They have 16 years between them but they are very happy. So, go for it. What do you have to loose? If you can't get him out of your mind after all this time then you owe it to yourself to find out if there is any possibility of a relationship with him. Do you believe he had some kind feelings for you?
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ok so me and my boyfriend broke up and im over him in a romantic way but i still wanna be friends he hasnt talked to me sine we broke up but i wanna talk and i wanna be friends
how do i do that without seeming needy and desprate like i want him back because i dnt
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The best thing to do for now is give him some space. The break up is still fresh and if he's not talking to you right now it's probably because he feels uncomfortable about it. Give him a few weeks then slowly introduce yourself back into your circle of friends that you both have. This way, there will be other friends around and it won't be so uncomfortable for him. Hang out with your friends and him and let him know you just want to remain friends.
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