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Q: my friend found out someone who likes me and wont tell me who he is coz she said he is horrible.

plus the 1st time igot a boyf i was the only one foolish enough to say yes to him coz he really was a BAD BOY.

my second boyf was horrible and everyone hated him-even me!!!(i only went out with him coz of my stingy friend joanne)

and thats all i went out with and i havent even kissed any one else coz der all mingers but ive had plenty of offers just not from the right people.

the only time some decent people aked me to french kiss them was at a disco but i said no to all 3 of them on the same night and ive regreted it eversince iguess i was just nervous

what i wanna no is:
1.do i just attract mingers
or
2.am i afri to get my heart broken if i ask some one that i like

what is a minger? please get back to me. i really have never heard of that before. lol.

Q: ok i'm really sorry but this is really long and i need your help so please read this! xoxo

Ok, well there's this boy (lets call him Bob) and Bob likes a girl (well call her Kate) and Kate had a boyfriend at another school. Bob really REALLY likes Kate he'd always flirt with her and talk to her and stuff. BUT Bob would also flirt with me so i started liking him. But he like Kate more and I was there for "comfort" cause Kate had a boyfriend well Kate and her boyfriend broke up so Bob asked Kate out and now their going out and I'm really sad. But I kept telling my self don't fall for him he likes Kate and plus why would he like me I'm not pretty or anything. So yea basically my question is how can i like get over him and tell my self i have no change or how do i break them up well... atcually i don't know what to do all i know is I really like Bob and i think he likes me too a lil like very very VERY little cause he flirt with me too but anyways ways and i want him to be mine or not to have feeling for him. PLEASE SOMEONE HELP ME! THANKS XOXOX

Well first of all I'm sure that you are beautiful, secondly a guy will like you more if you start to see that you are and believe it. He will see that you have confidence and you know that you are beautiful. I've been in this situation before and I broke up 2 couples because I like the guy that much. That was a misstake you'd think I would have learned the first time but luckily I learned even if it was the second time. Both of the girls I did it too were my really good friends, and luckily they forgave me.So don't make my mistake and do that. I guess you can wait it out and if he likes you enough to go out with you he'll dump you'r friend. Just make sure you talk to your friend first! You should probably talk to your friend now about it just so she knows and hears it from you and not someone else.:) Hope I helped a bit and good luck! :)

Q: ok...I went out with this one guy for about a year and we've been broke up for a few months now and im starting to fall for his friend...well him and my bestfriend started talking but they didnt like eachother that much they talked for about a week and then he told her that he wanted to play the field awhile or whatever and now i've been talkin to him on aim and like hes really sweet and he wanted to know when we was gone hook up or whatever and he swore to me he wouldnt do me wrong and all that stuff and hes really sweet and i think im fallin for him...but my ex doesnt really approve but hes startin 2 come around but my bestfriend didnt like it at first but now shes tellin me to go for it and stuff and then she talks bad about me behind my back...im really startin 2 like him and i think he likes me(or so he says he does) but i dont want to come inbetween him and my ex and hes scared hes gone come inbetween me and my friend and its really complicatin because we like eachother and we're talkin about hooking up next week or so should i go for it or should i just tell him we should be friends?
15 female

Try talking to your friend one on one invite her over sometime and just talk about everything you've heard from other people. Ask her one more time how she feels about the whole situation and tell her how you think the guy might like you. If you make one more attempt to show her you care for her feelings as well and she is still mean about it there's nothing more you can do. Then go out with this guy and start to see him and for all you know he might not work out. Hope I helped a bit and good luck! :)
*Elizabeth*

Q: The very first time my boyfriend and I said "I love you" to each other was about two weeks ago. He said it first. Now though, I always say it first. He never tells me he loves me unless I say it to him. So what's wrong? Does he regret saying it? Is he just shy? What can I do to make him say it first?

Well Hun I love you is a powerful word and has alot of meaning to it, when he thinks of "I love you" he may be thinking that it is powerful too. Also he may not even know what love is, but I'm sure he doesn't regret saying it to you and nothing is wrong, I come across this with my boyfriend also. :) DizzymizzLizzie8

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Well I am 14 and in 9th grade in Vermont. I love to just sit and talk to my friends and help them with their problems the best that I can. Whatever the problem is i'm here to help! :)