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Hey, 18/f
Okay so basically I'm just wondering is it necessary to tell your boyfriend EVERYTHING?
We have been together for two and a half years and he knows pretty much everything about me as do I him.
But there is one particular incident in my past that I don't feel comfortable discussing with anyone. I don't want him to think differently of me telling him about it just isn't an option.
He asked me before had I any secrets and I just said no then he said If I had then all of this is for nothing.
It's not like I'm lying to him or anything there are just certain things I like to keep private. Surely that's allowed?
I asked my mum and even she says she has stuff my dad doesn't know about.
Does this make me a bad person?It's literally just this one thing.
Any advice appreciated thank you in advance. (link)
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No not at all. Having your privacy doesnt make you a bad person. There are certain things you can always keep a secret. If you are going to be uncomfortable sharing this particular thing with your boyfriend, then dont do it. You do not have to be guilty. Everybody has a right to have a personal life (as long as you know you are right). But however sometimes letting things out which have always bothered you to a trust worthy person can make you feel light. That is again based on your discretion of who you are comfortable talking about it to.
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15/f My friend was in a relationship with a guy who was 12 years old. She has been having hard time gating over him. He told her he doesn't like her anymore. I was mad at him but i can understand him.My friend is crazy drama queen she was vote in the senior survey list as drama queen. She talks about her relationship all the time about every guy she dated. But she can't over this one particular guy. Since she sees him everyday at school. She invited him to her birthday and told him she still likes him i told her your making everyone feel uncomfortable but she kept doing telling me she knows she knows. please tell me how i can help her plzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzz!!!!!!! (link)
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Its probably her ego that was hurt... it is she who has to make up her mind to push this guy out and move on. You could probably distract her or help her see that she can do better. A 12 year old is a kid after all.
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21/F
boyfriend is also 21
my boyfriend and i have been dating for 4 months. I know it doesn't seem long, but we were talking for 3 months before that. but officially been dating for 4 months. anyways, things were going really good we never really fought and if we did we would figure things out pretty quickly. we go to the same college and so we see each other a lot but we give each other space too so we don't get annoyed of each other. 2 weeks ago things started to get a little different and he told me that he just doesnt know anymore. he's super confused with himself and doesn't feel completely happy. i asked if i did anything to make him feel this way and he said no, that it's all him. he doesn't know whats wrong with him and he doesn't know what to do. i asked him if he wanted to break up or be single and he got all teary eyed and said that hurt really bad to hear that. he wants to work things out and wants to still be with me but he's really confused and doesn't know what to do or how to help himself. and neither do i. i have no idea how to help him. he says it's killing him inside because he knows he's hurting me. he said the only thing that bothers him with me is that my mood changes and he doesn't know if he's the one that's making my mood change or what. i've told him that it's never him. it's just school and other things. and i've been trying to change so that my mood doesn't go up and down all the time. he knows i'm trying. he would never cheat on me and i know this for a fact and i would never cheat on him. we both have been cheated on and so we both know how it feels.
the main thing is he just is so confused and doesn't know what he wants. and he just wants to be happy again. i have no idea how to help and thats what i really want to do. i'm worried that he's going to break up with me but i already asked if he wanted to and like i said, he said that he didn't want to and if he wanted to he could of done it already.
i guess what i'm asking is if anyone knows any suggestions of what i could tell him, how i could help, what i can do, or something.. (link)
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In my opinion, I feel he is just worried about the future and is not confident of the present. Give him lots of love and support and he'l be yours :)
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I have recently lost the love of my life. I regret it . I know we still love eachother and i know we still both have deep feelings for eachother .&& i want to try this relationship thing again. but everytime i bring it up he just changes the subject or gets mad at me then doesnt talk to me for a month or so ... (link)
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How do you know he still loves you?
I am helping a friend of mine whos in the same state. And I recently got to know this guy is dating someone else in 1 month after they broke up!
Trust me, if hes meant for you, he will come back even after a 50 years. But for now, looks like he needs his space. Give it time. We all love n loose at one point or other. So learn to let go. give him his time and space. most of the times when he knows your accessible anytime, he will not care to make things ok. Make yourself rare. Let him miss you.
Incase he has moved on, he may not let you know coz he might not want to hurt you. At the same time remember, its a large oceans and many fishes out there. Give yourself a chance .
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I am 19, from Singapore, I am kinda having some difficulty talking or getting to know girls. I tend to get very nervous around them. All my friends refer me as the crazy, funny guy. I can come up with a lot of jokes when I'm with my guy friends ( I have a lot of guy friends because I'm an engineering student ) but my jokes suck when I'm with... lets say a girl that I find attractive. Guess I'm not very confident. One more thing, every girl that I wooed/chased seemed to be very interested at first but after a while, they seem to lose their interest? I don't really know because they don't tell me. All they say is that I'm a nice guy and they don't wanna hurt me? WTF is that supposed to mean?! I need to know what you guys think about this. Thanks! :D
Btw, I tried cheesy pick up lines and I think it just doesn't work with Asian girls. They will all be like "WTF is his problem? Crazy ass muda.." You get my point. (link)
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A girl to stick around with you has to find you confident (not overly confident). Be youself, do not try to fake, any girl will definitely loose interest when she sees that. And never show your overly emotional side. A strong man is wot she searches for. I cant say much since I cant judge your personality in just 1 ques. These are some general things. Hope it works.
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