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"The true secret of giving advice is, after you have honestly given it, to be perfectly indifferent whether it is taken or not, and never persist in trying to set people right".-Hannah Whitall Smith

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Okay, so I met this guy last year and right now we're friends. But for some reason I can't stop thinking about him, and I go out of my way to pass him in the hallway at school, and I'm always checking my buddy list to see if he's on..etc.

I'm thinking I might have a crush on him or something..But the strange thing is that i can't actually picture a relationship with him. Like I wouldn't say yes if he asked me out and all I want to do is stay friends.

Can someone explain to me what's going on here? Because I'm really confused. =(

Of course its love how you can tell is because you cant resist him. Well maybe you cant icture a relationship because it would feel a little werid ebcause you don't know if he likes you.


Trust me when I say ur in love


Good luck

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ok so i am going out with this guy but hes younger than me. but he looks like hes the same age and like 3 weeks ago he kissed me. and all i wanted to do was go out with him. now that we are going out, he doesnt really treat me like a girlfriend and he won't even hug me. i mean i dont like a guy to be all over me but i would like him to show some pda. and to make it worse, my ex-boyfriend who i was friends with wont look at me because he heard i got a boyfriend so soon after we broke up. and its hurting me. and i dont know what to do. please help...

well i can't say that that same same thign happend to me but something similar did. Here is what you can do maybe your ex feels that way because it is taking him longer to get over the breakup. What you can do is justtalk to your ex because he probaly feels a little werid because he still needs some time to get over the break-up, and he sees you over it makes him feel even more werid. As for you new boyfriend he probaly feels a little insacure

hope i helped

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well....i am with my bf and trust me...he can turn me on rly good. but the problem is...im a very nervous person and i rly dont know much about sexual stuff....so when he asks me to do these things....i get nervous becuz i dont knw how to do it or i do and i am nervous becuz i have never done it. i need advice on how to get over my nervouseness and just go for it...

OK first thing is your not alone I had the same problem with my bf. But how I got over my nervouseness was I took it slower. Because then a took it a day at a time and now we can't stop. trust me if you take it slow you'll get over it. Hope I helped! Also watch was he does sorta and kinda copy

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Heyy umm I was reading your column and you have good advice about boyfriends. So here it is:
There have been rumors about my boyfriend how he is cheating on me. I don't know if they are true but lately my boyfriend hasn't been spending that much time wiht me? What do you think? Sould I confront him?

Ok the only thing that you can do is confront your boyfriend and ask him if it is true. As for why he hasn't been spending much time with you i can't answer that because i don't want to put something in your head. Just talk to your boyfriend and get everythign straightend out.

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i started talking to this guy online about 2 years ago. then i stopped and blocked him, because i didnt think it was right, and now im talking to him again. i just blocked him because i didnt think it was right for me to be lying to this guy, not because he was rude or anything like that. he thinks i'm older than i really am and i orginally sent him a picture of not me, but a different girl because i didnt think i would still be talking to him. so i feel bad and like its wrong that im talking to an older guy and lying to him about my age and appearance. and i know this must sound crazy, but he's seriously amazing, like i've never talked to anyone like him before. and yes i know that he could be a petophile, but i am careful and dont give out any personal info. he wants to talk on the phone but im not going to since i think he would be able to tell that i was younger than he thinks i am, plus i dont want him to keep calling me and dont want to give out my number. and we really dont cyber(online sex) like in a way we do but its not like the usual chat room talk you would think. so anyone please give me your advice/comments? i would like to know what you think. thanks

My dear friend,
Don't feel bad I understand 100% where yuo are coming from. To make you feel more secure here is what you can do tell him you lied to him because you felt that if you told him your real age he wouldn't like you. I had a problem like this before where I said I was 16 when I was really 13 when I found out that he went to my school he wanted to meet with me. I knew he went to my school because he was on the football team. Anyway I didn't tell him I lied till I saw him face to face. He understood, infact me and him are still dating today.

Good Luck!!!
Be yourself

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this one goes out to the girls out there!
so im a male. 17.
im not going to get into the story behind this but basically i had a disease, couldnt kiss the girl i love, disease is gone after a year, i can touch her, and i want our first kiss to be special


so you know how in no reservations the movie shes blind folded and hes feeding her things and then he kisses her? at least i think its that movie.
i want something awesome like that.
i really need ideas here
i dont care if its staged
i want to plan it before hand


and dont give me anything like itll be special regardless...you cant plan it...thats not the answer i want. i want it to be memorable.


so girls. whats your kissing fantasy???

My kissing fanatsy actually happend and here it is:
My boyfriend told he wanted to take me out. He also told me that I had to dress sorta fancy so I wore a shirt with a nice blouse.(You can tell your girlfriend the same thing). He then picked me up at my house and headed over to a semi-expensive restraunt. He pulled my chair our and let me sit. He told me to order anything I wanted. At the end he told me he had one more suprise he blind folded me and put me is his car and drove somewhere. When we were there he un-blind folded me. When he did I realized we were ina beautiful park and he had a table set up, with a thing of flowers on it. We sat down and he kissed me. Ever since then we have been in an exclusive relationship and are very serious about eachother and I will never forget that day.

Good Luck!!!!! : )

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Me and this guy Tim have been hooking up basically every weekend for about a month. I was really starting to fall for him when I made a huge mistake - I hooked up with another guy while I was drunk. Me and Tim were hookup buddies and contrary to what I thought, he wasn't getting with anyone else. My friend told Tim and now he won't talk to me and he wants nothing to do with me. I wasn't sure or not if he liked me before this happened, but now I'm sure. I feel so bad about it. I was going to tell him too but my friend didn't give me the chance. I really liked this guy and what I did was completly stupid. I had sex with Tim about 3 days before this happened and I was his first (he wasn't mine though) and that makes me feel that much worse. I know he feels really played right now and wants nothing to do with me. I told him I was sorry many times and that hanging out with him is the most amazing thing ever. I told his friend I would even stop drinking if he just forgave me. I know he needs space and everything but I'm just not sure what I should do. I really want to wait and see if he will accept my apology but I don't know when that will be. He could never forgive me. So do I a) wait for him, dont hookup with anyone or b)give up because I screwed up too bad? I'm 16/f and so is he btw.

OK here is what you should do both a and b

WAIT before you go some advice listen to me:

don't hook up with anyone else because that will definetly make things worse. but if he doesn't forgive you that just means he doesn't care that much about you as you do and can't trust you even though you were drunk.

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I'm 15 year old guy in 10th grade and there's this girl in my geometry class, and I started liking her at the start of this semester. I would sometimes talk to her, but it wasn't like we were real good friends.
A friend of mine who is also in the class found out I liked her. He sat across from me and would point at me and her and ask, "Do you like her?"
Then the other day, she asked me to sit by her, instead of on the other side of the room. We sat there the whole hour talking and just doing random funny things and telling jokes.
Does she know I like her, and does she like me?

Well it's hard to tell has she done anthing else like flirt with you. But because she wanted to sit next to you it could mean because she does like you.

Ok then she does like you yet she is a little shy about it. Go up to her and ask her out. if you too are shy then send her a note to meet you somewhere on a date and have fun start to get to know eachother more then you already do. Good luck hope you get that date.

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im unsatisfied with my life right now. i recently had a breakup with a pretty long relationship. he moved on fast. i want to move on. ive been thinking a lot and finding myself despirately wanting another relationship thats even more amazing. i keep thinking about it. i know it doesnt just come that easily. i feel like i wont be happy until i have a great relationship like my last. then again, every opportunity i have had since the breakup, i denied it. i cant fall for anyone else other than my ex. it just doesnt feel right and ive been wanting a relationship that feels perfect. i dont like my friends. i dont like where i live every guy in my school is gross/asshole. how can i be happy again? how can i distract myself from this thought? how can i find someone new if i dont like the people who i know?

ps. i dont like (

To answer your questions:
1.how can i be happy again? ]
The only way to be happy again is if you let yourself be happy. stop thinking about your ex

2.how can i distract myself from this thought?
Find a guy who YOU like and if you don't find one right away that's fine trust me. Here is one thing you can do. Go to your room and get rid of everything that reminds you of him.

3.how can i find someone new if i dont like the people who i know?
You have to give everyone a chance as my mom use to tell em you can't judge a book by it's cover. What that means is even if the guy doesn't seen hot enough or nice enough or sweet enough chances are that he is just nervous because he really like you.

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i like dis boy name Cory and he just said on valentine day "Stephanie can u b my counselor," i said, he said "cause im in love with you" i was just sitin there blush n. then my friend imani said "dats wat we were just takin about she said before you came in dat she liked you a littlte bit"


Now dat he know i like him he always lookin at me and talkin to me an always hugn me and stuff and he said on that same day "Stephanie do you wana go wit me?"
I froze i didnt know wat to say!!!
Now i need advice to knoew wat to do
can sum1 plzzzzzz help !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Like Indi said becuz you froze up you got off on a bad foot but you can fix it, so don't worry about it. Go up to him but don't make it to obvious that you were nervous and froze up just think straight when you talk to him. And tell him how you really feel.

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well like okay. im going out with this guy and me and him are relly god friendsss. and now everything is like awkward between us and i hgave secong thoughts about thiss. i relly need help.

but pleaseee dont tell me to break up with him.

i want everything back to normal and i just dont know anymoreeee. =/

helpppppp ?

Ok first thing is to breath don't worry it's natural because you two have been friends for a while. Second of all talk to him because most likely he feels the same way. Third of all if you don't feel like talking to him then think why are things feeling werid btween the two of you. The same thing happend to be a couple of months ago but it turned out I was just scared about what lied ahead for me and him. Things are great now and we really like eachother. Good luck and I hope what has happend for me happend sto you.

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ok there is this guy named S and he wanted to get to know me. so we talk sometimes. he really likes me.we are going to the movies with his friends and my friends.he is nice and funny. But i have had a crush on his best friend for years. i really want to get to know his friend. but the only way i will talk to his friend is by him. I really want to get to know his friend and maybe go out with him. i don't want to break S's heart but i want to go out with his friend. that would be kind of mean. how do i tell S that i like him as a friend and get to know his friend? also do you think it will be mean to go out with his best friend?

Ok first of all yes it would be mean to go out with S's best friend IF YOU DON'T TELL S. If you just tell S the truth he will most likely understand. Just be honest with S because he will understand. Good luck!

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