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I am 21 years old (female). Me and my 23 year old boyfriend have been dating for 3
years now. We are very close, and spend a lot of time together. Since 2 months in, we both knew that this is it, we are meant to be together and one day we'll get married :)
We are both still students.
My boyfriend is a foreign national, and is here in my country on a study permit.
He's planned to immigrate here for many years, but applications for citizenship require work or permanent residence permits, that he can only acquire through getting a job. He has been looking out at carreer fairs for when he graduates and he is usually unsuccessfull in finding a company that employs foreign national graduates. The few opportunities that have presented themselves seemed promising untill recently. Our immigration laws are changing, and it will be even more difficult for him to get citizenship now.
Even though he doesn't want to get citizenship through the marriage route (because he feels its better he gets it first, then we'll marry anyways for the right reasons and only the right reasons), I've told him a few times that I feel that if its our last resort before his permit runs out and he is made to go live in his country again; I think we should get married because we're going to anyway. Otherwise, we may lose each other if he gets kicked out of the country.
So now we are both final year, and new laws are coming in that limits his stay more and more. He is trying to get in to postgraduate studies, but I don't know if he'll get in.
He hasn't proposed, and hasn't mentioned that he'll take his last resort.I know he doesn't feel its the right way to do it (and perhaps he also feels we're not ready). But I know that he does want to marry me.
So I'm feeling the pressure mounting. I know I said I'll just marry him, and I want to... but I am so young, and big decisions are scary and even with a marriage certificate it takes 2 years till he's allowed in the country. SO in the mean time I'll have to move with him to some other country or his own (Zimbabwe - where there is no work).
I dont think I'm ready to get married, to move countries, to uproot my career here (I have my first job now). Its all been so far in the future, something we'll do when we feel we are ready.. But we cant wait too long and lose each other...
Im scared he proposes and I say I have to think about it (cause me doubting it will hurt him). Because its so much more complicated than just saying yes cause I love you. Isnt it?
I want things to just stay the way they are for now. (link)
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You are absolutely right, I think it is much more complicated than just saying yes because you love each other. If you don't feel your're ready don't force it. Everything happens for a reason. Maybe you will find another solution. Best of luck.
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21/f, 27/m
I have been dating this guy for about two months. He used to say "good morning" and "good night :-*" all the time. And he used to text me at least by 3 PM everyday. Last week, I noticed that things started changing. He stopped saying good morning and good night. He doesn't text me unless I text him first... And his texts are becoming short. When we see each other, he still kisses me, holds my hand, etc.
He recently went on vacation to LA and he texted me that he just got to his hotel and that he wished that I was there. After that, he didn't really say anything after that. He hasn't texted me at all. My friend told me that if it was him, he wouldn't be texting on vacation and I should wait until he gets back.
I have confronted him about what's been going on if asked if there was something wrong. He denies it all... He says that everything is fine and great. I'm having trouble trusting him. I'm not sure if he's found someone else or is interested in someone else but just isn't telling me. Or if I'm just thinking too much into it.
What do you think? (link)
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Maybe stop texting him if your sure it's because you know theirs something wrong. when he gets back confront him, and if he writes to you what's wrong say something like i've been feeling kind of distant from you lately by text and didn't want to bother you, though how's vacation so far? keep things positive though honest and try not to sound like your blaming him or it would create tension.
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Okay, so here it is. I have a crush on this guy since I graduated from highschool and I'm in college now, so that's like, two years. The crazy thing is he does not have any idea I have a crush on him. We haven't even exchanged few words from each other. I mean, how did I even have a crush on him? Anyway, I still stalk him on Facebook. I know, I'm such a creep. I want to somehow let him know, you know, about how I feel. I am planning of sending him a message on Facebook. But, I don't know. Should I send him or should I not? I really need an advice. Please.
I am 18 and I'm female. (link)
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I think that you should talk to him in person if you go to the same college, like a quick flirty smile in the halls or a hey. If your in the same classes then you could even ask him on facebook about homework. Just remember to always be relaxed, and confident in who you are! :) If your not in the same school then if you message him, message him when he is online of course, and message him only once. If he doesn't reply unless it's a good reason, then don't message again. if he takes a long time to message you back, take that time and divide it by two to write back.
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im 13 and ive been going out with my boyfriend for 7 months and i love him but ive also liked 1 of my guy friends for a while and my boyfriend even said our relationship is getting boring and ive relized that my guy friend likes me to but i dont know who to choose (link)
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I'd say, that if your boyfriend says that the relationship is getting boring in a harsh way, then drop him because that is not very nice. And go for your guy friend if you think things will work out, because if you really loved the first guy, you wouldnt be considering the second guy :)
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