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i want to suprise my guy with something.


cause i already took him in a elevator, and he enjoyed that:)
anyone know anything else? i'm out of ideas, even tho it was only one special thing i did!


helppp!

I'm guessing by "I want to surprise my guy with something" you mean sex? There are plenty of things you can do to surprise him that don't involve risk of arrest for indecent exposure or public lewdness.

You could buy some sexy lingerie and a long trench coat. Put on the lingerie, cover with the trench coat, and show up at his place.

You two could role play. For example, you the naughty secretary and him the stern boss.

Or perhaps a bubble bath for two followed by massages by candlelight.

You could rent an adult movie, watch it together, and recreate a scene you both liked.

Those are just a few ideas, but hopefully it gets the creative juices going for you.

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My parents are divorced, but still have the same ideas on alot of stuff. I am white. I have blonde hair and blue eyes. My parents both say that i can not like(have a crush on), date, or marry anyone who is Black, "Mexican"(I tell them all the time "HISPANIC"), Chinese, or Mixed. The thing is, I like ALOT of people! About half of which are not white. Its not because I like other colors, I just happen to like these people. my parents say they will disown me if i ever marry someone not white. The boy I am crazy about is Hispanic. I have a lot of different colored friends. So racism realy offends me. But whenever i mention this, they get mad. What can I do!

While I agree with the others that unfortunately you are stuck with them until you're able to move out and support yourself it is awful that you have to go through this. Don't rock the boat. Avoid conversations about race/ethnicity and do your best to not let the negative comments of your parents get under your skin. You don't mention how old you are, but you won't be stuck there forever and once you leave you never have to go back if you don't want to.

So what else can you do in the meantime? Stay busy. Start playing a sport, join a club, get a part time job, or whatever else sparks your interest to keep you out of the house. Become the busiest, overachieving kid you possibly can if it means not having to be at home and surrounded by such negativity. Also try not to subject your friends or crushes to your parents. Your parents certainly can't stop you from socializing with others, but don't bring them to the house. When you're stuck with your parents during one of their negative rants excuse yourself from the room. You have homework, want to read, practice your instrument, or whatever it is that you can use as a valid excuse for not sitting there with them.

I know its hard, but you'll get through this.

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ok so i've(im 20) had a crush(he is 20) on this guy for 7 years and i just told him recently how i feel . we talk all the time at least once a day. but the prob. is his best friend(is 19) whom i have no interest in what so ever has a huge crush on me its to the point of obsession and the guy i like used to date my little sister. he is the same age as me though, he just think it be weird to be with me after dating my sister and i also believe he dont wanna hurt his friend's feelings. up till three days ago i thought we were just friends thats it but then he started say he wanted to " Sleep with me" i accidently sent the message to his friend, who says he is just messing with me. but he confroted his frend(my crush) online last nite and i was talking to my crush at the time and he(my crush) said that his friend was asking why he(my crush) was hitting on me . my crush im'd me saying that he could get himself out of trouble with his friend. he told me what he told his friend he said that he was using reverse psychology on me then laugh about it with me. i said twice well he(my crushes friend) dont have anything to worry about its not like u have feelings for me right? and he said he knows what im capable of and he likes u. WHAT SHOULD I DO ? DOES HE LIKE ME OR IS HE JUST MESSING WITH ME? PLZ HELP

ok so im going to see my crush tomorrow at the football game, only prob. he is coming there with his ex gf and i just found out they watched tv together today.but he says that she was sending him mixed signals. so question one should i even bother going to the game? if i go should i just ignore him? or should i steal his attention? and what should i do to be unforgetable? how should i dress,act,etc? man im confused

First I'm sorry that I didn't get your message sooner and hopefully nothing horrible has happened between now and then.

Let me see if I understand this. Your crush used to date your sister. Your crushes best friend likes you. Your crush won't go out with you because it'd be weird due to having dated your sister. Your crush is also sending mixed signals to his ex gf who is not your sister. Am I up to speed?

Assuming I understand you correctly this is what I call a high drama situation and you don't need it. Mature guys don't mess with your head saying they'll sleep with you, but won't date you and they certainly don't send mixed signals to ex gf's. You don't need to waste your time or energy on your crush, he isn't seriously interested but probably wants to keep you around as a plan b. Plan b is not good. That means you aren't good enough to be plan a, number 1, the top slot, his girlfriend. You deserve to be someones number 1.

Secondly, your crush used to date your sister! The unwritten dating code says thou shalt not date thy sisters ex bf! I don't care how much she says she doesn't care, one day she will and you 2 are sisters and have a bond way better than risking over this immature guy.

As for your crushes friend that likes you, be very careful that you are not leading him on. His feelings for you may eventually go away, especially if you don't return them but be certain you don't take advantage of him. Good friends are hard to come by, don't ruin this friendship by being selfish or cruel.

Ok I think I covered everything. If you need any more help let me know.

Good luck!

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My boyfriend and I are moving in together soon. Any tips on how to make it work well? Thanks!

Sit down and discuss how and when the bills will be paid. Are you paying some of the bills and he's paying others? Are you both splitting each bill 50/50? Are you both working and able to afford a fair share of the living costs? Are you both on the lease/rental agreement?

Discuss household chores and purchases. Who will clean what, when, and how often? Who is buying food, when, and how often? Will furniture purchases be made together? Will there be pets?

What about your schedules? Do you have similar work/school schedules or will one of you want to sleep while the other is up and about? Does one of you like to have people over constantly while the other prefers a quieter environment?

Why do you really want to live together? Are you considering getting engaged/married? Are you just trying to save money? Do you simply spend lots of time together already and it just makes sense? Are other people saying you should move in together?

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My boyfriend is very close minded. He is totally against drinking, smoking, drugs, dying your hair, peircings, tattoos, etc. He freaks out when I say I want to do any of these things, especially without him. What can I do to make him more open minded?

Well lets see here. Drinking, smoking, and using drugs are not good for you and your boyfriend is not close minded for not wanting you or anyone else to do those things. He is simply concerned for the health and well being of those he cares about, including himself. Tattoos and piercings can be safe if done by a professionally trained person following all of the appropriate safety and sanitation guidelines. Otherwise there is a risk of infection and worse damage. Dying your hair probably has the least risk and a professionally trained stylist will do a test patch to make sure you don't have an allergy to any of the chemicals.

Could it be that your boyfriend doesn't want you to alter your appearance with tattoos, piercings, or colored hair because he loves your appearance just the way it is? Perhaps you should be asking yourself WHY you not only want to drastically alter your appearance, but WHY you want to fill your body with harmful substances such as drugs, smoke, and alcohol. It could also be helpful to speak with a counselor about this as well since something else may be going on that you wish to cover up. Covering things up never fixes the problem, it just makes it worse.

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now see it this boy i really like that talks to my cousin but she's a 304 everybody wants her he know i like him but theres a rumor going around saying she wants to fight me over him n i no i got hand my hand are like a roller coaster they dont stop until the rides over n if i got a ticket they one go for a second round.....


ps.she cant fight n-e-way

No boy is ever worth fighting over. Period. Furthermore, do either of you have any idea how the boy feels? He may end up not liking either of you and you two will feel pretty stupid for having gotten in a fist fight. Both of you need to put your fists away, enjoy the close bond you share as cousins, and forget all about this boy.

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