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okay so i'm 16 and i have never been on a date or even kissed a guy for that matter. it makes me kinda sad because there are freshman who have already had like 3 boyfriends in one year. and i know i shouldn't compare myself to them but it makes me feel like there more mature when i know that there not.
anyways! is this weird that i haven't done anything and i'm already 16?
no its definately not weird at all! i'm almost 17, and i just had my first kiss a couple of weeks ago. and i know what you mean, its like people in middle school have probably done more than me, but don't let it phase you at all.
Ok. I'm in my early 30's. I'm a single father. My mother is recently widowed. I own and operate a multi-location company. I also manage a handful of celebrity clients as well. So I guess you could say I have alot on my plate. Given I'm an earner alot of people outside of myself call on me for financial support. I'm in a different city everyweek and I spend my days working in my offices and my nights at the studio or scheduled functions with my clients. Recently the woman I love and wish to spend my life with came her for advice on our relationship and to my dismay perfect strangers who have met me have passed judgement on me. Allow me to explain. I met this woman about 4 years ago and at that time I was knee deep in work as usual and I was coming out of failing relationship but for some reason God decided to bring this woman my way. She's beautiful, sexy, smart, determined, loving, caring and did I mention beautiful? Nevertheless we met and instantly hit it off. I actually felt so comfortable with her that I took my daughter along with me on our first date. To me I had nothing to hide and I wanted her to know exactly who I am. My breakup drug on...like some relationships do and I found myself in the middle of a love triangle. On top of that I had infidelity issues. Yes I said it. I'm not here to lie to you. She also had her friends too. So the poor you is not what it seems. Most importantly the first love of her life seem to always be a compared me and I didnt seem to measure up to him. She loved to party. Party all the time til I had to ask her to slow down. On top of that she ran with a crew of serial seducing ladies who had relationships with some of my friends and clients. We had fun. Alot fun. So to me it was what it was. We loved hanging out but we never talked of the future. Anyways enough about that. The other relationship is finally over. It has been for awhile. I'm not saying it was right or wrong but I am being honest. My biggest problem is people tend to comment on the very same thing that they themselves have been through. Life's not a scripted journey. Every chapter is different. Moving on. Did I mention I run with entertainers and athletes? So that means woman are throwing themselves at you from every angle and because of this I find myself in some sticky situations to say the least. I've learned that I love her. That came to me like a dead weight dropped on my head. I love her deeply. The problem is she cant let go of the past and I cant change the past. If I could I would in a heartbeat because I'm ready to move on with my life. My mother and father were married 54 years when my father died so I tend to think that theyre relationship was a successful one. So thats who I look to for advice and what I found is that even my father had his ways. No ones perfect. But for everyone to say "Once a cheater always a cheater" is not fair. Love doesnt give you a heads up and most men dont get it til its too late. I've since then changed my ways. I stay out the club. I only go out with her. I keep the female traffic off my phone. Basically I'm at a place where I just want to be with her. However, since I'm really busy she takes that as cheating and I dont think thats fair. For example she may call me or text me and I'll respond clearly that I'm in a production meeting or with an attorney or maybe even in rehearsal for a show. Once I say that she begins to ask me a series of questions that I cant answer at the time since our atty is $425.00 an hour. But then she goes into a tantrum and turns me and evil towards me and I just dont think thats fair. I dont deal with any other women. She hasnt heard about me being around any women for quite some time now but she still wont let the past be the past and I love her. Deeply. We both discussed counseling but my issue was I felt that we should pay 50/50 so we both have vested interest in the sessions but that never happen. Normally when she tells her side and they get around to my side people come to a split decision for lack of better words. Now with the response from this site coupled with the past against my fight she's decided to leave me? Are you guys happy now? I mean you've never met me. Dont know my struggle. Most of you sound like you've had your own struggle with the opposite sex. What makes you an expert? I love her. Now she's gone away from me and I dont know what to do about it. I am not cheating on her. I asked her to take the next step and move in together and/or get married. I have no problem with committment to her. I admit. I was wrong in the beginning. But thats not where we are now. I've stepped up and changed my ways. I'm not the evil person she lead you out to believe. I want her back. I miss her. I need her to understand that I've grown. My life has changed. Yes people do make changes. They dont change completely but people make changes. Have you never made a mistake or had a regret on an something you did? I ask you. Is my relationship salvagable? Is their way for her to see that I'm here for her? I would never hurt her again. She mean to much to me. Can you help me? Thanks.
Alllright. Well I may not give the best advice, but I'll try to help as much as I can. I think that the best thing that you can do right now is to talk to her [if you haven't already]. Express your feelings, tell why you are mad and confused, ask her what she wants you to change, and what you have done wrong. And don't give a lame excuse, like 'thats what I was like in the past', because people won't believe it and its truly over-used. And even if you do, then explain yourself. Tell her that you changed just for her, that you rejected people because all you want to do is be with her. Ask her what you can do to prove it to her, and to show her that you are not lying. I know it's hard to believe, but in the end, if she doesn't believe you, then she doesn't trust you enough, and doesn't deserve you in the end. You wouldn't want to live your life in a relationship where your partner is doubting you all of the time, and you wouldn't want to live with that kind of stress.
Tell her that you would never hurt her again, again, that you've changed just for her, or maybe it wasn't just for her, but you noticed that it was just plain wrong [whatever your point of view is, even though its usually better to tell someone that they are right, even if they aren't, because that is what they want to hear].
I'm not even sure if any of this helped. You probably hear the same thing from everyone, but I wish you luck!
My best friend, lets call her... Emily is going out with one of my good guy friends.. lets call him Nigel. Well they have been going out for a few motnhs now and they are really cute. But Nigels best friend is telling him to break up with her because they live 20minutes away so they dont go to the same school. She is really upset and doesnt want him to. He says he isnt but we know that he has been thinking ab0out it. She really wants to stay with him but now hes trying to make her break up with him as well. He says shes just going to regret going out with him because of the distance. She doesnt know what to do. Any ideas? Shes sitting here beside me...
If any guy is going to try to make you break up with him, he's definately not worth it, and you're to good for him. If someone says that you are going to regret going out with him, he's definately not worth it.
In my opinion, you sound too good for him.
I'm 14/M there is this smokin hot girl on my soccer team. I'm the golie for my team. I'm pretty shure she likes me too. How do I flirt with her in practise? She is dating another guy, not going out with him but dating. How do I flirt with her, and in the proses get her to like me?
Well, my advice is accually not to show boat too much. Well, i guess do, but don't be too cocky about it. I remember at soccer i always found it really annoying when guys tried to show boat. I guess pass the ball to her alot, joke around, stand next to her during half time and everything. The tickling idea is really good. I find being really funny is the best thing you can do. Never put her down, but if you do as a joke, don't take it too far. Make sure you are always happy around her and just make sure you have fun. Good luck!
I am 15 and my boyfriend is 16 and soon to be 17. We do sexual things but sex has been one of the subjects we have been talking about. He said he would wait until I'm ready and I just don't know when that will be. At times I feel like I am ready but then I just can't because I'm scared. I think I'm too young but all my friends have started doing it. I'm just in an awkward position. My mom makes comments like she'll kill me if i ever did and that scares me. My mom lost her virginity supposedly at the age of 17... I don't know if my hormones can wait untill then. I just don't know what to do.
My best advice is to just to what you are comfortable with. Don't push yourself to do anything, just because someone else wants you to. If you feel scared, then don't do it. Honestly, you have your whole life ahead of you, and you're really young, so take your time.
Well me and my boyfriend have been going out for awhile now. We are both in the 9th grade and he is best friends with my brother. Well he gave me my first kiss and we always kiss but its only pop kissing. I want to make out with him but im too shy. i have never done it in my life and im very nervous. I dont know how to do it or if im bad. I know he wants to do it because he even said it but he knows im shy so hes not going to force me. But i dont want to make him wait and we know we both want it. So what should i do?
Your help is very apreciated..thanks!
My advice is to maybe go to the movies, and see a cute movie. It might sound corny, but maybe when there is a kissing scene in the movie, look at him and maybe just like kiss him on the cheek or something, and maybe something might happen out of that. Hope this helps.
So theres this guy i like and a little while ago we were talking lots and hanging out at school and stuff...things looked like they were going well. but this past week we only talked a little bit in our foods class...and then i see him with my friend and they are flirting lots...shes the type that will flirt with a lot of guys and theyll all fall for her. i know in the end, if something happens with them, hell end up getting hurt. she knew i liked him too... i'm not sure what to do.. ive never had a boyfriend and im not sure how to "play" these kinds of things. i like him and want to talk to him more and we have lots in common.. what should i do?
15/f
My advice is just to keep talking to him, and flirt with him as much as you can. Maybe in some conversations, you can use an excuse to give him your phone number or screen name. If you already have his screen name, talk to him on that, too. Maybe start talking about a movie that you really want to see, or maybe go with a group of friends to the movies, and then ask him to come, and make sure you sit next to him.
Hi,
Well theirs this girl in my school named Rachel and she's really hot! She and I are becoming best friends and share the same interest. Everybody in school says I should ask her out for the coming back to school dance but Im to nervouse that when i ask her out she'll won't feel the same way. I try flirting with her but she really doesn't seem to notice. What can I do to get her to go with the dance with me and tell if she likes me back before I ask her. Thanks for the advice.
Honestly, I would just tell her how you feel. Probably like most girls, I would absolutely love for a guy to tell me how he feels. Be confident in yourself and just ask her.
There's this guy in the year below me, lets call him M, that I saw when I went to this party in June. I noticed he looked at me a few times when I was there, but only as much as he looked at other girls. We had to play this game that involved girls landing on guys, me and my friend landed on M and his friend, lets call him A, my friend was nearest to M and I was nearest to A. The next time we played it my mate landed on A and I landed on M. A said to M 'damn, you got her and I only got her friend'.
About a week after the party I was chatting to A on msn, and he said he thought I was really fit, and so did his mate M. My friend L also told me that M had told her to tell me he thought I was fit.
At school the next day I was in my ICT class and M was waiting outside to go into his class. He saw me through the window in the door of my class and made eye contact with me for what seemed like ages.
I saw M once during the summer holidays but he didnt seem to notice me. Then 2 weeks ago I went to this party and he was there. At the beginning, M and his mates were all staring at me and my friends. When we were dancing to the cha cha slide he stood infront of me so that whenever we had to move forwad we were really close. Then his mates, S and J came over and said that they were a gay couple and me and my mates were talking to them and M came and stood next to S and J and just stood there smiling for ages and then danced with us for, like, 5 seconds before going off. The problem is, M didnt talked to me and seemed to have a couple of girls wrapped around him most of the time.
At school whenever I'm in the lunch hall at the same time as M he stares at me for a while. Once I went and talked to someone sitting at his table then when I glanced over at M he quickly looked away.
Do you think M fancies me or not?
Well, It seems to me that he absolutely does.