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should i give up?
So theres this guy i like and a little while ago we were talking lots and hanging out at school and stuff...things looked like they were going well. but this past week we only talked a little bit in our foods class...and then i see him with my friend and they are flirting lots...shes the type that will flirt with a lot of guys and theyll all fall for her. i know in the end, if something happens with them, hell end up getting hurt. she knew i liked him too... i'm not sure what to do.. ive never had a boyfriend and im not sure how to "play" these kinds of things. i like him and want to talk to him more and we have lots in common.. what should i do?
15/f
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Keep talking with him, but keep your options open. If he thinks you are just focused on him and too easy to get, he make take that for granted. Sometimes a guy needs to see that you can get other guys' attention, too! You don't need to play games beyond that, but having your options open will always be good. Don't worry about him getting "hurt," because if he goes for her, he will know the risks and decide if it is worth it. Think about your own feelings and consider how much you want to risk being vested in just this guy. Don't give up on him, but don't get freaked out when he is enjoying being flirted with. Any guy would dig that, because it is a ego thing, not an emotional connection.
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Dont worry. From what I see, you are already having an edge over your friend; cos you and that guy have lots in common.
Continue talking to him. I'm very sure that if you're comfortable around him, he's definitely be comfortable around you too. Just do what you normally do. Talk to him more, get to know him more, talk bout personal stuff without being too intrusive.
If they wanna flirt, let them flirt. If he wanna fall for her, let him fall for her. You can't control his feelings. Sometimes people need to be slapped in the face b4 they know someone's true colours.
Don't go and flirt and do stuff which you normally don't do. Let him like you for who you are. Always be there for him if you can. Get to know him more. Show him that you really care for him. He's probably spending trashy time with your fren by flirting with her so you should spend more quality time with him. Have lunch with him. Walk home with him, etc.
Take it easy; enjoy his company while you're with him and he'll totally enjoy being around you.
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My advice is just to keep talking to him, and flirt with him as much as you can. Maybe in some conversations, you can use an excuse to give him your phone number or screen name. If you already have his screen name, talk to him on that, too. Maybe start talking about a movie that you really want to see, or maybe go with a group of friends to the movies, and then ask him to come, and make sure you sit next to him.
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