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Q: I meet this guy at my best friends school dance. We danced and talked, and he seemed pretty cool so i gave him my number. Well a day later he texted me on my phone to say hi and to just see what i was doin that night. We haven't actually talked on the phone yet, but it has only been 3 days since i met him. Should i call him, or wait to see if he calls me?

And if i do call, what should i say???????

wait 2 c if he calls u cuz u don't wanna sound desperate. hehe *STEPHANIE*

Q: hey girl cute site. anyway i like this guy kevin. he used to like me .. almost 2 years ago. hes 2 years older then me. but yeah wen i was in 6th .. he was in 8th .. and all my friends were like OMG KEVIN LIKES U HE ALWAYS TALKS ABOUT U n blah blah n i used to be very very shy so i wood just get embarassed n not even look at him cuz he scared me i mean he was so much taller then me n yeah i jus thot it was plain weird! but anyways..1 day before feb. break (wen i was still in 6th n he was still in 8th) he actually came over n talked to me n i jus blew him off .. then wen we got back frum vacation .. it was fine n we never talked or anything .. then like me, him, and this gurl lisa in my grade who i didnt really kno at the time wood fight .. like all 3 of us wood fight online n not talk at skool. but anyways then like the summer b4 7th grade .. lisa n kevin started going out .. n me n lisa started talking n now shes my best friend. and me n kevin are close too. like we will talk sumtimes but now im in 8th n hes in 10th so we dont see each other unless its like skool functions or something. n my friends r like HE STILL LIKES U!! n all that stuff .. n theyve been going out over a yr now but they fight all the time n kevin like will always use me against lisa .. like saying .. FINE THEN I'LL GO TALK TO ANDREA (me) .. n stuff like that .. n wenever we do see each other he always goes out of his way to say hi to me n he'll always stand next to me or something even wen lisa is right there. shes kinda prude .. she doesnt even want him to look at her let alone touch her wen other ppl are around n they didnt kiss till like 5 monthes into their relationship.. n now i have a huge crush on him n lisa has no idea n he doesnt either. all my friends r just like .. hes only with her cusz he thinks he cant get u but idk .. im like in love with him now n it sucksz .. i will see him in october at this skool thing .. n ppl think i shood tell him but i dont wanna risk our friendship .. n he tells lisa everything .. idk wut to do n i reaaaaaaaaaaaly like him =( HELP!

if he still likes u and u like him y don't u try things out wit him and u will b happy so just try things out and if they don't work then hopefully yall will still b friends just try thing out is what i would do *hope i helped, feel free 2 ask me nething else* *STEPHANIE*

Q: im gay. litteraly... and its really hard bc in my grade everones life revolves around girls...and i dont want to tell them because i know they wont b my friends anymore...help? (btw im telling u vcuz u dont know who i am)

Hmmmmm if u r really good friends and can tell them nething mayb u should just tell them and if they don't except it then they weren't that good of a friend 2 start out wit cuz they should like u for who u r, and if they don't except u for who u r then u should find other friends that will except u cuz u don't want 2 put urself in situation u don't wanna b in so i think they best thing 2 do is 2 just tell them that u r gay and c what they say cuz if they don't wanna b friends wit u nemore then they aren't worth ur time. * i hope i helped if u have neother ?'s feel free 2 ask i will answer nething and if that didn't help give me some more details and i will try again* *please rate me* *STEPHANIE* *X*O*X*O*

Q: just because i gave my two year boyfriend a bj as an anivvery preasent....does that make me a slut cuz sum how it got out to the girls and im getting alot of crap about it...what do u think?

idk y they would consider u a slut u have been goin out wit him for 2 years what do they expect u 2 not ever do nething 2 him? and if he liked it and he didn't want nething else for then, then y listen 2 them u r not a slut and he is all that matters so if u like him enough then forget about what thos gurl say and do whatever u want wit him and if they have something else 2 say just forget it cuz if u 2 were ready 2 do it then u aren't a slut and just ask them y they think u r a slut and what makes ppl look like a slut in there eyes cuz i know in mine and i lot of other ppl if u have been wit someone for that long and that is what u wanted 2 do with them then they shouldn't consider u a slut cuz that is normal and if they wanna call someone a slut i bet they can find someone that has gone all the way wit someone and they hadn't been datin for as long as u. just don't listen 2 them and forget them *i hope i helped and if there is nething i else i can help u wit just ask * please rate* STEPHANIE* *X*O*X*O*

Q: I find myself really attracted to gay guys. They are very cute and a lot of them are so sweet! And they're funny and fun to be around! Is this abnormal? Since they are feminine, does this make me not straight? Can someone please help me??!!?!

i think it is normal bcuz gay guys can b the best kinda friends 2 have cuz they r so nice and understand u. gay guys r so much fun lol *STEPHANIE*

Q: I'm looking for a guy that woud fit me well but each time i go out with the guys i fing something i hate about them right away...what should i do?

well when u find something bad about them try and find 2 good things about them 2 kinda like cancel the bad one out u know what i mean cuz everyone has a bad thing about them just give a guy i chance and try and look for the good things not the bad one * i am glad 2 answer ne other questions u have *Stephanie* *x*o*x*o*

Q: okay so when me and mah gurls get togetha they always invite their boy-friends but ya c im single and so when we go to a movie or sumthing they all tell me to invite a guy i like. so i say to my self 'i knoe that their all gonna b making out and i don't wanna be the only one not make-out' so i try to think of some guys that would make out with me at the movies and the onle one i can think of are the mayjor playas! and so then we go togetha and i start getting feeling twords him and then like usual the kick ya ta the curb after that day... i like when we make out at the theater but how can i find a guy who still likes to make out but is still genuin and sincere?

just bcuz ur friends r makin out and stuff doesn't mean u have 2 and i know u will feel odd and left out but u won't find a good guy if u make out the first time u go out but if u end up makin out cuz it is the right time or something but just don't try and get a guy for makin out cuz ur friends do cuz then u won't find one that is geniun and sincere *i am glad 2 answer ne other question u have * * STEPHANIE* *X*O*X*O*

Q: Theres this one inparticular guy (16) that i REALLY like a lot. Ive known him for 2 years and we've been great friends and more. ne wayz, he has problems stayin commited and keeping to one girl. Every time we make out i find out from someone else that he has a girlfriend and I feel like Im helping him cheat. my sister says forget about him, but its not that easy. what do i do?

if u really like this guy and want it 2 work. then confront him that u know about the other gurls and since u have been friends for so long he should understand and mayb even tell him u don't wanna make out unless he finds out which gurl he wants and u don't wanna lose him as a friend so just tell him and tell him u don't wanna catch nething and hopefully he will understand and will still b friends hope i helped and i am more then glad 2 answer ne other question u have so just ask *STEPHANIE*

Q: (I'm 14) I've been going out with my bf for awhile, and I always knew that he USED to smoke pot, and stopped like 6 months ago,and sometimes drinks a lot because of family problems...Well about 3 weeks ago he left a voice message saying he wouldn't be able to call because he got grounded because he "got caught doing something...very bad" and wouldn't tell me what it was, well his parents disconnected his phone and I found out yesterday from his friend justin (i had to practically beat it out of him...because he was afraid i'd go off killing my bf or something...) that his parents caught him smoking (which explains why he cant run 2 miles anymore) and that he used to have a big stash of cigs in his room, but that he quit after his parents caught him...then he asked if i was gonna break up with him, i said "i have no idea" And i haven't talked to him because he's grounded, and as selfish as it is, it pisses me off..

I dunno what to do, should I break up with him or not? I know all my friends will say I should, because I'm in the "good" group of friends, a lot of them go to church and have very strong beliefs and have never done any of that stuff,(we live in a small town in farmersville u.s.a so that stuff is a big deal) I'm in with them...but barely (my family is screwed up) it's like i'm teetering on the edge of good and bad...and i always fall for the messed up guys, and I know my bf is messed up..but i love him, and I don't know...he's never pressured me or ANYTHING, he's not like that, but I know dating someone with that many problems isn't good and will lead to problems, because drugs and alcoholism run in MY family too..but no matter what he does i can't hate him

Any advice would be lovely, and I rate =)

if he lied 2 u about still smokin then u should break up wit him cuz he might or may b liein about something else. or if u really feel something strong for him give him one more chance and talk 2 him and tell him if u find out he is still doin it again that u would break up wit him bcuz if he is still gona b doin even after being caught then he isn't worth it. and some how try and get his friends 2 talk 2 him about it 2 bcuz the more that talk 2 him about it the more he will think that it really isn't a good idea and he might stop finally. but some ppl really have problems wit addictions so just b there for him so he has someone 2 talk 2 about it and will know he doesn't have 2 resort 2 smokin 2 make him feel better he could talk 2 u or one of his other friends. hope i helped i am more then glad 2 answer ne other questions u have *STEPHANIE*

Q: ok my best friend and i are friends with benefits and for a while it's been working out but now i'm hugely late on my period and i don't know if it's stress or not. if i am pregnant i can't get am abortion because my best friend will never talk to me again, but i'm not sure that i'm ready to be a mother. what should i do??

it may b stress but just get a pregnancy test 2 make sure and i hope things work out wit u and i don't think abortions r right so i would say don't get one hehe i hope i helped u can ask me ne ? netime u need *STEPHANIE* :)

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hey everyone even tho i am only 17 I have been and gone through alot so I might be able to relate to your problems or atleast i can try my hardest to help you. So feel free to ask me any questions you might have or IM me if u want thanks *STEPHANIE* *x*o*x*o*