My name is sarah im 13 and have 2bothers and 4sisters 3 are older than me so I know what its like to be 19, 16 and 14. Lets face it I have probally have ben through alot! so you can trust me to give great advice.I have benn through alot of hard times in my life that alot of people might have I know im very blessed and some people might think im really lucky and others might not think the same way. I can help anyone with tenn crushes, sports , school and other things. You name it I can help you dont be shy to tell me embarrisng things that might of happend to you I can help you fix them. Im not saying everything I say is going to perfect Im just giving you the best advice I can and if you want to say something mean to me I dont care just be perpared that im going to say something back I respect everything you say so just go out and say it. I stick to my word no matter what so if I say that I was going to give anyone a 5 than I will even if you say somthing men or lets face it really bad advice. I dont mean to hurt your feelings I just saying the facts.
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13/m. I have a sister who is 14. Where we live, stuff happens slowly. It's not like in NYC where everyone loses their virginity at, like 13. My sister finally got her first boyfriend. I'm not too worried about that. But, they're taking everything too fast: one week, they're dating. Another week, they're holding hands. This may not seem like much to you, but where I live it is. And now yesterday---they've been together 2 months, tops---they both had their first kiss.
I've been trying to get more info, but she's really private about this. I asked her if it was just a peck or if she made out, and she said that it was about 5 seconds. Is that long for a first kiss? And I asked her when, and she showed me a ring that she got from him. Unfortunately, I suck at taking hints, so I still don't get it.
She doesn't want to tell anyone about anything that happens. My other sister and my parents are still completely unaware that they've done so much as hold hands, and she doubts she'll tell them about kissing any time soon.
So, I was just wondering, is this too fast, am I worrying too much, will she be turning into a sex-obsessed slut any time soon, and how can I get her to communicate more? "Why do you need to know?" she asks. Well, I intend on getting a girlfriend this year, and I'm gonna have to learn somehow, right? No smartass answers. Thanks! =) (link)
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looks like you ae a really caring brother, anyway the ring if it was a diomand then she was telling you that they were going to get married someday or that she is saying that they are doing more than kissing if you know what I mean,and if your sister goes out with different guys a week that would make her a slut if she is going around and fooling around with them that is, and it depend on how old she is if she is over 16 she is probally most likely having sex with the guy if they are going fast or if she is younger than that then she is probally not. I dont mean for you to do this but if she has a diary then read that, and see what she wrote in it about her boyfriend you will know everything.
I hoped i helped good luck!
sarah
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Ok I have been going out with my girlfriend for a little over a month. a couple days ago i was hanging out with one of my female friends and she pretty randomly kissed me. i pushed her off of me almost imediately, and we talked about it afterwards and were ok with it now and are still friends. here is where it gets a little more complicated. this is a girl that i used to have very deep feelinfs for. i wouldnt quite call it love, but it was close. i never told her, because she was for various reasons unavailable and i got over her. then i met my current gf and fell for her. now my gf knows that i used to like this girl, and she was ok with me being friends with her. now my worry is if i tell her what happened shell be uncomfortable. i know she would never try and forbid me from handing out with her, because she is one of my best friends, but i know it would make her feel uncomfortable. now because of an age difference (my gf is a little older than me and my friend is a bit younger) they will most likely never meet on their own so my gf would probably never find out. so my question is, should i tell her? (link)
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If I were you I would tell her and that would tell her that you can be trusted and she will love that.
Hope I helped!
sarah
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ok i am signed up for advicenator but i never thought that id need advice myself theres this girl and everytime i see her my stomach feels really weird and i feel like i want to be around her for a long time and i try to pick my words carfully but they allways come out wrong, i might as well be saying hoopiewatlenslurgin? wat the heck is wrong? im confused!!!!!!!!! (link)
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looks like you really like her you should just looten up dont get nervous just say hi and then soon you will get used to talking strait and wont be so nervous anymore.
good luck !
sarah
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my girlfriend keeps asking me why i love her. and i want to give her more reasons then 4 so can someone give me some reasons ty. (link)
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tell her how pretty she looks in her outfit.
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Im in the 7th grade. && I like this 8th grade boy. I see him 3 times a day He doesnt even know me AT ALL. I know him beacause i looked him up in the year book, hehe. And see i cant have enough to really talk with him, beacause i only see him in the halls and we have 5 mins to get to class and all my classes are really far apart to im usally always late. How can i get this boy to notice me & like me as much i like him. (link)
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when you pass the halls and you see him and if he isnt talking to anyone and he is just walking walk into him and drop your books and his books say sorry and smile and laugh. then later smile at him every time you walk by
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I'm sixteen years old, I finally have a boyfriend. lol. We've been together for two & a half weeks. My mom doesn't know about him yet. He & two best friends keep telling me to tell my mom, but I don't know how to come out and just say it. She used to not want me to have a boyfriend a few years ago. I think she might have changed her mind about that but I'm not sure. I want to tell her soon though so I don't have people telling me to do it. So, does anyone have ideas about what I could say or do? I was thinking about writing her an email. Thanks. :) (link)
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you should just go tho the mall with her and have "quality time" with her and just go out and tell her I m sure she wont mind.
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I honestly don't think I like my boyfriend anymore. He's wayy too protective, and he'll always say the stupidest things. I just woke up this morning & I really don't like him as much as I used to. Should I ignore this feeling, and maybe it'll go away? Or, do you think you shouldn't have negative feelings about your relationship when you're dating someone? + I'm NOT Pmsing. (: lol Thanks. (link)
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i think your spending to much time with him that your not so interested in him anymore so you should spend less time with for a while and then go and talk with him.
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Okay, so obviously by this title you know I'm a girl.
Well, I think I'm starting to have my first crush on another girl and I feel so weird because... well, she's a girl. (If that makes any sense).
What I mean by that is that I feel uncomfortable thinking I like a girl.
Is that so wrong?
Let me explain my feelings about her.
When I'm around her, I feel totally comfortable (sometimes I'll start to worry about how I look, because she's so gorgeous, but... that may exactly be it; I worry about my appearence because she's beautiful and maybe I'm just jealous) When I'm around her, I'm incredibly happy. When I haven't seen her in days I get sad and I miss her when I think about her.
This could just be a big mis-interpretation. Maybe I just admire her and love her as a friend and nothing more.
There are times when I think I don't like her, but then later I'll start thinking "WTF? Who are you kidding? You DO like her" and so on, until the point where I start denying it again, and... I'm just really, really confused... and I don't like any of this bi-thing (yes, I AM into guys, so yeah) at all...
What do I do? Any advice given will be much appreciated.
Thank you.
- jenixx (link)
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well if your over 16 already then you pretty much know if your into guys or girls and if your not well its probally b/c you think you cant be as pretty as her and want to make her jelous and if no that then your bi or gay sorry to break it down to you kike that but its true.
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wow guys, im madly in love. theres this boy at my school this year and the second i saw him i was in love.. i just dunno what to do! like at this activity night thing we had at school.. all i was thinking was "wheres robby.. is he here?" and my friends were like whats up with you?? the problem is he would never ever ever like me. he is in my math class and he jokes around with girls and stuff but he acts like if he even said something to me it would be embarrsesing to be seen talking to me! well i admit once when he made a joke (not talking to me) i giggled and he looked at me and said something else funny. oh wow he acknolwedged me once. ok back to activity nioght... i finally saw him, and he saaw me but he didnt say anything he looked away...my heart broke all i wanted to do was say "hey robby" and smile but you know.. hes one of those "tough guys" who doesnt do that kind of stuff in front of everyone.. hes so funny though!!!! oh yeah by the way he has a gf but you know its one of those relationships that last like a 2 or 3 weeks. they dont even talk to each othher. HOW CAN I FIND OUT WHAT HE FEEL ABOUT ME OR HOW CAN I TELL HIM!!!!!!!!!!!! (link)
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well there is online like AIM or tell a friend and ask them if you would ask him if he liked you or how you like him and im not saying your a geek but i have glasses and i really look like a geek and if you have glasses take them off see what you look kike without them and if you like wht you see get contacts like i did it works trust me and if you never wore makeup put on a lilttle like eyeliner and macarea and lipgloss not ahole lot but like cleare one and no lipstick and dont where your hair up just looks like you didnt fell like lokking pretty and dont where sweats all the time you can show a little skin clevage maybe and flurt and smile around the guy you like just like smile and talk dirty I know you might not want to do this but trust me guys like girls who do that and play with them they dont like boring girls who stay home and watvh tv or read books and if he prtends to make fun of you you make fun of him right back but in a funny kind of way not mean and if he says he is still embaresesed to hang around you then you tell him that you are embaressed to be around him and he is over.
hoped i helped and good luck!
P.S write back if it works out all write!
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oh k well..i never kissed a guy before and im in 9th(i know) and like this kid it 11th and he always wants me to go over and i wanna go im just a little nervous cause i dont wanna mess up with him tho.. ya know?
~confuesd (link)
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well its ok that you never kissed a guy im in the 7th grade and still havent kissed a guy so yea im scared too and if he wants you to came over just go over or ask him to go to the movieds dont be nervous it will tske a while untill you get really used to him but it wont take forever you know .
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Ok So here is the deal I sorta like this guy and he defiently likes me right!So I know your like then go out with him but ...........NO! Hes a "gangsta" and thats kinda weird i jist dont like him that way and by the way im not allowed to go out wit anyone but i still go out wit people but mah parents getr suspicious! and anyways i really wanna make out with him but i never have time at school and whenever i see him after school i jist dont like him (i get all jelyish)! Please help Me IM beggin yall!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
P.S. as Fast as u can! (link)
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if you dont like him dont go out with him but when you are allowed to go out woith someone go out with someone your parents will approve first then go out with someone you know your parents wont approve like the person you like now and so your parents ae not all up your but about everything go some where everyone is going to be and you v=can make ou there.
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Me and my bf were out on the town the other night. We met up with some other of our friends. Well my bf left for a couple minutes to pay for our drinks. This other friend of ours who is married came up to me. He said " you are the most beautiful woman I've ever seen". Well I looked at him with my eyes wide and then he said "as a friend", but I know he was seriously attracted to me by the look in his eyes.
I didnt really know what to say. I was flattered but felt guilty because his wife was sitting at another table. I know she couldnt hear and I think he waited on purpose to get me alone.
Now I don't know how to act around this guy. I told my bf and he was really pissed off. I told him not to say anything because i was worried this other guy and his wife might have a fight.
What should i do? (link)
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well the best thing to do is to tell the guy swife you never know he could go out and cheat on her and have a kid if this is happening now they would probally were going to get adivorce any way.
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Is it weird that im in 7th grade and havnt had my first kiss yet?? i mean, so many people in my grade have been kissed. Am im like, a freak or something? (link)
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no your not b/c I am in 7 th grade and havent had mine yet so dont worry !
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I have been dating my boyfriend now for 1year, and our relashionship is just getting worse. First of all, all we do is fight and they aren't just small fights they are HUGE! We always end up breaking up. Second of all, he's VERY controlling picks my friends, checks my phone bills and is VERY jealous! Here is the problem... I have tryed to break up with him, but when i do he gets all emotional and says he doesn't wanna live, that i am the only thing he has ever loved! And that scares me so i always just go right back!Im 21 im not happy at all and wanna move on and get a real life! Can you HELP ME PLEASE?! (link)
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just dump him dont have your life messed up b/c of him.
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Ok well my dad and my mom got a divorce right so my dad started dating this girl with a son to who is divoriced ok her son the second i saw him i new i was in love with him and i m crazy about him already he feels the same way his mom told me and im not going to go out w/ him because thats really wired but besides that i really really like him and id really like to go out but that just be wired because our parents our hooking up. but he is all i can think about what should i DO ILL RATE 5'S FOR ANYTHING!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! (link)
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well if your dad starts going out with her more than a year then you will find out how he really is, NOW TRUST ME ON THIS MY DAD DID THE SAME THING BUT I DIDNT LIKE HER SON so any way he will get to used to you and then all will be forgoton if your dad breaks up with her than you can start going out but remember it will probally be wiered fo the parents. but if they dont break up and you gus start kissing like in the living room or something and they catch you well you will probally get a long disturbing talk. So the rest is up to you. Sorry thats all I could tell you.
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So I (female and 14)absolutely luv this kid (male and 14). He flirts with me all the time. We go skating every Friday together. He kind of plays hard to get (he goes off and skates with other girls every now and then) but when he isn't he's all over me. We don't kiss or whatever, he just tries to grind w/me and he hugs me a lot. I steal his hat and he lets me wear it every now and then. Everyone says he likes me, but I dont know.
So here's the question:
I'm inviting him to my xmas party. Guys and girls in my friends basement. I want to get him something. Not something big or something that's too forward. I just want to know....what should I get him to hint that I want him to be exclusive with me?????
as much advice as possible. rate 5s!!!! (link)
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well if you definatally know he likes you then what you should do is dress up really pretty and sexy alittle bit and bring him in another room alone like halfway during the party DONT TELL ANYONE WHAT YOU ARE GOING TO DO and kiss him and if he kisses bak then start going to the movies and then you have a boyfriend
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Alright, well me and this guy have been having a long-distance relationship and I thought everything was going great, until one day he dumped me and explained to me how," he doesn't deserve me, I deserve the world and how it's what his heart was telling him and the long distance was killing him" and all that stuff, so then after that, he starts going out with a girl who lives even FARTHER ( me and him were a state away, shes two now ) and he says they connect on another level. But he says he still always thinks of me and he still loves me, but his away messages always say that he loves her and all this stuff and it's driving me nuts. I've tried getting him out of my head, I've tried not thinking of him and stop crying. ( I've been crying for two days straight now.. I'm crying right now ) and it just really hurts because this guy is so amazing and I connected with him so well and it just ended suddenly out of nowhere and I'm not used to him not calling me baby and gorgeous angel and everything.. please help... what should I do? (link)
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What you should do is just not talk to him at all take all the fun memories you had with him and stuff it in another box, go out and find another preson even better than him there is always someone better.if not that than go out with some friends for some help and comfort and that will always help you.
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okay so i have liked this guy since last year and we have been really good friends. he is in 8th grade and im a freshmen and he always waits for me before 4th period every day and hugs me everytime he sees me. and so i finally told him and he says that we are too good of friends and he doesnt want to mess anything up but i dont really get it because all the girls he has gone out with have like cheated on him and stuff and he knows i would never be like that and i dont understand why you wouldnt want to go out with your friend.. like would you rather go out with a complete stranger? someone please help idk what to do. (link)
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OK i have kinda of ben in this problem, if I was you I would wait a while and ask him why he wont go out with you? If he doesnt answer you or walks away then maybe he doesnt want to talk to you right mow so keep trying,also tell him how much you like him and if that doesnt work then try to forget about that subject and be best of friends again.
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