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i dont really want to get into things but i want to forget this guy REALLY BADLY! i dont need him, but its really hard to forget & go on...what can i do? he basicly doesnt talk to me anymore after i said i hated him (it was this stupid fight about feelings & shit). what can i do???
please and thankyou

best way to move on is keep yourself busy with things that you enjoy doing. When you're busy doing things that you enjoy...there is little time to mope around and think about him...When you're ready get back into the dating circle...(but don't get into any serious relationships because you'll probably be on the rebound)...look for guys that you can laugh with and just have good clean fun!!! it'll keep your mind off him when you have someone else to be with....surround your self with friends and family....try not to have any down time...don't watch too much tv or sit around your house...get out there and have fun...theres no reason for you to sit around and feel lousy...good luck

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Ok, There is this Boy that I like in My acting Class. and I think he likes me but I'm not sure.
Like I catch him starring at me alot and even when I look at him he is still staring but somtimes then he just looks away. Ok, and we talk alot. And he never arugued with me like he did with the other kids. Ok,
and This time I was smilling at him B/c we had 2 put on costums and I laughed he smiled too, what? he asked I said nothing, and he said what again, and I turned away and walked away laughing and he followed me kept saying what what what? laughing then my friends showd up and said "OMG (his name)!" he annoyed them I only laughed and he was wearing a hat so I pulled it over his face! was that flirting? does he like me? I dont even know what I am asking. so what?

hun...thats definitely flirting....Seems like the kid likes you so keep doing what your doing and just see what happens. good luck

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my boyfriend is really nice and ok looking but his teeth are crooked and pretty yellow. should i tell him or keep going out with him? and when he wants to kiss me i am scared. what should i do?

If it really bothers you, you can help him out indirectly. CREST WHITE STRIPS!!! Buy a box for yourself...tell him that your trying it out and then tell him that he should try them too...maybe you could give him some of yours. its not an offensive way to tell him ...a lot of people use crest white strips..regardless if they have yellow teeth or if they already have white-teeth but they just want to go to the next level and have an amazing hollywood smile!!! good luck

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Hi there im 14 female and i was asked to prom bye this really nice sweet guy..and well ohkay so he bought me a extremly cute crosage and spent like 43$ in pictures and bought me dinner and paid for everything..almost like he was trying to impress me...but we had a wonderful night except we had a few silent shy moments at the dance he told me he was gonna dance with this other girl and he did i was fine with it and then after that he said he had to dance with more and all these girls had boyfriends excep tht e first one..anywyas he ended up danceing with 2 out of 3 and he danced with me the whole time besides that we seemed so in touch although at times he seemed bored or wanting to stop but i never made him do anything..so idk what was wrong with me, he had atrack meet earlier that day so he could have been tired (sorry this is long) anyways theni kissed him after he drove me hom and walked me to my door..i t was really short and stuff it was just a peck..but i really like him and..before prom he used to talk to these two girls he wanted to dance with at prom all the time in math but never talked to me well hardly... i thought that the kiss meant something, i mean it takes two to kiss if he didnt want it he could have pulled away... but he just acted normal talking to the two girls with boyfriends like i wasnt there it really hurt and now im in to deep what do you think is wrong with me or him or yea ahah help please!!

thanks in advance

First, to cut to the point, he doesn't hate you. The fact that he tried so hard to impress you prooves that. But you have to understand that guys don't always..."think" before they do things. He's good friends with those girls...so he danced with them...end of story...it doesn't mean anything. He asked you to prom, he bought you the crosage, he bought you the pictures and he bought you the dinner. Guys don't try that hard if they aren't interested.

Second, maybe you should try telling him how you feel...i knw that your relationship with him is new...and so you probably don't want to sound too demanding or step over any boundaries by brining up an awkward conversation...but it doesn't hurt.

third, nothing is wrong with you :-)!!! It's normal to feel the way you're feeling..we all get a little jealous now and then...my advice to you is to just get over it...he likes you...and him talking to some other girls doesn't change that. If you don't want to confront him about it...next time he does it, get involved with the conversation...make his friends your friends...take a stand and show them that he's yours and yours alone...good luck!!!!!

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14/m,
Theres a girl in my school that i went out with last year only for a short time though. she broke up with me. now im starting to like her again because we have become more close. we talk alot online. i havent told her anything about me liking her and im scared she wouldnt like me. i doubt she would like me. wat do i do to get her to like me and try n hint i like her (without actually saying it) o and i only c her on occasion in skool. like once a day. Thnx

Girls like guys who are confident but not cocky. Just remember, girls aren't confusing, i know b/c i am one, and i really don't understand why guys find it so hard to realize what we really want. The first thing you need to understand is that girls want eye contact. Talking on line is defintely not the same thing as talking in person. The next time you see her in person, charm her with your gorgeous smile. When she talks to you, make sure she knows that your listening and slip in little cute compliments, like "you look nice today"-just don't be too serious, say it in a casual way. you need to approach her in a way that, when she is with you, she feels comfortable to be herself. Remember, women aren't stupid, we know exactly when it is a guy is coming on to us and we can see right through those subtle hints. AFter a couple of "in person" talks, ask her to go out for a movie with a couple of friends or if your shy about asking her directly when its just you and her, try asking when your with the friends you are going with so it looks like your asking the whole group. if she says she can't go, tell her that it won't be the same unless she comes. When you guys eventually do get to the movie, try to isolate yourself and her from the rest of the group and try to talk with her and work your charm. She'll probably realize that you have feelings for her, but thats ok-just be adorable and flirtacious. Don't forget to wear nice cologne- eternity for men is nice-but anything scented would be nice-girls love guys who smell nice. just don't put it on too strong-you only need a subtle tint. The thing is girls love what they can't have- in other words play hard to get and she'll want you in know time. All you have to do is drop hints-make her feel really special but don't seem to available-she'll be after you in no time. i hope i help-if you need any more advice feel free to ask me.good luck.

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ok. theres this boy in my 2nd block class and i have never talked to him before, although i think hes waay hott. sometimes whenever the teacher says something funny or they play some weird music on the bulletin, we always turn around and look at each other and laugh. its like we have known each other for a long time and we're friends...but we have never talked before! The other night I dreamt that he talked to me and the next day he actually did talk to me for the first time! i joined in on the conversation he was having with my friend. he didn't say much to me, because I hadn't said very much, but it was a start. i don't know why though me and him look at each other a lot! and we laugh too! we don't even know each other, hes a complete stranger to me, but when he do that and look n laugh, i feel like i've known him forever! my friends think he likes me...is that even possible? i'm terribly sorry this is soo long! i'll rate VERY good i promise! sorry again!

~ Wondering if there's a "connection" ~

Some people just click, and you two seem to be destined for each other- there is defintely a magnetic connection between you two. The fact that you guys laugh at things together and have the same humor means that you guys are comfortable with each other's company. Now that you have his attention, a little bit of flirting wouldn't hurt- my best guess is you'll get a great response. If you play your cards right, you'll have him in no time. Good luck.

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I had moved to Cancun for like 4 months from aug.- december.. now im back in the states.. I have been with my BF for 11 months and when I was living in mex. in november he cheated on me ( meaning had sex!!) with a girl at our school.. I finally moved back when I found out.. I didnt break up with him or anything because I kind of understood since I was in another country and he didnt know when I was coming back.. he was so sorry and cried to me and told me that im the only girl he wants to be with for the rest of his life.. he also told me that they were drunk and that it was a big mistake.. I asked his best friend about it and he didnt know about it.. he told me that he must have been really ashamed of it because he didnt even tell his bestfriend... I know that if I was going to break up with him or anything like that that its a little too late.. but what can I do.. I already talked to him about it.. its just that everytime I walk by the girl he had sex with I get so disgusted and dont even want to look at my BF.. I sometimes cry because of what he did hurt me so bad..anyone have some advice?

You have every right possible to be mad. i understand that your boyfriend was sorry but sometimes sorry just isn't enough. "SEX" is a big thing- to me its a special bond between two people. The fact that he had sex because he was drunk is completely unexcusable- the fact is-he had sex with another women while he was still with you. I admire your strength and courage during such an awful experience in your life, but you have to understand that you defintely deserve better. He might have said sorry, but you never know if he'll do it again. Trust is something that you earn, and in my eyes, the moment he had sex with that other woman was the same moment he lost "your" trust. I recently told one of my friends to be more careful with the guys she goes out with- they have to respect you. I don't really know wat else to say- i hope i helped but i truly think that this is a decission that you have to make by yourself. Sit down and truly ask yourself if you could handle being with a guy who had technically cheated on you, even if he was sorry. good luck.

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me and my bf like each other ALOT and i always have fun with him... lately he's been acting different in a good way though. like hes been talkin to me everytime he gets he kisses me more often and stuff like that. does this mean he wants to take it to the next level in our relationship? or is does he just like me alot

Kissing you more doesn't necessarily mean that he wants to take your relationship to the next level- but i gotta hand it to you girl- he's hooked. Kissing you is probably his way of telling you that he truly appreciates you and loves you. If "you" are ready, then you should move your relationship a bit further, but don't fall to pressure just because he is giving you more attention. good luck.

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My boyfriend thinks I like all these guys because they like me and it's getting annoying. I think he likes other girls too but he just says some are attractive. How do I get this "thinking" to stop happening? I am a glirt but he is too.

Your boyfriend is just being a bit overprotective-and thats actually a good thing because at least you know that he doesn't want to lose you. Though, make sure he understands that he should trust you, that's what a relationship is all about-TRUST. Its normal to have a boyfriend/girlfriend and think other people are attractive-as long as you stay faithful to the person you're with, its ok.

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ok me and my boyfriend recently broke up..it was really hard because of rumors..anyways theres this guy name bradley and well im starting to like him. hes been holding my hand and stuff and me him and my friend were walkin to gym and i had grabbed his wrist to show him this girl and he slid his hand and we ended up lockin hands and he started rubbing my hand.im so confused because 1.this guy named lets call him joe is supposed to ask me out because he wants a girlfriend 2-because bradley can be known as a player sorta and 3- because i still love my boyfriend.what should i do?

I think that considering you and your boyfriend just broke up, you might be pretty vulnerable and on the rebound. if you still love your boyfriend i would really take a little time off of guys and think about what your going through before you jump into something. If Bradly is a player, even a "sorta" player, don't go for him-you'll just get hurt-look for guys that will respect you. If Joe is just going to ask you out because he wants a girlfriend i wouldn't go out with him- he should ask you because you both mutually like and care about each other.

My best advice-take it slow, you just lost your boyfriend-i think the best thing you can do for yourself right now is take a girls night out with a couple of your closest friends and keep your mind off of guys for just a little bit. Then, when your head is clear you'll know what to do. i hope this advice helps-good luck!

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14/m i kinda like this girl but i don't know if i want to go to go out with her. The reason i don't want to go out with her is that i don't know what my friends will think. I know that sounds bad but i don't know if i can choose her over keeping my reputation with my friends. I think she might ask me out and i don't know what to do. please help.

Where have a heard this scenario before?

If you really like this girl and you guys "click" , i think that you should definetely ask her out. Your friends don't have a right to control your life and they shouldn't have an influence on your decision about this girl. If you are taking your reputation into consideration, your being really unfair to her because then you'd be basically leading her on. Reputation has nothing to do with it...if you like a girl...just go for it!

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Hey im 14and have never had a b/f and i really like this boy at school. But i go to a school where if anything happens everyone will kno in 5 minutes. This kid i like is real popular and im not really. In 6th grade we would hang out alot but now im in 8th and we dont talk that much. I want to tel him i like him but i dont kno if i should. Then if i did everyone in school would kno and i waould be the lauging stock in the school for like someone way more popular than me. I was gonna have my friend tell him for me but i was then having second thoughts. I dont kno what do do please help!!!

If you want to get into a relationship, the one thing to remember is never get a friend to tell a guy that you like him. I've gone through that situation once or twice and it never works out-it actually spreads the word faster than it would if you told him yourself. If you really like this guy, try talking to him and get to know him a little better.When your ready, try flirting. If he flirts back, you'll know that he's interested. Don't rush into relationships-its always better to be friends with the guy first. This rules out "awkwardness" when you start going out.

I know that "popularity" is a pretty big thing, but its not that those oh so cute and hot and fine guys are only reserved for the popular girls. Remember, guys love girls with confidence. (but be confident, not cocky) Kids can be immature in 8th grade-and its true that things might not go the way you want it to go and others will laugh...but i can tell you right now that I'd rather gather my courage and tell my dream guy that i like him than regret not ever making a move. I hope this helps-good luck.

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