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Hey, I'm Anthony. I am a sophmore in high school. I play the accordion, and music is my passion. I also love photography. I'm here mainly because people tell me I give great advice, and sometimes I need a little too. Thanks. Hope I can help you.

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17/f

For about four months I've been going out with a really nice guy. I do somewhat like him, but he likes me a LOT more than I like him. He's really sweet but, to be honest, I'm bored.

Is this a reason to dump him, or should I stick it out and see what happens?

As the other person said, try doing different things with him, keep an open mind about the relationship, and about your feelings for him, they could grow.

But, if you really are unhappy, then you should dump him. You need to do what is best for you, and not for anyone else. It sounds quite selfish, but sometimes we need to just think of ourselves.

Hope I've helped. =)

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15/m

ok i've been on and off about this a couple times i'm not sure if i am in love ok well she's one of my best friends and i think about her A LOT and whenever i see her or talk to her i get butterflies and i dream about her constantly (not wet dreams)lol and when i hear a love song i think about her and sometimes cry so is it true love?

Hi, so I'm also 15/m, and I know exactly what you're saying. Just recently got out of a relationship because of the..problem you are having. We thought we loved each other, but in reality, we didn't love each other, only what we wanted the relationship to be, if that makes any sense. I'm not advising you to get pessimistic about it or anything like that. Just, go slow, you're still young! Don't claim you love her, if you aren't sure.

Test out the relationship, go easy, and see where it takes the two of you. If it works out, it works out, if it doesn't, then it was an experiance for the both of you.

Hope I've helped.

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ANY suugestions or help is appreciated!
Okay.
I KNOW I'm a great kisser. I'm not being vein I'm saying what my ex still says and current bf says. I dont talk to my ex anymore btw lol!
But anyway,
TJ, my bf, is an awesome kisser, so as you can imagine the making out is good for both of us, awesome + awesome=WOW.
But....
I made out with hm for the first time Friday and it was good, even he admitted it.
But....
How can I make it better?
Bear in mind we aren't having sex and won't unless we get married.
TJ is actually one of those 'one and a million, hold on to him if you're lucky enough to find one of those' guys.
What things really turn a guy on when it comes to that, or ANYTHING!
I can be a tease if I want and a VERY superb flirt, so no troubles there.
SO PLEASE HELP!

This is funny, cause i just answered a question like this, but I love when the girl sits on me and makes out w. me. Also, I like when she grabs the back of my head and teases me a little bit, it doesnt have to be sexual. Just go with what you feel is right, and it should work out for you.

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why do a lot guys deal with their problems by partying, sleeping with lots of girls and doing drugs?

You'd be suprised how little of a percent of guys yu are talking about. Yeah, that is what the stereotypical male young adult does, but that's not many.

But, to answer your question, it would be because its an ego-boost to us guys.

Partying and doing drugs: We like to have fun, and we want to lose ourself in our problems. I personally dont do this, but I know some people that do. And it isnt any way to live. I think they do it because they dont know how to deal with anything theyre feeling.

Sleeping with a lot of girls: Well, to me, this is obvious. To a guy, its the biggest ego-boost. Afterwards, they think theyre a "tough guy" and a "man" but they dont know anything. They want to be that "man" because they probably think that as a "man" nothing can bother them, and their problems will just go away.

Guys arent totally insensitive, they do certain things because they just dont know how to deal with what theyre feeling, but sometimes they do stupid things.

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my boyfriend is really annoying and i want to break up with him but im not sure what to say bc i just know that he will probably like start crying or soemthing haha. but i want to do something to make him mad or get in a fight just so it will be easier but im not sure i just need help!

Fighting wont help, and honestly, if he starts crying, then he needs to grow up, and grow a pair. I think you need to just talk to him, and tell him why you're breaking up with him. Just talk to him, its not as hard or difficult as you think.

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15/f

K this guy i know his name's jake and we've been friends for about 2 years but we weren't that close until this semester. I think he likes me cuz everytime we see eachother/say goodbye we hug and he'll always kinda glance at me from across the room.and like the other day he was in mid sentence then just wrap his arms around me out of no where and we hugged. i'm the only girl on his top 12 friends and his friends say that i'm actually the only girl he hugs that much. we flirt alot and i love his personality cuz he was the shoulder i leaned on when i heard my ex cheated on me. We have alot in common too!
i just don't know how to tell him i like him. i'm kinda scared that he might not like me but i'm kinda sure he does by the way he acts.

so how do i tell him and does it seem like he likes me?

thank you =]

It does sound like he like you, to me. But, you want to be sure, so try to hint it to him at first. Be out of the ordinary, instead of hugging him, kiss him? Maybe not a full out kiss, but a kiss on the cheek, or neck? Neck would do it for me. But, your best bet would be just to talk to him, write him a letter, or just ask him casually in conversation. Some guys like to be suprised and swept off their feet, he sounds like he might be that type of guy. Just talk, flirt, and be yourself.

Hope I've helped.

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Okay so...theres this guy I'm interested in, (I'm 14 and he's 15) and we've been talking alot lately, more than a month. We have ALOT in common, and its always easy to talk to him. He said he would like to hang out with me but, I don't really know if he likes me. I heard from someone that he said he likes me but he hasn't told me himself. I don't want to tell him I like him, because if he doesn't like me back then he might want to be friends with me. I feel like I'm in fifth grade again, ugh.

Help?

Since you're young still, and you've only been talking about a month, I'm going to say don't get too caught up in it, and in your emotions. But what I am going to say is that don't believe other people, you need to hear it from him, and hang out with him. You never know what might happen. Just act normal and be yourself, have fun, you're still young!

Hope I helped. =)

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ok the guy I've been liking for a year now has another girlfriend. we're actually pretty good friends. but whenever i see him with his girlfriend in school i get really down and depressed the rest of the day. i know he really likes her and i don't want to tear the relationship apart but what is some way i can get him more interested in me and make him like me more than "just a friend." i don't want to seem like a bitch for trying to destroy their relationship. i kinda want it to just break by nature.

I would just try to put yourself out there more, if you know what I mean. Like be more social with him, talk a lot, and most of all, be flirty! haha yeah, it works believe me..it's happened to me, if he realizes that you are giving him moer "attention" then he might get feelings that start to grow...so try it....hope ive helped!

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My boyfriend and I fight all of the time and he says that I don't show him I care. Im always all over him and say the nicest things to him but i dont know what else to do? does anyone know anything that can help me show him that i care so much!

Hey, sounds like your boyfriend doesnt trust you all that much. There isnt really anything else you can do. Sit down and talk with him, tell him how you feel and that you do care for him. If he says that you just dont care, then i think it is time for you to dump him and move on, because obviously he just doesnt care, and he is just, for lack of a better term, blind.

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I had a really bad reputation at school, until 8th grade, when I got "pretty".
During this year, I liked this popular guy, and he liked me back.
But, he was too ashamed to admit it. I'm letting him slide for this one, because in all truth, if the weirdest kid in school liked me as well, then I probably wouldn't put that out in the forefront.
He also made a lot of excuses. He went out with this blond, model type girl, that he absolutely HATED, because she was obsessed with him. And, when I asked him straight up if he liked me, he'd go "I don't want a girlfriend, because you have to buy them things".

Stupid crap like that.

Now, this year, things are different. I'm well-liked by most people (except his friends, who despise me.)

Earlier this year, he would try and talk to me, and become friends with me again.

Now, he doesn't really try. He just stares at me, and when I look back, he has this really hard look on his face.

I'm pretty sure he regrets his decision, but why won't he just say so?

I don't know why I still like him, after all he's done to me, but I do.

I just want him to talk to me. To say sorry. To tell me what's going on. This "issue" has been going on for two years now, and it's about to go into three if I don't do something soon.

Last two weeks of school.

Guys, what's his problem? What should I do, or say?

Ok, so I'm a guy so I pretty much know what his problem is...

Guys hate admiting that they are wrong. Personally, I could careless, I mean I'm not afraid or ashamed of admiting that i was wrong. But, thats probably what his problem is. If you really want an answer from him, and if you really want to settle this with him, chances are that you are probably going to have to confront him first. I know that may suck for you, but that is just the way some guys are, they could be the biggest jocks, but they are just scared to admit that they're wrong. So, that's what I'd do. Confront him first, ask him whats up with your "issue" and see where it goes from there.

Hope I've Helped!

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15/f. since your a guy i thought i'd ask you for your opinion on this :]

there is this guy in the grade below me that i really like. my one friend in his grade tells me all the time that he likes me. and then on friday we had a school field trip and he was in my group and we sat next to each other for everything and 3 people even asked if we were gf & bf. like he always suttely compliments me, sits next to me, looks for me at school in hallways or assemblys, and is just extremely nice.

so i'm sure your thinking okay everything sounds good, now why don't you ask him out. well heres the problem, actually its a BIG problem. he has a girlfriend. but she is in my grade at a different school so i haven't met her before. now i know its mean to hope that they break up so i can have him, but i have a hard time not wanting that. plus idk if they even hang out much anymore because he is always hanging out with me and my other friends.

so what can i do? he acts like he likes me but he has a gf?

THANKS SO MUCH :]
i've asked girls this before, but i wanted a guy's take on this.

Hi. I know almost exactly the position you are in, just switch the positions. I have really liked this girl for a while, but she likes a different guy. But we are like perfect together and we're always flirting and w.e.. But back to your question...I would suggest telling him how you feel, because I know if i was in his position, I would respect the fact that you laid out your feelings, and you told him how you felt. Even though he has a girlfriend, he is going to have to make a choice. As I said, if I was in his shoes and I had a girlfriend but liked you, and you told me that you liked me, then I would greatly respect you and think even better of you because you stepped up and even though I have a girlfriend, you still were shy about your feelings. So thats what I suggest to do, I would just sit down with him, and have a good heart to heart talk, start off with the basics, like hi, how was your day, and that stuff. But, then go to like how is your girlfriend, and then be like, I really need to get something off of my chest and if you dont feel the same way, then thats ok, but I still wanna be friends. Be nice about it and dont jump right in and say I like you. Also, it isnt wrong for you to want him to break up with his gf for you, that is how you know that your feelings are real, and that you arent just infatuated with him.

So I hope I've helped!! Good Luck!

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15/m

ok sure its a weird question but here goes nothing

anyway my girlfriend and i really love each other. a lot. so anyway, we make out just about every time we're with each other *and don't say that love isn't only about making out, because i know that. we really do love each other*, but it's always kinda the same thing. i guess what i'm trying to ask is: how can i spice things up a bit? not anything sexual but something that could make it better for the both of us?

please and thank you

Hi. So I'm a guy, so I kinda know what you're talking about. You wanna express your feelings, but not in a way that makes you seem too sexual, you want to "connect" with her, but in a more emotional way. Ok, so I would say go out to dinner, or something, just talk to each other. Girls appreciate when they can talk to you, and be personal with you. Instead of going for the more sexual things in the relationship, try going for the heart. Just do what feels right for you and her. Have a good heart to heart conversation, talk about your lives, and where you think the relationship might be going in the future. I know from personal experiance that girls like being heard, and give her a chance to just sit down and talk to you, because in the end, it will deepen your relationship. It will deepen it way more that any of the sexual things.

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