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I met someone who lives very far away from me online. But I had an amazing connection with him, loved him completely. Then I met my current boyfriend, who found out about me talking to him later on. He was very upset and threatened to put a restraining order on him. Now I am stuck trying to get him to speak to me and at least get some closure. I would like some thoughts on this situation and what to do. Also want to know if I'm a horrible person. I'm a 17 year old girl (link)
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Hi, first of all just let me say that you are not a horrible person at all! Before you take any action you have to clear your mind, who do you really like? And be aware that falling in love with strangers online is not safe. Do you REALLY know him? Have you ACTUALLY met him? He could be a random stranger who could be pretending to make a connection with you, just be aware of that. But if you say that you loved him completely, then you love him and that's as simple as love. But do you love your boyfriend? Think about who you love more, if you choose your boyfriend, you have to clear things friendly with your "online love", (can I call him that?)
If you choose your online love, you clearly have to break up with your boyfriend, but don't take things to far with your online love, remember he is still a sort of stranger!
Now, if I was you I would tell your boyfriend that he is just a friend. Keep talking to your online love, though. Get to know hime better, see if you really love him. After a while when you know him a lot better and you are close friends, see if you still love him. If so, maybe break up with your boyfriend and ask your online love out. If you see you just like him as a friend, congratulations! You have just made another close friend!
I really hope my advice was useful, yours truly, Advice proffesional.
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I am friends with my crush on Facebook and I posted something saying that the first to like I would tell who my crush is and my crush liked it first so what do I do? (link)
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Hi, and wow, you posted this question 5 minutes before someone else posted the exact same question, so I'll just tell you what I said to her, So, you have two options, you could tell him the truth (That would be a clever way to make the first step) or you could lie to him, telling him you don't have a crush or make up a name.
So number 1, before you tell him you like him, be sure he likes you back, do you notice an physical contact? Does his behaviour change when he is near you? Does he tell you secrets? Does he give you special attention? You can go on youtube or wiki.how and stuff like that to find out if he likes you. There are hundreds of things on the internet that can help you. When you are sure that you like him, tell him something like, "I'll give you a clue, he is ... (Something about him)" Until he figures it out. It will be a clever way to tell him you like him. If he doesn't like you at all, (just as a friend) bummer, you've been friend zoned, but don't give up. Just don't tell him it's him. Tell him something like, "My crush is.... Nobody" or make up a name. Don't make it to obvious though.
I really hope my advice has been useful for you, yours truly, Adviceprofessional
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I am friends with my crush on Facebook and I posted something saying that the first to like I would tell who my crush is and my crush liked it first so what do I do. I am 14 and a female (link)
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Hi, believe it or not, this is a common question and doubt, and I will try my best to answer it. So, you have two options, you could tell him the truth (That would be a clever way to make the first step) or you could lie to him, telling him you don't have a crush or make up a name.
So number 1, before you tell him you like him, be sure he likes you back, do you notice an physical contact? Does his behaviour change when he is near you? Does he tell you secrets? Does he give you special attention? You can go on youtube or wiki.how and stuff like that to find out if he likes you. There are hundreds of things on the internet that can help you. When you are sure that you like him, tell him something like, "I'll give you a clue, he is ... (Something about him)" Until he figures it out. It will be a clever way to tell him you like him. If he doesn't like you at all, (just as a friend) bummer, you've been friend zoned, but don't give up. Just don't tell him it's him. Tell him something like, "My crush is.... Nobody" or make up a name. Don't make it to obvious though.
I really hope my advice has been useful for you, yours truly, Adviceprofessional
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I am 12 . There is this boy I like but I don't know if he like me 2! Please give me some advice. (link)
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Hi, I understand how this might feel, If you like him, try to know him better, don't just sit back and observe, if you don't talk to him, you are not gonna get anywhere!! Try to talk to him, find common interests, be confident and fun around him, try to look your best for him, but don't change you style, maybe just have a nice hairstyle and a nice smile (Don't overdo it), and when you are good friends, express how you feel, don't be really direct, maybe say something like, "Do you have a crush?" If he says no, wait a few more days, if he says yes ask him who, If he blushes, make a move, tell him you like him.
If you are to shy, text him saying you like him, if he likes you back, then good for you!! If he says he doesn't like you, say it was a friend who got your phone as a prank...
If you're the confident kind of person, just tell him directly.
I hope my advice has been useful, yours truly, Adviceprofessional
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ok well i like this boy, cant forget the faggot.(sorry) i've tried telling him & myself that i hate him. didnt work. tried saying sorry, sounded desprate. what can i do? did i screw up to badly? please&thankyou (link)
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Hi, I read your problem and I hope I can help you as much as I can, try sorting things out, first apologize and tell him something like, "I'm sorry I said I hate you, I was just trying to be funny" Try to sound confident, imagine you are superior (Yes, sound kind of mean, but it works) After that don't just end it there, that would be your chance to talk to him and make him like you, compliment something, if he has a book, ask him what is it about, if you read it, say something about the book, notice other stuff, (Try to be discret) mention something, if you have classes together, say something like, "By the way, did we have homework for..." Or "Isn't the ..... teacher funny/boring/nice/weird/ugly..."
I hope my answer helped you and was useful, yours truly, Adviceprofessionals
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14/f...okay guys, what hints to you that a girl likes you, and what kind of hints do you like? also, what would you want to talk about with girls so that i can have a good conversation with the guy i like. also, what do you like when a girl flirts with you? (link)
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Hi, I have read your letter and hope to help you, if you want to let a guy know that you like him, flirt with him, the easiest way to let hi know is to simply tell him. If you like him, go for it! Don't be afraid. If you think just asking him is lame, write a note with a compliment on it with no name, put it in his locker, when you are talking to him, say that same compliment. If you are just to shy, do it by text, say you like him and if he says he doesn't like you, say it was a friend who wrote it as a prank. Talk to him naturally and confident, find out what he likes (without being a stalker) When a girl flirts with a guy, the guy usually likes that the girl is interesting. But remember, if you can't be INTERESTING be INTERESTED in him. Also, when a girl flirts with a guy, when the girl laughs, she gets closer to the guy, not to much, cause that would be weird.
I hope my answer was useful and it helped you, yours truly, Adviceprofessional
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Why does guys flirt (link)
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Hi, I really want to explain it, but there is no scientifical explanation to it, so I'll just say that guys flirt because they want to get with the girl or because they like the girl (Or guy if you are gay)
I hope this has answered your question and has helped you, yours truly, Adviceprofessional
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so im girl ,3rd in high school and i really like one guy from my school .he´s in 4th year..so he´s a year older than me.we dont know each other.i only see him during breaks in hallways sometimes.i dont know how to get his attention bc he´s always surronded by his friends..2 days before V-day i wrote him valentine message, saying that i like him but he probably doesnt know it was me who wrote it.i also send him friend request on fb and texted him but he hasnt accepted it nor responded to my text on fb..maybe he doesnt go on facebook anymore or accept friend reuest from people he doesnt know :/.i dont know what to do ? :/.how should i get him know that i like him ?? i cant talk to him in person bc he is from higher grade so we pass each other only during breaks at school,he probably doesnt go on facebook.i go on denominational school so we have small chaple at school, we also have some chairs and tables before chaple and during break i sit with friends there and i see him in chaple, sometimes i see him there alone but i dont think it would be appropriate to go there and say hi to him but its only time when he´s alone and not with his friends but problem is that my friends also go to chaple, so i cant go just to sit next to him bc my friends would stare at me..please help me what to do ?? should i go to chaple and just give him note and than leave?.i just dont know how to say something to him when he probably doesnt go on fb, he´s always with his friends..i really like him and he´ll be at school this year and the next one and the he will graduate and leave school :/ (link)
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Hi, I understand how this might feel an I will do my best to answer this, try to talk to him more often, try a small talk, start with a compliment, find common interests. Have like a daily small talk, try to seem confident and "smooth". Try to be friends, even if he is older, he might like you. Try to get to know more about him.
If you wrote something else in your v-day card, something like a poem made by you or a compliment, say it to him in person during a break, and he will know it was you, if you didn't, put a note on his locker giving him a compliment with no name, try to talk to him and then give him that same compliment, he will be surprised and defenitely more interested in you. But believe me, if you don't try to talk to him, you will never get him to like you
If you really have absolutely no time for that, just ask him what his twitter account name is without seeming to be a stalker. Create a fake account with a username that might be interesting to him. Talk to him by text to see if you really like him and what he likes, try to be interesting, when he gets really interested in you, ask him out by text, so he can see who you really are, then if it works out, good luck!
I really hope my advice has been useful to you yours truly, Advice professional
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Hello everyone. My name is Robert and I am 16 years old. We've just moved from Europe to California and it is difficult for me. My English isn't as good as another but it is quite ok. The biggest problem is crying. Eg. I was at school and we written test and I had bad score and next lessons we had next test and I didn't understand well and I was crying all lesson. Next example: I was at home and my Dad told me that I am not good in school and I should be better in Football after this one I had training and my couch shouted of me but not only at me he shouted about all members but nobody was crying only me. I fell very bed this month I don't understand what is happend with me. Once a day I've gone to the kitchen and I took knife and wanted to cut to my hand bu I didn't do this but I wanted. And all problem is my Friend Frederic he is lovely boy and I thing that I am fall in love I always thing about him and He miss me when I am not at school and I always see his pics on FB. I would like hug him and kiss but I know that isn't possible. I hate myself. :( (link)
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Hi, you have NO IDEA how well I understand you, when I was younger, I moved from Europe to portland (Which is near California) and I had this depression all the time I thought about my past life, I started crying. Don't worry, I promise you things will get better with time, about crying, that is just because you are an emotional person, (Don't worry, you are not the only one (; As for trying to cut your hand, don't, don't even think about doing stuff like that, it's completely normal what you are going through.
About the gay part, it's sounds to me like it's true love with your friend, it's completely ok if you are gay, there are lots of people who are gay. But don't jump into your friend telling him you love him directly because he might not be gay, and will break your heart, ask him if he's gay but not so obviously, maybe say "Do you know anyone who's gay?" or something like that. And don't worry about anything, it will turn out fine.
I hope my advice helped you, yours truly, Adviceprofessional
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