Member Since: April 9, 2016
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Last Update: April 9, 2016
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I recently came out as a transman to my friends - but how do I tell my parents? Mom's seriously transphobic and Dad's oblivious. Please help me! (link)
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Honestly... I would say you should come out. But I wouldn't worry about putting a time limit on it. It doesn't have to be tomorrow, or next week. You could even do it 10 years from now, if you'd like. Just find a moment that feels right. I know some people aren't as accepting as others, but you shouldn't let that stop you from being who you are. If I were in this situation myself, I would find friends who I know support me in this first. That way, when you do make the move to come out to your parents, you know you have people that will help your through it. I wish you the best of luck!
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I am a 16 year old guy and I met this girl on the internet through my friends one day. She is 15 years old and she has a lot of similar interest to me. My first time merting her was from using Skype, where it was my 2 friends her and myself. Due to certain circumstances, my 2 friends had took go and I was left alone with this girl. I don't know how it happened but we ended up skyping for 7 hours straight. She started talking about her life and past, and how she is always alone at school. So as any normal person would, I tried comforting her. I seemed to cheer her up quite a bit and I was quite satisfied with myself that I was able to help a 'stranger' out. After this event, she added me on facebook and we started talking. This was when I started realising some.. Flaws of hers. She started doing many things that was quite annoying. Since I am still a school student, I had a lot of homework but she would force me to skype her everyday from that point on. When I apologised to her and claimed that I had homework to do and therefore had to leave, she put me on a massive guilt trip. This happened countless times. She would say things like 'Oh are you leaving me again? Im going to be all alone.' Things like that. And that was only one of the 'flaws'. She would also hint that something in her life was wrong but when I asked her if she was alright and that I was there for her, she would just reply with 'No it's fine. I'm just sad that's all. Don't worry about me.' Things like that. I'm not trying to be narcissistic or anything but usually, I do care about others and I try my best to help others in any way possible. But after she keept hinting that there was something wrong and would refuse to tell me, I kind of got fed up. So now when she mentions something is wrong, J put close to no effort to find out what is wrong. Lately, everytime she asks to skype, I always tell her an excuse. Whether it be I'm busy or I have to go soon. Sometimes i just ignore her facebook mesages altogether when she tells me to skype. I feel like a horrible person but I cant handle it anymore. I tried helping and being a good person but I dont know what to do anymore. Im sorry you had to read all that. Please advise me on what I should do! (link)
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Honestly, speaking from my own experience, I would confront her. In as gentle of a way possible, be frank. And, if need be, you might have to tell her it just isn't working out. I understand that it's difficult. But a relationship of any kind, whether it is a friendship or otherwise, needs to be something you feel comfortable with. Clearly, you are not. And please understand that, as hard as it is to have a frank discussion or push someone away, sometimes it is the healthy thing to do. For both of you. Regardless of what you choose to do, I hope this may shed some light on your options.
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I like drawing but I'm not sure what I should draw. I tried googling things but I can only find vapid objects such as forks and eyes. Ideas? (link)
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What is something that you're passionate about in your life? Or maybe an interest of yours? You could use that as inspiration. Or, maybe think about exploring different artistic drawing styles. Find where your interests lie, and go from there. Don't worry, the ideas will come.
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