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As John Lennon once said, "Life is what happens while you're busy making other plans." So true.



Giving advice is sort of second nature to me. I use to have a column on here but ended up deleting it. Now once again I have decided to give advice again. I value people and their problems and try to help them the best I can.



No question is a silly question. Every question has importance. I sometimes feel like some of my questions I want to ask are viewed as pointless but have comed to realize that this isn't entirely true.



My biggest pet peeves are bad spelling, grammar and punctuation. It's silly, but I mean it's not that difficult to tell the difference between you're and your. Or even their, they're and there. No offense if you do any of this, but we learned all of these when we were younger in 5th grade (give or take).



Personally one of my favorite quote is by Eleanor Roosevelt. "No one can make you feel inferior without your consent."
If only people would truly realize this, the world would be so much happier.

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So I'm gonna be a junior in high school next year, and that means that I'm gonna go to prom. usually, most girls are looking forward to prom, right? Well not me, I'm already really worried that I won't have a date. I know it's silly, but since I'm really shy and have never had a boyfriend, I'll be going to prom alone and feel like a total loser while all my other friends have dates. I have guy friends, but none that I could really ask because THEY TOO will probably have dates/girlfriends to go with. Ahhhh I'm freaking out about this, prom is supposed to be the best night ever and I'm worried I'm gonna have a terrible time. So what I'm asking is, what can I do if I don't have a date while all my friends do? I wouldn't feel as weird if I were going with my friends, but because they're all flirty and confident, they'll probably have a lot of people asking them to prom. But I don't want to feel lonely and desperate and get turned down by a bunch of guys that already have dates.
And how can I stop obsessing over this problem, because I'm not even a junior yet?! Thanks for anyone who attempts to answer this ridiculous question, but the way, haha. Peace out.

I totally know what you're going through since I am going through it. I'm going to be a junior, and since like May or April I had a few friends freaking out already about junior prom, that was a year away from then. All of them were worried they wouldn't have dates.


Me and my one friend promised each other if we don't have dates, we'll hang out at prom and dance anyways, not caring who out of our friends had a date or not. See if maybe there's a friend of yours that is thinking the same thing you are. The one thing about my friends is that half of them are totally obsessed with the fact that they need to have dates, even if they don't.


I wouldn't be too worried about it though. I mean it is a year away (like the person below me said), so you have plenty of time to see if maybe you'll get a date by then. If anything you can always go by yourself, and have a great time. A girl who is turning a senior said prom was overrated really, and totally not worth having a date since you're suppose to "save that" for senior prom.


Just wait and see what happens. Don't try to think about prom too much. You'll probably find out that a lot of people are in your position. I am not for nothing, and know what it feels like to totally go through that phase of, "I hope I have a date, I'll look like a total dork if I don't have one since I'll probably be the only one without a date". Don't think about it like that! Think I'm going to prom to have a good time with my friends, and who cares what other people think if I'm by myself.


It's totally normal to be going through what you're going through, but probably by the time prom is over, you'll be like why was I so nervous about that? It'll end up turning into one of those things.



I hope this helps you, and good luck. :)

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Well, i go too high school. At high school we have populars and well geeks and i really, really hate this! No one has the right to tell you who you are or name you.
Populars think they can boss me about for example 'get out of this room', 'go away, you can't hang around here'. Am really fed up i just want to answer back but then everyone will hate me, and my friends are scared because they don't want to be hated, and everyone eles sucks up to them.
i would really like to know how can i stuck up for my self without being hated by people.

Eleanor Roosevelt once said "Do what you feel in your heart to be right- for you'll be criticized anyway. You'll be damned if you do, and damned if you don't." That quote totally relates to your situation. It doesn't matter in this case what you do since obviously you'll be criticized for every action you make.

Honestly what I'd do is just not brush this off and let it go. If they go to say something to you like "get out of this room" say something back to them like "why should I get out of this room? I have my right to stay here and do as I please." Might seem silly, I know but stand your ground. If they say something which will somehow contradict who you are as a person, call them on it. They say, "go away, you can't hang out here" you should say "why should we all just stop doing what we want to do and revolve our lives around your happiness? Why can't you realize that you're just like the rest of us and in 10 year none of this will matter."

Truly not one bit of what's going on will matter when you're older. Keep remembering that. The best advice I can give is just to stand your ground. You'll be damned if you do say something since people will judge, and damned if you don't since the populars will keep at it. When you stick up for yourself do it in a sense that they won't know what else to say to you. Especially if you make honest mature points, guarenteed they won't know what to say.

Good luck, and I hope this helps you. If you want contact me about anything else. I hope everything goes well for you since bullying is such an immature thing. It's truly the most pathetic part of high school.

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Why would a guy flirt with you outragiously, show an interest in you, go out of his way just to talk to you if he's in another relationship?
This guy from work had been showing an interest in me since before Xmas. I always caught him staring at me, he'd smile when I entered the room, he'd rub my shoulder, joke around with me, and even my supervisor thought he liked me because he'd smile if she said I was working that night. Well anyways I thought he was single so I started flirting back. He got all freaked out for a while, and never asked me out. Well I found out he IS seeing someone. I think it's pretty serious too because I heard they are going on a holiday. My question is WHY on earth would he be flirting with me and showing such a huge interest if he ia in another relationship? The only thing I could think of is that he is not that into her, but still I think it's wrong of him to do this.

Boys will be boys. I'm assuming from what you wrote, that he is totally in to you, since he keeps flirting. It's such a taboo when guys act like that and are in relationships. My guess if that his relationship with her cannot be that strong if he's flirting with you. Maybe they're on the road to break up, but since you said they're going away together they might not be. I've seen guys who are in relationships flirt with other girls all the time. It's probably a boost for their ego too.

Anyways, good luck with your situation.

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