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Q: (15/f)

Hey everyone. Recently, i've been having problems with my self-cofidence. I use to be so confident and loving with myself untill about two weeks ago. I don't know what happended to me, but everything just went downhill. I started to feel hideous, and not good enough for some people. Another major thing is that i don't stand out in a crowd. If im with my friends, (who are GORGEOUS) guys tend to go straight to them and i'm always left hanging. They don't want to associate themselves with me i believe, and they rather would talk to another girl. Even i admit, there is nothing wrong with me, but i don't have a special quality that would make guys want to hang out with me or remember me. If anyone needs more information, i give write down more and anyone has ever felt this way and dealt with it, it is appreciated if you help me out with some advice. Thank you very much.
I'm the same age as you and I dealt with this last year. My confidence should have gone up because my appearance improved(I got my braces off) so that was a little boost but it didnt last. There were so many things that were wrong in my life that I just focused on that and sulked. I forgot how to be the funny, outgoing, fun girl I once was. I was lost and basically gave up. I thought that if I wasn't the most popular in school that I had nothing. But this year I realized that how would I ever become the most popular if I didn't improve the way I acted? If I were to just remain the girl I was last year, nothing would have changed. I did a lot of soul searching last year and realized what had to be done. At the end of last year, I realized that it was a BAD year to say the least. So I said to myself, this year is GOING to be good, I know I can do it. It was incredibly hard to overcome the feelings and insecurities that I dealt with last year but after a little while you get the hang of it. Just because you're going through a hard time right now doesn't mean it will last. As far as sticking out in the group of your friends, I would say to be funny and charismatic because people are always drawn to someone like that. You want to be known right? So give your opinion on discussions, BE A PART OF THE GROUP. Just don't sit there. Migrate to different people throughout the night, mingle as much as possible. I really really hope I helped. I have faith in you and I know you can do it :]

Q: I had a great teacher in my old school, I still live in the same town, but I changed schools.
I hadn't seen the teacher for a year, until last week I went to pick up some stuff that I ordered, and stopped at Starbucks. There he was (I'll name him Simon to make things easier) and I was happy to see him, he turned around and he was all happy and smiling and said ''Hey, name, I haven't seen you for over a year!'' and yes we hugged.
I'm almost 16, and he's a young teacher, I think about 24. We sat in Starbucks for about 6 hours, drinking and talking, and I found out that he's not with his girlfriend anymore and I don't know...I just like him so much.
He's always been relaxed. Like when I was going through shit times, I started smoking (I quit, and I'm proud :) ) and once I was sitting in the park near our school smoking and tears running down my face. He sits next to me, I tell him about all the shit that happened, and he helped me sort everything out.
I basically have no secrets from him, and since that day at Starbucks, I've seen him again twice.
We kiss each other on the cheek to say hello and bye, but practically no other physical contact.
I have fun with him, and I care for him..and I know so much about him but if any of my friends knew..well they'd be jealous cause he's pretty good looking, but I'm not sure what they'd think.
He is an ex teacher, but my friends still have him as a teacher.
I've only told my best friend from my new school, and she thinks it's cool, but she said that if he was one of her teacher, and knew that he was kissing me, she'd feel really uncomfortable.

And is it illegal...that's my main concern?
He taught me for a year, and now I go to a different school. I'm almost 16.

So confused and lost..
Yes, unfortunately it is illegal. You should really just cut all ties with him and I know that it is extremely hard but its the right thing to do. Although you two just exchange pecks on the cheek, it may lead to more and then you will be in a big rut. I'm sorry because it seems like you like him a lot but you have to stop talking to him or else it's only going to get worse. Hope I helped :]

Q: is it true that freshman grade doesnt count when you go to college?
yes it does.dont slack off in freshman year because it counts a lot, just like all the other grades in highschool. my brother did great in highschool but did horrible freshman year, and his gpa was really low, he couldve gotten a full scholarship if he worked harder.

Q: ive been getting more acne everyday what do u think is making me brake out more
well personally i cut out ALL soda eince last week, and not even kidding my acne is really starting to clear up. try to stay away from any food/drinks with a lot of sugar and caffeine. as said before, stress is a big cause but you really cant help that. hope i helped

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