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Q: I am going on a trip to another country and need to get some new clothes (in case I lose them in on the way). I need to find a place with cheap but cute clothes that I can take with me. I would like to look cute but be comfortable. Im not really a designer jeans gurl, but I wear what fits. What are some stores that I can get clothes from? Thanks do much!!
mAdDiE~*~
age 15
i gave another girl this advice too:

go to H & M!

their clothes are so cheap (i mean, i got this great halter-top there for about $5.00)

and when they have sales going on, there sales are really great.

they have everything there! you can go into that store with about $50 and come out with about 3 outfits. (of course, depending upon the types of clothing you're buying)

they have everything from tops to bottoms to accessories and hair things.

they also have incredibley cheap bathing suits which are always important for vacations!

i just got 2 bathing suits for $10 each!

it's really a great store, with a lot of different styles to choose from, so if you can find one near you, i'd look into it

Q: hey guys, well, i'm really shy. I mean, when I'm with my close friends, it's ok. But around other people, it's not. I'm as quiet as a mouse! I've been trying really hard to be louder, and I did make an improvement, but it's not enough. I need to be totally more outgoing. This year I've become a little bit less shy, but I'm surrounded by really loud, crazy people. I feel like I don't fit in. Are there any tips you have for overcoming shyness? Please help me, and thank you for being cnsiderate.
i'm the exact same way! with my friends, i'm the craziest gal you'll ever meet, but when i'm around new people, or in a new type of situation, i tend to be very closed off and quiet. it can be hard to get over something like this. remember though, you don't need to be loud or crazy to be noticed or for people to like you or think you're outgoing! all you need is a bit more confidence. when you meet someone new for the first time, try smiling and saying a friendly hello. then you can ask them questions about themselves. make sure to make eye contact, and use their name a lot when you talk to them, because that lets people know that you've been paying attention to them.

confidence is really the key to overcoming shyness but really, it's ok if you're quiet and not loud. the loud people may be noticed more and it may seem as though they're outgoing, but they can also be very obnoxious and not well liked. after all, if you met someone for the first time, wouldn't you feel a little bit off guard if they were very loud and in your face. there's a big difference between confidence and loud, and you need to be careful not to confuse the two!

however, if you just try being friendly and interested in the new people you're meeting and you try to keep a positive attitude when you're in a new situation, i think you'll find you won't be as shy in the future!

Q: well....i've been having such a hard time lately....i've been sooo stressed out with school and stuff.i know its almost over but its really a pain.in school today i wasnt acting myself and everyone was asking me what was wrong.im not even sure what is wrong.my mom constantly hassles me to the point of my wanting to stab myself and im really afraid that if i dont do sumthing soon them im gonna end up killin myself or something.please help me!!!!!!!
ok, you're either very, very stressed out right now, or depressed, or possibly both.

first of all, you should know that no matter how bad things are, it's not worth dying over! you're life is so important and although we all say things such as "i don't know how i can go on when things are this bad" we have to believe that things will get better.

you should try sorting out everything in your head first. really try to figure out what exactly it is that has been making you so sad lately. if you could try to pinpoint a few things then you're off to a good start.

as far as your mom is concerned i understand. i love my mom but she can be very over-bearing at times. a lot of the times, if i'm too upset to talk to her straight out i'll write her a note and leave it on her dresser, basically asking her if she could please let up a bit because things have been very hard lately. i'm sure if she really knew what you were going through she wouldn't be such a hassle.

also, maybe you could try talking to somebody. i know it sounds so cliche to say something like "find a friend or adult you trust" but even what you're doing now, asking others for help, is a good step.

if all else fails, listen to emo music! (haha at least you'll know you're not alone in your hopeless, "i hate everything" feelings!)

seriously though, i hope things get better for you and my advice was somewhat helpful!

Q: well i was walking home from school and an old man came up to me he groped me so i punched him in his nose it was the first thing that came into my head,and it started bleeding he told me he was going to press charges what should i do?
you most certainly will not get in trouble!!!

what you did was the right thing! this man was in the wrong and he shouldn't make you feel other-wise or doubt your reaction.


and if he had any brains, which i'm sure he didn't considering he's a sick old man, he would figure out that by pressing charges on you, the reason for why you punched him would come out, and he would be arrested!

what you did was completley the right thing. if you haven't told a parent or an adult yet you really need to do that because this is very serious! however, do not worry that you will be in trouble for what you did.

it was clearly self-defense and any other smart, self-respecting person would have done the same thing as you!

Q: i am just really hard on myself for not being exactly how i wanna be. i want to be more popular, and a beauty. everyone tells me i am beutiful and i know i am (not to be conceited) but i wish people at school could see it. (or atleast the popular people cuz geeks have crushes on me). just what are some tips to boost my confidence and be everything i wanna be! help!

boy oh boy, everybody in the world is obsessed with being popular aren't they?

it's ok, it's a phase everyone goes through.

when i was in middle school i felt exactly the way you're feeling now. i never thought i was super-model gorgeous, but i never felt that i was completley worthless and it would make me really mad to see all these other girls, who i knew were very mean and undeserving, getting really great boys. these girls were usually popular, and these guys, who i thought were the greatest were also popular. i wasted so many years of my life going after the "popular" guys just because they were cute. but really, they weren't very nice. they never made me feel special or good about myself and they weren't even the nicest of people.

i think right now you need to be more open-minded. don't try so hard and waste all your time on getting the "popular" boys to notice you. these geeky boys that like you, they may not be that bad. i mean, let's face it, nobody wants to go out with some gross, weird kid. but maybe if you got to know some of them, you might find that they're really fun and nice people and they'll make you feel good about yourself which will raise your self-esteem.

and don't worry, everybody's a bit hard on themselves. we all try to live up to standards that are set for us like how we should look, and who we should date, etc...

if you can get past these trivial things and just be happy with yourself and embrace anything you find negative instead of beating it down, you'll be golden!

Q: Sometimes i come to think that im a loner. Its summer time now and i just sit home and do nothing, or im with my boring family. Im friends with the popular group, or the "it" group in school. Whenever i ask them if they want to do something they say they cant or make up excuses. I dont know what im doing wrong. How could i get them to actually want to hang out with me?
hahaha, don't worry, sometimes i feel as though i'm a loner too.

it's not necessarily a bad thing. it's all how you view it.

however, if you want to hang out with people and be a bit more social, i suggest finding a new group of friends.

obviously, your friendship is not so tight with the so-called "it-group" if they're avoiding you and making up excuses not to hang out with you. don't worry. it's nothing against you. they're just lame people!

it might be a good idea to join some type of a camp or one-week activity kind of thing. if you're into acting or music you could go online or look in the newspaper for local plays and sometimes colleges hold one-week sessions for different things such as singing and playing instruments.

if you're into sports many community colleges offer soccer, tennis, swimming, etc.. type camps. this is a great way to meet new people!

you could also try re-kindling some old frienships, or hanging out with people who you may be ok friens with, but dont normally hang out with outside of school. who knows? you could find that they are really fun to hang out with and you'll have a new friend.

if you really want to hang out with the popular kids then i suppose you could keep inviting them places. maybe if you do group outings it would be more fun for everyone rather then just one-on-one. however, if you really are finding they keep declining for some reason or another, don't push it. they will just get annoyed. i think you're best bet is to get out there and try to do something fun that you enjoy, which will also allow you to meet new people.

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jade
hmm, what is there to say about myself?

i'm very much into music, drama, reading, writing, all that good stuff.

i've been told i give good advice. i suppose you can judge for yourself!

i'll answer any question so feel free to ask!

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