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Hey Im 16 and a senior in highschool. I met this guy in an interschool competition. He's the same age but is a senior in some other school. We started talking after the competition and became good friends. We have gone out on three dates till now. And yeah, we have kissed each other and made out a little. We cannot resist each other at all. And hence the makeouts were a mutual desicion. I am falling for him. But the problem is that even though he says he is falling for me, he keeps on telling me he cannot date me cause he's a bad guy and he cares for me too too much to hurt me. He says he is not one of those dateable guys who will love their girl completely and he might find a new girl and dump me.That would hurt me and he doesnt want to do that! He hasnt had a past record of cheating or anything it's just that he tells me he wants to be sure before he asks a girl out that he will be completely loyal to her and not flirt around with other girls. He also liked this girl a year back and he says he feels guilty that he got over her and fell for me! But when we meet we actually act like we are dating, cause he gets me stuff, he tells me he loves me, we hold hands. we actually act like a couple in love. we also talk all the time. I dont know what to do. Because I really want to be with him. But cant figure out how to make him ask me out? and if he is really a bad guy? HELP.

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Tanvi.

He is a bad guy, but everyone has good in them :)
What you got to do is sit down and talk to him about your love life mixing with his.
See how he feels about it, and tell him that if hes really falling for you, there is a chance he won't hurt you.
Try to keep yourself a little bit off and separated from him, don't get to into him, or your heart will break. View him from a different perspective, see how he looks at other girls. I know its tough, but just get to know him better and understand the type of guy he is. You don't necessarily have to dump him or let him go, have some fun! :) But don't fall too deep until you know he's fully committed.

~Gsmergirlxoxo
P.s. wishing you the best of luck, if anything new happens, message me :)

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Okay so there is this real close friend of mine.We are classmates. And we had this sleepover, a couple of us, guys and girls. I just broke up two months back with my bf who cheated..so i am still getting over it...And my friend broke up a few days ago. We ended up chatting throughout the night, and i dont know what happened but we ended up kissing each other too..it was not our intention of doing ANYTHING like that. we pretty much have feelings for our ex's and not each other. i dont know why and how it happened.
we have promised not to tell this to anyone. and that this incident will stay a secret between the two of us forever. but i feel weird about it, i feel disgusted for doing such a stupid thing now. do you think things will change because of this? i am scared he would tell someone which i really dont want.HELP. how should i handle this?

Heyy sorry I just got onto my account, but believe it or not, this does not mean you like each other. Here is how you should handle this:
1) Talk to them again and tell them how you would really like it if they kept it personal because it wasn't meant to happen.
2) Do not avoid the friend, act like nothing happened and they will tag along and act the same way. That way, you guys will both be friends just like it was before it all happened.
3) Don't panic, make sure to understand that it was all an accident and it will make you stop thinking about it.
4) Try to gain trust into the friend and soon they will start to forget about it.
5) No matter what, after talking to them about keeping it a secret, DO NOT bring it up. Let them forget.
Hope this helps,
P.S Wishing you the best of luck
♥gamergirlxoxo♥

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hey! I looked at your profile when you answered one of my questions. Im a male, 17 years, and i always wanted to move to Canada, specifically in Southern Ontario is the suburbs near Toronto. I saw that you live in Canada and was wondering if you could tell me what its like? I live in Southern California right now, and ive wanted to move there in my third year of college. Whgere in Canada do u live? What are the people like? the weather? the lifestyle? THanks!

1) i live in Alberta :)
2) the weather can be really annoying sometimes, because you never know whats up next
3) today we were expecting a ton of sun and we got rain and hail
4) the weather always changes, when it gets hot, it varies between 20 degrees and over usually to 32 degrees or so
5) in the summer it gets much warmer and nicer but we end up having rain storms sometimes
6) canada is a great place i promise you, the people are very sweet and helping
7) if you need help you can just ask anyone and they would help
8) the lifestyle is great, the jobs are great, and the schools have yet one of the best educations you can find
9) trust me, if you would like you should come out to canada for a couple weeks during the nice weather
and see if you enjoy it
10) i hope you do, its a reallly nice place :)
Hope this helps
~gamergirlxoxo
P.S. Wishing you the best of Luck, and trust me, you will love it especially the sunsets and beaches :)be careful near beaches though, they tend to cause many floods in places such as British Columbia :) where the weather is really moist and warm ^w^

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Ok so me and my bf have been going out for a while, and tomorrow is easter. I asked my best friend to ask my boyfriend if he wanted to kiss me and he said "umm.. idk" so she said that it had to do with his easter present ( I was going to kiss him for the first time) after she asked again he said "hell yea!! I don't know if you knew this already but I love her more than I've ever liked any other girl" once she told me that he said this about me I was soooo happy!! So I now know that he wants to kiss me but I only see him in school... we sit together at lunch though.. so my question to you is.. when would be a good time to kiss him and how do I start to?? I'm very shy and he would only be the second guy I've ever kissed. Btw at lunch we hold hands all the time.. so how can I start to kiss him and if all goes well where can I touch him while we are kissing.p.s. I can't drive and I'm only 14. (Please don't tell me I'm too young) so gor any ideas. Thanks!!

1) OMG this happened to me with my bf, although it was my first, and we got used to it after
so what you can do is, when you two are holding hands, quickly lean into him and peck his cheek (or lips) and let him make the next move
2) you could lean in and whisper something, so it would temp him and it usually works, that guys make the first move and peck your lips
3) or you could give him a big bear hug and kiss his neck, cheek, or lips, etc and pull away, that will give him the signal
4) where you could touch him is his cheek or chest, right next to his heart, shoulder, arm, or wrap your arms around his neck
hope this helps
~gamergirlxoxo
P.S.
wishing you the best of luck! :D

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okayy so in the beginning i really liked this guy lets call him george and i told this guy (lets call him rick) i told him because lately weve gotten closer and i feel like i can trust him but i definately dont have feelings rick but i know for a fact that he has feelings for me. also my other friend lets call her rose found out about my strong feelings for george and well she told her friend "mike" about it and mike knows so mike goes and tells "danny" and then danny goes and tells george! now rick is in love with me george is ignoring me and mike and danny always make fun of me when im by george. how do i tell rick that im never gonna like him as more than a friend and how do i tell george that i like him but if he doest like me i dont want it to be weird??? please help my life is so confusingg

1) talk to Rick sweetly, and tell him you have been gaining a crush on george and ask Rick if he likes you, if he says yes, then be casual and say thats great but i would really like it if we could just stay friends for now, (or something like that)
2) if Rick gets upset, give him some time to settle down his feelings
3) ask George to talk to you later, and play it cool and dont get over excited
4)If george agrees to talk, then confront him and be like: george, I like you more than a friend, but if you dont like me, then i understand (or something like that)
5) he George just wants to be friends, then let the friendship blossom and play cool and eventually things will start working out
:D hope this helps
~gamergirlxoxo

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im 13 and people at school pretend to be my friend but prefer to reject me. need social advice.

1) are you doing anything that would make them wanna reject you, or not like you?
2) understand that you should not call people friends until you completely understand that they are good and are not gonna be mean or hurt you in any way
3) perhaps you met someone and decided to be all good to them, ur giving them credit, they start thinking they r too good for you, be sure to play it cool until u officially become good friends with them
4) hope this helped :)
~gamergirlxoxo

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