Hello,

I was in a similar position to yours. When I graduated high school I was 17 and forced to take a year off until I was eligible for in state tuition. I felt just like you, as if everyone around me was moving ahead and I was being left in the dust. But through all of that I realized two things. For one thing, the catastrophe I was making the situation out to be was really minor when I reassessed the situation, and second that the most depressing time in my life always seemed to come after I had compared my life to other people's. So you haven't started school yet? It's a bummer I know but think of this time as a way to get to know yourself. Throughout all of my free time I found a major I really want to stick with and now I am way more focused on school that I ever would have thought I would be if i'd started earlier. Don't look at your friend's situations and think "that should be me" because if it was supposed to be you, you'd be their. Everything happens for a reason, I found that out soon enough. Taking the year off I found a school and classes that I could take at an advanced rate and now, I'm going to graduate ahead of my class when before I was behind.

There are a lot of options to afford school there are work study programs, that offer jobs on campus that let you pay of your studies and student loans. I don't think you are asking for too much at all. In fact what you want is similar to what a lot of people want. I know that you worry about your mother but I don't think you should let it affect you too much, like you said she has two incomes. And even though your sister is having a baby this can be a time where you form an even closer relationship with her. With your time off, maybe you can help her prepare for the arrival, you said yourself she is always sleep from body aches. I remember when I took time off I had a chance to form a close bond with my mother, and for that alone I'll never regret my time off.

Greetings,

I think might work, though it might be a bit personal to have someone else do. Maybe you can just have the friend hint to him and see what he thinks about you, then if all is well then you can maybe write him note or something. I do think the fact that he's asking about your dating status at all is a good sign that he's very interested in you.

It seems a bit to me that she's trying to emotionally blackmail you. I don't think you should let yourself be affected. She's telling you about how you blew her off. But if you think she's blowing off YOUR birthday party where she knows your boyfriend you don't get to see to often isn't going to be there. If it was my friend I'd understand that she wanted to see go to a birthday party. It's not any old party. And its not like you like the people playing anyways or that you have a ride back. I say go to the party but help your friend find someone else to go with her. If you want to be the peacemaker though. Maybe you could go to half the concert and then leave early for the party.

I think the other two are right you do have to except yourself. Once you get that down things will get better. Try wearing flats so the the height difference isn't very pronounced and if you dont' feel girl try putting on makeup. If you don't like wearing makeup you don't have to put on tons of it just little touches like lip gloss and maybe some eyeliner. I know that when I feel a little down and then put on some make up. I feel prettier. For not being able to talk to people. I have to again repeat that you've got to learn to be yourself. Otherwise you won't have any fun and it will come off as you being awkward. Just don't take talking to people so seriously. Even if you blunder and say something stupid just laugh it off. Being able to talk to people isn't a skill most are born with. I think if you want to get comofortable with talking to people you've just got to put yourself out there. One tip though for having a conversation. You can always walk away before it starts getting those awkward silences. Just say. "Oh I see my friend____ over there. I'll talk to you later." I do that all the time and I feel way less uncomfortable.

Try talking to him when you know he's alone. Say very seriously (but not rudely being as that could be awkward since you live with them) that you are disappointed in what has been going on. Maybe he didn't give a day off because you never asked for one? Maybe you should ask for a day off. Tell him that you love your job but you feel used when he makes you pick up the slack for the other girl. And you'd like a day off too once in a while.

Hi,

Even if it wasn't someone your dad worked with, I'd still say to cut it off. He has a fiancee. And it's not a good idea to be at the center of a mess that he's trying to create. Also think about your own boyfriend. I don't think you should go behind him like that. This guy sounds shady. I'm not saying that in a different situation an a 26 year old might find you appealing,or that it's wrong to date an older guy, but this guy's going about it all wrong. He's not even free to date anyone. Definitely walk away before things go awry.

PS Being in a relationship with someone who works with your dad might make things awkward. Especially in this case.

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