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I work with an elderly lady who can't seem to mind her own business. I'm the office manager and so she blames me for all her failings, like not getting raises, not being allowed to check voicemail, etc. She won't be honest with me about the way she feels yet she has no problem running her mouth about me and everyone else to anyone willing to listen. We have a very small office, there is only 5 of us here. So of course everyone knows what she says b/c that's how gossip is. Anyway, she's making my work difficult and making up lies to the boss and I want it stopped. How can I do this without stooping to her level?

Im in the same situation with the gossipping part, just let it roll off your back, shes an old lady no biggie ; ) But, I dont want to scare you or anything but my sister recently got fired because some girls said she was slacking and not doing her job well.Talk to your boss about it,im not in your situation so im not sure maybe?But the one telling your boss is old so im pretty sure she wont fire you,Confront Wanda and just tell her that you're sorry for offending her in any way,and ask nicely to stop talking about you.Again, im not in the situation so theres not much I can say!Well good luck :]

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so. this was my first year in high school and in public school. i was "shy" and quiet in class. I did make soem friends though. It just feels like in school all the girls look the same and than u have me who has my own style and stuff. People are saying im "weird" and making up rumors just because i stick out. I have brown hair and green eyes and people just think im weird because im not afraid to be myself. Am i doing the right thing?

Of course you're doing the right thing..People are probably just jealous that they don't have the guts to be who they want to be and not who people want them to be. Don't listen to what they say it dosen't matter anyway. Forget their lies.. Be you!

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Ok Well theres this Amazingly Gorgeous kid in my 6th period lunch named, Joe and hes soo amazing like i almost passed out the first day i saw him.. no jokee!! and belive me if i think a guy is hitt hes majorly hottt.. because i dont think many r hott.. but moving on...

My friend chelsea is obsessed over himm... and hes always looking over to me and my (girl) friends tables.. soo like yea i looked at him and he looked at me and it was almost like we had a staring contest (laugh out loud) and than his friend like tapped him on the shoulder soo he turned his head..

but my friend Chelsea totally thinks he stares at her all the time.. but hes nott.. and hes in 11th grade and were in 9th soo its like were 14 hes 17 but what ever (laugh Out Loud) we got one of our 11th grade friends to talk to him..For chelsea and the 11th grade friend who was a girl.. never told chelsea what he said but she told me..

She said Chelsea was gross and wear way to much make-up and he'd only go out with her for some "booty".

So Chelseas always tlaking about how hot he was.. yesterday she said she was in love.. i feel soo badd.. i wanna get her mind off this kid because hes not interested.. what do i sayy to her?

I definetley dont think you should lie to her cuz a good friend is honest, but you should tell her something along the lines of "I really dont think he's your type" or "He seems like a jerk from what people tell me" .Something you can think of that will take her mind off of him without telling her what she said.

ps- Tell her that you think she wears too much makeup (in a nice way!) and help her out.

i hope i helped! &hearts &hearts

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at my school im not socially accepted and i dont no why this is my second year here and im not trying to be cocky but im really pretty, and im nice, but im not socially accepted for some reason. ps i go to a private school. But anyway my ex-best frieend goes to the same school i do and she thinks shes miss all taht or w.e and there are about 16/40 kids in my calss that i get along fine with its jsut the people who don't like me always hang out with those people i get along with. there is this one person who always picks on me saying that im annoying when to tell you the truth im really not. I have had a really hard life so far, and i don't want to see a therapist or anything, but today after school i was crying because im not socailly accepted and i really like the school and all, but some of the kids there are so mean to me. also does neone know some good combacks/stand up for yourself or nething
ps i would switch schools but i cant
ps there are only 2 other schools around me (one is a sorta druggie school, the other school i dont no)
ps what should i say to the person who keeps on saying omg your annoying get the hell out of here, etc

please help me i willl rate
please answer all my questions thats in my story and the ps ones

Hey i know how you feel.Im sort of goin thru the same thing.I go to a private school too (not that that has anything to do with it) and theres just "cliques" in my class and its kinda hard to find out which one you fit in with.The people who are annoying you, are proabably doing that because they're jealous.All you can do is ignore them.And if ur nice to them,it makes them really mad cuz they know that what they're trying to do isn't working.If you're not going to ignore them or make peace with them then try that.Trust me,it kills them.It's the best come back you can have.

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