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Hey, I'm Melody! I've been giving advice on and off since 2003. I'm a 23 year old military wife, expecting a baby boy in August, and working on my Bachelor's degree. :)
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okay i know you probably get questions like this all the time but here it goes.
i only get mini-orgasms. i have never had a full one, and i was wondering how i might accomplish a full one. the ones i get only last a few seconds. thanx
If you relax and don't think about it, you'll orgasm. Don't think about trying to reach climax, just enjoy yourself. While having sex, ask your partner to play with your clit. This should cause you to orgasm . .
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can you have sex durring your period?
Yes.
It can get messy, but it isn't always. The amount of messiness is determined by how heavy your flow is, and on what day of your period you have sex.
For instance, if you have sex on the second day of your period, it will be a lot more messy than if you have sex on the 4th day of your period. If you have a heavy flow, you may want to wait until the last day of your period. If messiness doesn't bother you or your partner, be sure to lay a towel down under you, just in case.
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What exactly is a orgasm?
The actual definition of an orgasm is rhythmic muscular contractions of the genitals (sex organs) combined with waves of intense pleasurable sensations; in males, results in the ejaculation of semen.
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I am 13, and i hvae C36 Boobs...
Al teh kids at school make "jokes" bout them and it really makes me mad..
what should i do? Can i shrink them in any way?
At my school, there are two girls who are 13, (they're twins) and they are in Double D cup. Your breast size is fine, and completely normal. Everyone grows at a different pace, and you are just growing faster. The kids that are making fun of you are either girls who are incredibly insecure about their on cup size, or childish boys who have yet to see the wonders of a nice set of breasts ;) Most likely, in a few years the boys that are making fun of your breasts are going to be wanting to see them, and the girls are going to want to have them.
There is not way to shrink them aside from breast reduction. But why try? Be proud of them.
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For AIM, i see people using different background colors that arent on the basic colors for an away message. Do you know how to change the background?
Thanks
I don't have AIM. Sorry.
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i mean like for example "some girls are just born lucky -juicy couture" like those kinds of things
Ohh, ok. I know what you mean now. I'm sorry, I had a moment. =]
I've searched for hours on google & can't find a thing anywhere! I'm so sorry. I think this is the first question I haven't been able to answer. Maybe try someone with a little more experience in designer clothing?
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hey
i just got my bellybutton pierced about a week ago with the bananna barbell
i have been cleaning it twice a day with dial liguid soap
but now i woke up and its all red and hurts and white stuff is coming out
so now i am still cleaning it with dial soap but im also putting neosporin on it as well
my friend got it done with me and hers is fine
i dont know what to do because i like it so much and i dont want to take it out
any one ever expeirence this and have some suggestions?
thanks in advance =]
I got my belly button pierced about 3 years ago, and the process I went through to keep mine clean and infection free went smoothly.
You CAN use Dial liquid soap. That's why my piercer instructed me to use. But ONLY use it while you are taking showers. Don't put anything else on it. The white stuff as well is normal as is the redness. If you ask your piercer, he'll tell you the same thing.
Don't touch it AT ALL unless you are cleaning it in the shower and wear loose clothes. If you get to worries about it, call your piercer and see what he advises.
Don't use neosporin.
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where are some good designer quotes? like dolce and gabbana and stuff like that? i tried google but i didnt find what i wanted. help me =)
i'm not sure what you mean by designer 'quotes'. If you could elaborate, maybe i could help you.
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what happens when you have a miscarriage, like to the baby and you?
When you have a miscarriage, it's kind of like starting your period, only a lot heavier and a lot thicker. The blood may be clumpy and the bleeding may last for 3 days, or only 10 minutes. If you suspect you have a miscarriage, you need to go to the doctor. Parts of the fetus may still be in you, and it can cause a serious infection.
Nothing should happen to you, but the baby dies. It's like a natural abortion.
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So Petroleum jelly AKA Vaseline is OK to use?
I'm sure it is. It's used for just about anything you can think of. I use it as an eye make-up remover, because it doesn't burn or hurt at all if it gets in your eyes. I also use it for chapped lips and many other things. A lot of girls use it for masturbation, so i'm sure it's no different for a guy using it for anal masturbation. If you do feel any discomfort at all though, stop immediately & wash it out with lots of water. If the discomfort continues, call a doctor.
If you ask me though, I think you should buy KY Jelly. If you get a small tube, it's only like, $5 and it's very much worth it. So please, try that instead. You can buy it at walmart.
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Im a male and i was interested in anal masturbation, i was just wondering if there was anything around the house you could use as lubricant for this??
i would probably invest in KY Jelly. its great. seriously.
but vaseline is probably your best bet for at home products. i'm not sure, but anything else may cause a breakout or a reaction or something.
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my name is katie. i am writing for advice because i found a glass pipe with weed in it in my moms purse about 6 months ago. we got into a huge fight about it and she promised me she would get rid of it.; i never saw after that. but the other day i was looking in my moms purse for my library card and it was in there. i am so sick of smelling that smell on her clothes. it makes me really depressed and today i couldnt take the pain anymore and i cut my arm with a pair of scissors. i am so sad. i am lost and confused as to why she lied to me and about something so horrible to lie about. she could get in huge trouble for this. and i dont want to lose her over something like drugs. i am just really depressed and i havent talked since i cut myself. my arm is still bleeding and i did it in the early afternoon. i dont want my special ed teachers or therapist to find out. i am terrified of going back to the hospital because last time i went there i was put in restraints for trying to hurt myself. please help me. i am so scared.
We have similar experiences. Just so you know, i'm a recovering cutter, so if you need anyone to talk to, leave me a question in my inbox or email me. My email is on my site. I was a cutter for 3 years, and I haven't cut in over 8 months now. I'm proud of myself, and if you find in your heart to quit too, I know you'll feel the same.
I was looking for some nail poish under my mom's bathroom sink about a month ago, and I found a bag of weed, a glass bowl, and a lighter in a tin can. I cried for hours, and it took me 3 days before I even asked her about it. Come to find out, she explained to me that her doctor recommended it. She was diagnosed with Mutiple Sclerosis, and that's what they told her to take for the pain. She hasn't used it since I asked her not to, so everything is ok now.
Since we have such similar problems, leave me an inbox question.
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Okay well my bf is 17 and I am 14..
We were thinking about having sex but we had 2nd thoughts because of diseases and pregnancy.
I don't know if he doesn't have any diseases and I'm not sure if I do.
But he really wants to do a lot of sexual things.
He wants to have anal with me and I don't really want to because I hear from a lot of my friends that it hurts.
But this may seem weird but we sometimes have phone sex and masturbate to each other while talking on the phone..
When we're together we're always making out and trying new things together but we haven't gotten to sex.
I'm not sure if I should have anal or sex with him.
If you guys (or just one of you) are having any second thoughts, no matter what the reason may be, don't have sex just yet.
Think of it this way: Say you aren't sure if you want to have sex or not, then you do. After doing it, you realize you regret it, and then wish you hadn't. It's too late, what's done is done and you are no longer a virgin. If you wait, and then later decide you do or don't want to, then you can still choose.
If you decide to have sex, and neither of you are sure if you have any stds, then you both should go to a clinic and get tested together. Remember though, you can get an std by doing anything sexually related, not just by intercourse. So try geting checked before becoming sexually active and ask him to do the same.
I've never had anal sex, and I don't ever plan on it. I really wouldn't reccomend it, because it's known to hurt like a bitch. Some girls have even been known to shit on themselves after anal. Can you imagine the embarrassment? Aah, the thought makes me cringe. No matter what you choose to do, I wouldn't do this unless you just honestly want to.
Phone sex is completely normal. If you aren't ready to touch him or to be touched by him, touching yourselves is a great way to be sexual, without actually being considered sexually active.
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my best guy friend says that he wants to have sex with me before we graduate. we're sophmores. i dont mind because i care about him because he is one of my best friends but if i have sex with him will it ruin our friendship?
If you want to have sex with him then that's fine. But you're only sophomores, so you have plenty of time to decide what you want to do before graduation. It may ruin your friendship, there is always that chance. But if it's something you are willing to risk, then do it.
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one of my friends had unprotected sex, and she thinks shes pregnant. She got her period for like four hours but it hasnt come again. shes really worried that shes pregnant. i just need to know whats going on with her?
UHOHXOMFG is an idiot, so pay him/her no mind. Report them if you want. I would.
Pregnancy scares are normal, and though they are a little to common among the younger generation, it's still perfectly fine. There are many possibilities to your friend's problem.
1. She could be pregnant.
2. She could have had a miscarriage.
3. Her having sex caused her period to mess up.
4. Or something else. Who knows?
Either way around, it would be in her best interest to get a pregnancy test just to be on the safe side. You can go from there.
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me and my boyfriend r thinking about masturbating together
will it be fun?
i don't know. if you're into that kind of stuff i guess. i suppose it would be..enjoyable?
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when im getting eaten out
idk what to do.
what should i do during it?
Enjoy it.
what else is there to do?
nothing, there dear. :]
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from some of your answers im guessing you masturbate
im 15/f
can you give me some tips on how to masturbate please
it would really help
i actually don't masturbate that much.
i have a few times, but not on a regular bases.
when i actually do masturbate though, i don't finger myself. i usually just play with my clitoris because i can get off easier that way.
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Over the years I've trained my body to withstand pleasure and concentrate on something else. Now when me and my girlfriend have sex, it lasts for hours, is this normal? One night we went for four hours straight using no pills no attatchments and none of any of those other lovely toys. Is it a bad thing that this lasts this long? How long should it last? Usually I just go until she's completely exhausted and it still feels like I can get up and run a marathon as if nothing had happened. I think there's something wrong with me. Please, if anyone knows how I can fix this tell me. Thanx o^.^o
There is nothing wrong with you. My boyfriend tends to be the same with me. You just have tons of self control. Depending on his mood, my boyfriend can get off as fast as 5 minutes and keep going as long as 6 or 7 hours.
It's only a problem if you can't help getting off or you can't get off at all.
If nothing else besides your endurance is a problem, then your fine, ♥
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I started attending a Methodist church when I was 12. (I'd never been to church before- I'm now 14) I loved it! But when I had no idea what the Pastor or muchless ANYONE was talking about I got discouraged and stopped going.
I want to start going again but I do not understand alot of things about God which makes me VERY lost during the sermons. Why do we get baptised? What IS baptism? What IS confirmation? How do you know when a prayer has been answered? How do you know when you've been saved. What IS being Saved? When you read the Bible, do you read it straight thru or random chapters at a time? What are Diciples? Whose Abraham, whose Lot? At my church you can only take Confirmation classes in middle school and I'm now going to start high school (I missed the class session) does this mean I can't get into Heaven if I've never been baptised or confirmed?!
I stopped going to church when I got too frustrated and after six months I've decided I've hit rock bottom and want to get closer to God so I'm going to attend church tomorrow. Answers to my questions and advice to better accepting God and understanding him would be great!
I'm not a Christian, but all of my family is, so i've grown up around the religion a lot. When you start back, try not to get discouraged. I know it's not easy, but you have to think that most of the people that go to church have been going since they were born. It's not like you are going to learn all the Christian ways in one visit to church. Don't get discouraged. If this is what you want, keep at it. And don't worry, it's NEVER to late to accept God as your savior.
Now to answer some of your questions:
Baptism is the process a person goes through when they decide they want to become "right with God." It's an outward sign of accepting Jesus as their savior, and this my dear, is why people get baptized. Some common questions that should be answered before going through with the process;
1. Can you go to heaven by being baptized?
People are saved (and get to go to heaven) by believing that Jesus is the Christ, and putting their faith in Him. Baptism alone, does not save. However salvation (being saved) and baptism are tied together.
2. What is baptism?
You begin by standing, sitting, or kneeling in some water. Another Christian then lowers you under the water and then brings you back up out of the water. You could also literally call this "immersion."
3. When should someone be baptized?
Age really doesn't matter when dealing with baptism. It's more a question of when someone is ready. You'll know when you are ready to accept God, so don't worry about that. If you feel ready now, then great. If not, then that's ok too.
4. Why should someone be baptized?
Acts 2:38 - Tying repentance and baptism together provides forgiveness of your sins and the gift of the Holy Spirit.
Confirmation usually deals more with Catholics than Methodists, but it's "a sacrament through which we receive the Holy Ghost to make us strong and perfect Christians and soldiers of Jesus Christ."
How does it connect to Baptism?
In baptism we are made Christians, but we are not very strong until we receive the Holy Ghost in Confirmation. The Apostles were very fearful, hiding out, until the Holy Ghost came to them at Pentecost. Then they went out to preach the gospel boldly, and suffered martyrdom bravely. In lamen's terms, it's like a completion of baptism.
How do you know when a prayer has been answered?
First remember, God answers all prayers with one of three answers: Yes, No, or Not yet.
IF I did happen to be Christian, my aspect on prayers is that I have no idea why He answers different prayers in different ways except that He, being all-wise and all-knowing, is aware of what is the best for us � and sometimes that is to answer a prayer in the negative.
When a prayer is answered, you will know because basically, you got what you want.
Say you pray for your sick grandmother to get better in the hospital. If she recovers and comes back home, your prayer was answered with a "yes". If she stays in the hospital for a long time, God may have anwered with a "not yet". If she doesn't get better, and happens to pass aways, God answered with a "no". If "no" happens to be the case, just remember it was in everyone's best interest, especially your grandmother's. God knows what he's doing, so don't question that.
Being saved means being "born again." To be born again requires that you acknowledge your sins before God, confess them and begin to walk in a new direction. You are doing this when you make Jesus the Lord of your life. By making Jesus Lord, you are allowing the Holy Spirit to remake your spirit, put your sinful nature to death and transform your life. This can only happen when you are willing to give up ALL sin. When even a little of your sin nature is left alive, the new life cannot come.
How to be saved. (This is how you know your saved by the way):
First, get right with the Lord. you need to repent of your sins . This tells God that you are sorry for your sins and that you acknowledge that you have rebelled against Him; that you deserve punishment; and that you're asking for mercy on the basis of Jesus' death in your place. You'll also need to ask God to help you change, to live with the Holy Spirit as the ruler of your life. If you honestly wish this to occur in your life, one way to start could be to pray a prayer something like this [found on internet]:
"Dear God,
I know that I am not worthy to be accepted by you. I don't deserve your gift of eternal life. I am truly sorry that I have rebelled against you and ignored you. I need your forgiveness.
Thank you that you came to this earth as a man, Jesus Christ, and died on a cross to take my punishment. I believe that you rose from the dead on the third day. I thank you that Jesus lived the perfectly sinless life that I cannot, so that His righteousness can be counted for my behalf.
I no longer claim authority over my life. I place faith in Jesus Christ alone as my Saviour and Lord. Please change me, that I may submit to your Holy Spirit whom You place within me now as the seal that I am your child.
Thank you God."
If you decide to pray this prayer in repentance to God, and truly mean it in your heart, God will forgive your sins and adopt you as His child. The Holy Spirit will come to live in you and will help you.
The important thing to remember is that it is not really important to God how you say these things, but whether you really mean what you say. God looks into our hearts and knows our true feelings. All the prayers in the world will not help us unless we truly believe in and rely on Jesus Christ, and His life, death and resurrection, in order to be made right with God.
The second thing you need to do is live the new life. You will want to start putting your faith in Christ into practice- that is, actually submitting to God through obedience to the Holy Spirit. There may be all kinds of areas in your life in need of change. You'll need to get rid of old, rebellious habits (such as greed, anger, selfishness, and so on) and start some new ones, which please God (such as generosity, kindness, love and patience).
This second step will go on for the rest of your life, but God will be with you all the way. He'll keep speaking to you (through your reading of the Bible); He'll keep listening to you and helping you (as you pray to Him); He'll empower you to change and to live His way (by His Spirit, which lives within you); and He'll provide brothers and sisters to encourage you along the way (as you meet with other Christians).
The third step is to keep trusting. This step is also ongoing. You need to always be placing your trust in the right place. It's only because of Jesus (and His life, death and resurrection) that you can be forgiven and put right with God. You'll need to keep coming back to this again and again, because, as you start to live God's new way, you will still fail and do the wrong thing. We all do. We all need to keep looking at Jesus Christ as the only grounds for our pardon. We must never stop following, relying on and trusting in Him-and Him alone-as the means by which we are forgiven and granted eternal life.
Though it is important to live a Holy life, we must remember that this Holy life never "earns" us the right to enter Heaven. It is only our continuing faith in Jesus Christ�s free gift that allows us to be forgiven, and counted as God�s child.
If you follow these steps, God has promised to forgive and save you, and take you to be with Him forever in Heaven. If, in the past, you have believed what is written here, but have since strayed from this path, you will want to repent of this sin, and continue on with steps 2 and 3 above.
If you tell your Pastor that you want to be saved, most likely he'll tell you something along these lines. At the church I went to, my pastor saved me. Your's should do the same.
As for reading the bible, you can read it however you want. The first time would probably be easiest done reading from first chapter to last. It goes in order, and you'll understand it better. After reading it thoroughly, you can start reading certain chapters at certain times depeding on how you feel.
A disciple of Jesus Christ is someone who has accepted by faith God's free gift of salvation. The word disciple refers to a follower of Jesus, a learner, or a pupil. So, in order to be a follower of Jesus, one must believe His Gospel and accept it by faith.
Lot is Abraham's nephew. I've already taken up much space on your question already. The story of Abraham & Lot is in the Bible, so read the story and then you'll know. Also, if you type in Abraham & Lot on google, you'll get tons of information on the two.
**** By the way, all this information was found on the internet. It wasn't all stored up in my mind. Don't let me fool you =] I don't have that much brain capacity.
And it's not neccessarily that i'm outright defying God, just that i'm a teenager and I don't yet know what I am or what I believe in.
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