|
| |
|
well i been heartbroken over this guy named josiah for 4-5 years, we were close and almost dated. he led me on and used me til didnt need me anymore, and is my first love, kiss who lost virginity to etc. we ent from talking alot flirting etc to all sudden it stopped. idk why still, and foundout from someone that is married now. i tried sending a friend request on facebook, playing it off as dont have these feelings still, but denied request but didnt block. want talk to him so badly, as did have a miscarriage of his child and never griefed properly as kept it from my family cause they lecture me about having feelings for him tho thats not something i can help , tried everything i could think of to move on, and now in a relationship with lance, who treats me like queen do care for just not as much as do josiah. he knows had thing for him in past, as told him how he hurted me badly emotionally dont think it was intentional tho cuase he's best guy i ever knew before lance. what should i do? and want make my current relationship work though im just settling for lance since cannot have josiah like we were... (link)
|
You need to break things off with Lance because you're still hung up over another guy. Even though it may hurt to be alone for awhile, it's just not fair to him. You wouldn't be happy if he was just settling for you and he still had feelings for another girl that he can't have.
So first, end things with the guy you're with.
Second, don't try to reach out to Josiah. He denied your Facebook request and he is married. He has moved on.
Third, I'd suggest grieving properly. First, grieving over your past relationship. It's still a loss and you do need to go through the stages of grief. And then second, grieving over the loss of your child.
I'd suggest therapy. It would help you move on and grieve both of your losses.
Take of yourself right now. When relationships end, it's one of the best times to start focusing on yourself. Do things you've been wanting to do. Work out, get that body you've always wanted, eat properly, spoil yourself. Take a class and learn something new.
Better yourself and you'll realize who you deserve and who deserves you.
|
|
