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i've been in love with the same guy for about 3 years. we've been dating for a little over a year. we've *lived* together for about 4 years.
i used to always look forward to him coming home. and i've never been more sexually attracted to a person as i am to him. but lately i've become almost bothered by his presence. idk if this is a fluke thing or if i'm seriously just not into it anymore. we haven't been fighting or anything, i'm just kind of bored i guess. we haven't had sex in two weeks. and i relish my alone time more than i do my time with him. i've felt like i was losing interest before,( and i know this happens a lot in relationships, especially when people live together,) but i've always found myself getting over it and feel like we're lovers and best friends again. but for about a week now i've been using any excuse i can to not see him. i feel smothered and trapped. we just signed another year lease on our apartment. i don't want to hurt him though, he's extraordinarily sensitive and can act like a little bitch sometimes. which is also bothersome. i need a man, not a girl. idk what to do. maybe it will change in a couple of days or something but for now, i just want him to leave me alone. (link)
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You sound a little selfish to be quite honest. Have you ever considered how much he cares about YOU? and maybe hes just more open with his feelings because he really loves you so he feels he can show that side of himself to you and thats what open honest relationships are all about.
Its sounds like your not ready to be in a committed relationship at all because you cant think about anyone elses feelings but your own from one moment to the next and its just all about what you want no one else really matters. Just because a guy shows feelings doesnt make him "a little bitch" either. He sounds more mature than you to put it bluntly and maybe you should save him the energy and go find a guy that treats you like a complete dick because hes probably "more of a man"
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You have a really bad attitude to be quite honest. You think you know people from just reading one little measly paragraph? Well, if that's the case, I know who you are. You've got relationship problems of your own. You sound bitter. Maybe you just got cheated on, I don't know. Or care, for that matter. So I'm assuming at this point that YOU clearly don't have the mental capacity to answer a question with genuine advice or be of any kind of help to anyone. Fix Your shit before you try to "help" other people.
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