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I was on the phone with my boyfriend last night. I was at my best friend's birthday party before he called. My best friend is gay and my boyfriend knows that. He said how being gay is sick and how those people should be killed. Needless to say I was shocked. I tried reasoning with him but to no avail. He even got mad and wanted to skip meeting me for about a week. I called him out on that and he said he will meet me after all. I just won't ever feel comfortable around him again. I love him very much,but him saying such things about my best friend is disgusting. He would hurt a gay person for no reason. What if he kills me too? I am,quite honestly,terrified. Do you think this is a red flag? Should I run from him while I still can? (link)
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absolutely you should dump him. Tell him WHY and that you will NOT EVER tolerate ANYONE saying such things about gay people. You are not that way and you certainly dont want a partner who is that way either.
Its OK for him to not feel COMFORTABLE with it, its TOTALLY another to gripe, and say disgusting things like that. Get rid of him ASAP.
I hear that you love him alot but if hes this way with this kinda thing then what ELSE is he capable of in the future, say if you were to have kids with him and one of THEM turned out to be gay?? that child would face a life time of being shamed by their own father. Thats awful and if you can prevent bringing a child into a world like that then you should.
you can do it. good luck ; )
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I already did it. Thank you for your support though :) I know who I am and I know I deserve a much better guy than that.
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