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For months, I saved up to give my bestfriend a nice birthday stroll... We went here and there and I made sure he had fun. But when I got back home, I logged on to fb, and saw he posted a bunch of things. There were things like "I love Jesus" and a post tagging his girlfriend saying "Hi Mahal (love) I love you." and other bunch of random stuff... I also spent a whole 20 hours out of my house looking for this gift he always wanted, and when I gave it to him, he was like, "Oh my god! thanks!" then nothing else... I feel guilty about feeling this but I feel so unappreciated... (link)
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Well maybe he needs to let it slowly soak in that you did such a great thing for him.
It doesnt sound like your feeling unappreciated, it sounds like you just didnt get the response you were looking for and thought it would be bigger then what it turned out to be. what you need to do is let some time pass, see how he acts, and if its over all nicer for some reason (because he realized that you were thoughtful and went through alot of trouble to do what you did for him)
if not, the next time you get in a fight, bring it up because your well within your rights to do so because you didnt say anything about it this whole time.
say "and by the way that thing i gave you for your b-day was really hard to come by and you have no idea the shit i had to go through to get that thing for you but your not very grateful are you???) and see what he says.
it may change his attitude a bit or he may adjust himself if you have more than one card to play about the way he acts. He'll then also know that your not just keeping track but that you WILL say something if your unhappy, and thats the best way to command respect and order within the relationship if the other isnt treating you good. ; )
good luck and make your feelings known but do it when its the right time, not just randomly.
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