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We're all 16. Me and my bestfriend are both guys. At first, I hated this girl, since she was stealing my bestfriend, but we're cool now. Whenever she gets angry at my bestfriend she goes to me and asks for comfort, and as a friend, I give that to her. The weird thing is, after every time I comfort her, she says "I love you" Then smiles. Is it weird? I think it's just because I'm her bestfriend? PLEASE HELP MEEE (link)
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MMmmm thats not THAT odd, alot of female best friends say i love you to one another. Hell im close to 30 and my best friends and i say it but not all the time and its only in a certain context. like if one of us is struggling and needs help out of a tough spot, or is going through something and needs support.
for a girl to say it to a guy COULD be taken wrong sure. What you could do is play it off and say "aww well i appreciate that thanks" you dont have to say i love you back. She may not be even really in love with you "like that" she may just be so used to saying it with her own friends that she views you as one of them so she just says it.
I dont think its worth hurting her feelings over making a big deal over it. girls say it all the time it just depends on HOW she means it. like when she says it to you does she look you in the eyes and wait for a response?? like shes expecting you to say it back?? or does she say it casually before saying good bye and leaving somewhere?
if its number one, just play it off, and dont say i love you back if you dont love her. Look away as if your busy and just say in a casual joking kinda way "UHUHHH OK TTYL!!" and keep it light hearted see what i saying?
act like your reading what she just said as something thats silly, and dont take it seriously.
if she DOES ever admit to liking you and says something about "what about all those times i told you i loved you???" say that you just assumed that she said that to close friends and didnt take it seriously.
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