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Guys T-T I filed this under Abusive Relationships because I feel so tormented.
I have a bestfriend, and I love him, he always says he loves me back. We've been bestfriends for nine years. Then she came along.
This girl, gods! This girl became his girlfriend for only two months. All he talks about is her. I have access to his facebook, and all I see is, "I only love you and no one else" That's not all.
Everytime we ride the jeepney, it's a public transpo vehicle, I always get dizzy so I rest my head on his shoulder. But now, this girl gets MY shoulder. It's supposed to be MINE! T-T Now, I cant even ride the jeepney without holding my stomach and getting teary eyed.
We were enrolling for school. It was a respected school and it was my dream to go there. Suddenly, they started kissing and doing PDA. I get it already! they love each other! But not here! Gods!
We were kicked out...
I cant stand them T-T I dont want to leave him though... What can I do? Please help me! T-T (link)
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Well it sounds like youve been friend zoned hunny. sorry but its true.
He was probably only saying he loved you back too because he thought you thought it was some sort of cute whimsical thing to do but he wasnt about to date you and now youve discovered that the hard way.
The reality of it is, is that hes with someone ELSE and not you. this is a reflection of how he see's you because if he looked at you the same way you see him, you'd be together already after all this time and your not.
Hes moving on with his life and its with this girl you hate. im so sorry but thats the truth of it. The best thing you can do for right now is to leave him to her and maybe if they break up you can make your feelings known for him.
Other then that you sound like you could be a little possessive over your friend and it sounds like you think hes a piece of property and not a person. This will come back to bit you in the butt (kinda like it is now because of the feelings your having) and it will hurt.
just back away slowly, and let him live his life with this girl and maybe ask him not to talk to you about her or their problems because it stresses you out when you know hes so unhappy and could do better then her. this shows both concern for your health and his well being.
that could get him to stop talking about her.
good luck.
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Thanks... But I dont like him that way :-) still, your answer's really accurate.
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