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Last summer I told my crush that I liked him. He was like oh cool and he still talks to me back then and we chatted daily. Until the school started. We wouldn't talk in real life and its awkward, but we will still message each other after school. That made me really happy because he didnt ignored me after i confessed. So my friends also know i have a crush on him, and if my crush and i passed by tgt, my friends would make noise and he told me he doesnt like it. so one day he got really mad at me becuz my friends "teased us" but i got pissed and ignored him. soon i found he unfriended my through fb so i blocked him. i still think i like him but i dont want to what should i do? i cant even talk to him rn... (link)
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Ok, heres MY idea and i dont know if your brave enough but ill make the assumption you just might be.
What i would do (because i did this as a teen) is i would tell my friends that i DO like him and i dont care what anyone thinks and that if they are my friend they will stop acting all immature and "get a grip". ((let me just throw in here that i was a very strong willed, people person and wasnt afraid to stand up for myself when i was a teen))
I dont know your personality obviously but you "could" shame them into not making fun of you like THAT. Take the high road, and they might just respect you more if you stand up for yourself and put your real feelings out there. No one says you have to do this with everyone else, just your close friends that were doing this so that they can see that you will NOT be disrespected when it comes to your feelings and "how would you like if i did that to you over a guy?!" type of attitude towards it with them.
Theres probably guys they like too, theyve just been too shy to say anything to any of the other girls including you. Their still in "im gonna follow what everyone else is doing and saying" mode and not in the "im going to think and feel and act for myself" mode yet and you ARE because your more mature and theres nothing wrong with that.
Now, with the guy in question. All you can do now is try to be nice to him, do not put yourself in a position where your friends or his can continue to tease, and i would try to message him in whatever way you wanna do that privately and say, im sorry about my friends their just immature and jealous most likely and if you dont wanna talk anymore thats ok and i will respect that but i would still like to at least just be friends because i dont want this petty little thing to end such a good thing.
call it "a thing" too. dont put a label on it right now because he might not be totally sure of how he wants to view the relationship and you might scare him off.
If he decides to talk to you again (but privately) maybe let him know that you dont care what anyone thinks of you or him and he shouldnt either.
hope that can help, idont know, thats just how i would do it i cant say that this will work out for you or not but ive done it before in the past. Other teens usually will respect you more if you hold steadfast to your feelings about something and your verbal about not letting anyone change your mind because their still figuring out who THEY ARE as people and its easier to be a follower then a leader and youll look like a leader if you try this way.
good luck! ; )
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