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Hello, I'm twenty and my brother is twenty three; so my brother isn't so hugely into the bar scene anymore. Because of that, last weekend, we went to his friend's apartment and hung out. I like hanging out with these guys in particular, because they are all twenty as well so when all of our friends are out at the bar, which is quite a lot, we all get together and hang out. I've been to this house quite a few times with my brother, so I thought I knew everyone that lived there, but I was proven wrong.
All night, there was this cute guy that caught my eye multiple times so when he got off the couch and went to the bathroom, I asked my brother who he was and he said he's the other roommate, making four people living in the house. When he came back, my brother asked him if he wanted to go outside and smoke a cigarette, so they both went out. My friend that was there with me at the time said that he was cute and she definitely thinks he was hitting on me. So when they came back in, I introduced myself and he said "yeah, I was just telling your brother that I thought we had a class together freshman year" -- mind you, we're juniors now. So for a couple minutes after that, my friend and I were sitting on the stairs, really just sitting and listening to the conversation all of the guys were having, when we thought something was funny, we would snap chat it or something like that. Then someone texted me something and I wanted to show my brother, since I was on the bottom step and my brother was on the couch, there was a chair I had to lean over and of course, the cute guy was sitting on it, so I blatantly just leaned right over him to show my brother my phone and he didn't complain or anything, I could've sworn I even saw him smirk about it. A few minutes after that, this kid went up to get his computer to play music from and my brother got up to get a drink so there was only one kid on the couch, so my friend and I moved over to sit on the couch, for the sole purpose of the step starting to hurt our butts, a few minutes after that, my brother came back and sat on the chair so when the cute guy came back, he could only sit on the couch next to me, so he did.
We talked, he would elbow me and run his arm down mine, he'd grab at my hand or just look over and smile at me. There were times when the first guy that was sitting on the couch would take my phone and the two of them would snapchat selfies and put them on my story. About an hour on the couch and just hanging out, he gave me his phone with the new contact page up, so I put my number in and gave it back.
He texted me a few minutes later to go "peek in his room real quick" - mind you, they are a bunch of hippies, if I hadn't mentioned, lol. But I didn't get the text right away so I didn't answer and he didn't push it.
Well, my brother started to get cranky and I was the one that drove him so I had to take him home because when he gets cranky, he will always get his way - mostly because he just doesn't shut up until he does. So, I started to get my things together, my brother took my keys to go warm up the car and as I was walking to the door, one of the roommates said the cute guy was through the back door with one of his other roommates smoking a cigarette and if I go out the front, I'll miss him but I didn't really want to keep my brother waiting so I left, just thinking I'll shoot him a quick text.
So, I got to my car and got my brother and friend and all of our things inside and I texted him quick that I'll see him again whenever my brother wants to come back. Well, long story short, he told me I'm welcome there even if my brother doesn't go, that he's glad he stuck around that night and that we met (he usually goes to concerts on the weekend), he told me I'm super cute, he asked me to call him when I get home, he told me I should go back and hang out the next night after I go to the hockey game and my friend and I agreed, he even replied that he was looking forward to it.
When I got my brother home to his house, his roommate was there and he was drunk and it was just a mess trying to deal with both of them all while still texting this guy. But, it was nice talking to him because he was being pretty cool about it all, he was actually helping me deal with the both of them. It got to be about 5:00 am when I finally got back to my place, I was still texting this guy, I grabbed a shower when I got home and just fell asleep after. I woke up to a text from him that said goodnight.
Now, it's a week after this all happened and I haven't heard from him since. He didn't even text me the night after to go over to his place or to meet up. Granted, I could've asked him what he was doing and I did think about doing just that but then I thought it would be weird because it's his place and I didn't want to invite myself. However, I did text him the next day to try not to have too much fun at his work shift and he texted me back and he said "oh yeah, I'll try lol" but that was it. And it's like, my brother and I go there a lot and I don't know, now I think it might be weird.
I think I'm just confused why he hasn't even texted me once since.
And please, do not be afraid to hurt my feelings, I didn't grow feelings for this kid in one night, I just thought he was cute and that he was a cool person to hang out with. So, if you think all he wanted was sex, you can go right ahead and say it, because honestly, that's what I've been thinking.
Any input is appreciated.
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well thank you first off for that very longggg long story. lol. ; )
anyway, no it would no be weird to text him and ask him how hes doing and see what his responses are. then say "hey i thought we were gonna chill sometime!" ; )
it sounds like he DOES like you but it also sounds like you need to hang out another time or two, to really see what hes like and if he actually does just want sex from you.
Everything sounds pretty innocent so far and it sounds like you need more to go on before thinking that he just wants sex.
good luck ; )
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