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~A little Advice for the broken hearts~
You are afraid and hurt and you dont know what to do. You feel empty and alone, like the whole world has just ended. You have a hole in your heart one that feels like it can never be repaired, but just know that in time that hole will be gone. Getting your heart broken is like getting a deep cut. It hurts really bad, and no matter what you do you cant stop thinking about it because you know its there and its hurting, but with a few stitches and a little tlc (friends and family helping you through) and some antibiotic ointment (ice cream) soon that cut will only be a scar (a memory) it will always be there but it wont hurt anymore, you are strong and you can make it through this!!
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Hey, so I'm a 13 year old girl... I recently went to the doctor about depression... I'm going to get two types of counciling, but she hasn't scheduled an appointment for me yet... I tried this thing where you wrap a hairband around your wrist and flick it, it was fine ... More of a distraction and I could control when I wanted to stop or start, I didn't like the fact that it left red marks on my arms though... Two of my friends cut (that I know of) and I thought that it would be an okay idea to experiment, so I cut my leg multiple times, not deep or long... Just a scrape to draw a little blood... I know I have problems, and I'm not going to do this again (despite the fact that I want to). The two friends that I've mentioned know about this, and promised not to tell anyone unless it got really serious. I feel terrible because I promised my mum that I would never self harm- and I feel ashamed and I don't want to burden her with any more problems (she already has enough to deal with), the depression was hard enough to tell her about... I just don't know whether I should tell someone and I'm scared and lost and I feel alone... I was stupid I know, but I don't know what to do... Please someone tell me what to do, and don't bother asking why I did this- that is confidentual... Thanks, lea wills xxx
Lea,
You're not alone. I understand what you are going through, I've done it myself. Its really hard to deal with life at your age. You have everything from boys to hormones working against you. Its really hard to be a teenager. People telling you what to do and how to be. I remember that age all to well. Everyone says it gets harder and adults are telling you that you're just throwing a pity party for yourself. And well with all that craziness going on I fell under the pressure and I cut myself too. But then I had my first child and I realized that someday I am going to have to explain the scars when my child comes to me and says "mommy what happened?" That day has not come yet but someday it will and I know that by telling them, I will risk them doing it to themselves. Dont think of yourself when youre doing this, think of the other people you hurt by hurting yourself. Like your family, or future children. You definately should tell your mom what has been going on. You need her right now and you wont be putting a burden on her you will make her happy for trusting her and going to her in your time of need! She is terrified right now knowing that her child is depressed and she cant do anything about it. If you open up to her and talk to her about what is going on and what you are doing it will help you and her get through this rough time. And as for your friends, you need to tell an adult so they can get help as well. They might get mad at you but just think you can be saving their lives. If you dont tell what if one of them cut too deep and kill themself? Do you want that on your consious? Be a good friend and help them too. You are so brave for talking the first step and admitting you have a problem! Keep it up dear its going to get better as long as you let it. Stay positive and keep your head up. Dont give up! Good luck feel better and if you need any more help please let me know!
(Rating: 4) Thanks for answering! I've told my mum about one of my friends, I'm going to tel her about the other tonight, she said that if it gets any worse then she'll tell their parents (one of which who already knows)... It took me over two months to tell my mum about the depression, so I can't guaranty, that I'll tell her straight away- if I do... I know I should tell her, but her sister already self harmed and she literally told the doctor I know my daughter would never do anything like that, and I'd feel like I was betraying her if she knew... So I'll try, but honestly- I probably won't have the courage to, and I'll try my hardest not to self harm again, but again- no garantys, thank you so much for your advice!