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We just broke up barely 6 months ago. We were together for 9 months and recently started seeing each other again for a few months.after brake up. He never mentioned seeing anyone else at all. We were together last Wed. and he proposed to her on Saturday? He told me in the beginning of the relationship he was over her as she had left town to be with someone else.I confronted him about being engaged and he was really cruel and cold and nonchalant about it! I feel I'm going crazy because I feel it's wrong to sleep with someone you know has feelings for you, and then a few days later ask another person to marry you? He feels he did nothing wrong because he didn't promise me a relationship but he also didn't make it clearly that he wasn't interested in working things out either. (link)
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i agree with dragon, that this will definitely help you to be able to detect what to avoid this happening to you again, but bottom line what it sounds like here it you got used by this guy and in the worst way.
i cant totally understand your anger in this because what it sounds like is that he actually had feelings for someone else and made THAT person his wife when you were basically his side dish and nothing more. the only thing you can do now is learn from this and be able to recognize later down the road should someone else come along and try this with you.
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I wasn't his side dish I was the place saver until he had his life together enough to show her has changed. Yes I know what to avoid now, but this also might mean I'll be very disconnected and have a very high wall put up.
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