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~A little Advice for the broken hearts~
You are afraid and hurt and you dont know what to do. You feel empty and alone, like the whole world has just ended. You have a hole in your heart one that feels like it can never be repaired, but just know that in time that hole will be gone. Getting your heart broken is like getting a deep cut. It hurts really bad, and no matter what you do you cant stop thinking about it because you know its there and its hurting, but with a few stitches and a little tlc (friends and family helping you through) and some antibiotic ointment (ice cream) soon that cut will only be a scar (a memory) it will always be there but it wont hurt anymore, you are strong and you can make it through this!!
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So my family - my mom, brother, and my friend all live in a one bedroom apartment. We've lived like this for 3 years this month. But my brother has recently told us that he wants to live by himself. Either he keeps the apartment and we move out or he will move out and we keep the apartment. So me and my friend were thinking about getting a place together. But my mom wants to move with us too. But I really dont want her to. I really dont want to live with my friend either, I just want my own space but someone to go half with on bills would be nice. But my mom would have nowhere else to go. She got fired from her a job a couple of months ago and she has bad knees and hips. She also has a drug habit. So shes trying to get disability. And my friend has a job but she also doesnt pay her bills on time. For the last 4 months she's given my brother like 200 total for rent. She makes enough to pay him. But she spends it on food (eating out) and buying she really doesn't need. They both dont like to clean. I also dont want extra baggage I just idk I feel like its mean but I also feel like I should give them a chance. I also dont want my mom to get comfortable because I dont want live her forever. Any suggestions???
I understand wanting to help out your mom but if she is using you may not want her to move with you. You should try to get her some help before her addiction gets worse. Just think of it like this.. What if someone turns her in for doing drugs and your house gets raided. Drugs on the property, they are not going to ask questions you will get in trouble. Or if her addiction gets worse she may strat stealing also not good. Now as for your friend just tell her you want your own place. Be honest with her. Its ok to want to be on your own. Its just a part of growing up and realizing its time to move to the next phase in your life. And if she is your true friend she will understand
(Rating: 4) Thank you for your advice, she's had this habit before I was born. And its not like I dont want her to live with because of that, I just want to be grown and do grown things without my mother being there. I dont want her to think we're going to live together forever because she cant work.