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so long story short, i liked this guy from 6th grade till around early this year (im now in 9th grade) and i got over really quickly because a month before i got over him and found out what an ass he was, i started getting these feelings from this other guy. and let's just say he was the main reason why i got over the other guy so quickly. and eventually my feelings for him started to grow and grow and he found out that i like him and he was really sweet about it until a month later when he told my best friend that he would never ever date me... which really broke me because i went through a lot those 2 months. anyways, after he told my best friend that everything changed... he would get closer to me like be around me but not talk to me and he would stare at me A LOT. as in a lot i mean whenever i see him in the halls and he sees me, he stares and doesn't break eye contact... it's as if he doesn't care if i know that he's staring. whenever i'm at lunch or something, my friends would keep on telling me that he's staring or glancing at me. but we haven't spoken since may because he decided to say "hi" to me in the hallway a few days after he said he'd never ever date me. so how can i ignore him? whenever he does get around me or somehow is near me, i get pissed and frustrated but at the same time im jumping around and my heart is beating extremely fast. i've tried to get over him multiple times but whenever he stares at me... i just go back and i can't help it. he is kinda friends with 2 of my friends and his little group is associated with mine but i'm not really 'friends' with them or him. plus the only way i realty stop liking someone is by having a new interest in other guys and i just don't like any other guy at my school... like school ends monday (and you're prob like yay now you wont have to face him anymore) but i'm going to miss him and being around him in the summer. and what if i still like him next year? i tend to get attached to someone easily and once i am, it's for awhile... (i've had a bit history with this guy too. i liked him back in 6th grade before the other guy and he kinda found out i liked him back then from someone and yeah he confronted me about it and yeah... he was a douche when i liked him but when i stopped liking him and liked the other guy, he was nice to me and we became friends and we had nicknames and ugh but then after 6th grade we drifted but we'd occasionally say hi and all but that stopped in may...) i just really have no idea how to get over him. im literally going to think about him all summer and mope about him (link)
Feelings sometimes suck.

But you do have to move on from him. I know that school is ending, but it helps not being around him. You don't need to find a new guy to be able to move on. That's the wrong way to move on anyways. It's not bad to notice other guys though.

So do other things with your time. Don't mope around about him not liking you, that won't do you any good. Just keep yourself busy, try new things, hang out with your friends and you'll be fine.
He's one person, it's not the end of the world so it's time to let him go.

A lot of girls say they want to, but they never do. They somehow convince themselves that the guy is perfect for them. So they're stuck on that guy for years when they could've moved on and met someone better.
You are in control, so don't sit around and think about him. It's fine to be upset that he doesn't like you, but don't make that the number one thing on your mind.


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