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Ok...so basically I've always had a big crush on my best friend. She's just beautiful and kind in every way and deserves the best and I hate to see her hurt. I wish I could make her happy, but I've pretty much accepted she can't like me because of the gender I was born. She very recently told me she is now dating my best friend, who I dated for a very brief time and just became friends. I think that's fine and dandy but it feels weird to me. He actually acts different around her, kinda mean and grabby and actually yells at me around her. She acts the same. I want to be happy for them, but I am not, and I know he will hurt her like he did to a few of my other friends. He enjoys being a self proclaimed 'whore' and gets tired of someone after a month or so. She acts like she hates him half the time and gets annoyed but at the same time likes them...I don't care what they do as long as they are safe. So why does it feel so weird to me? (link)
It's hard to see friends date someone who might not be the right person for them. You see things that they might not see because they like them so much.

I would say sit down and talk to her, but it might just be best to back out and not get involved in their relationship. I wouldn't want to be friends with a guy who yells at you and is mean so you might want to back out of there as well.

The most you can do is be there for her when he does hurt you. You don't want to see it happen but you can't really change her choices. So just be the good friend and be there for her when she needs you to be.


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It really sorted itself out and I was there for her when It crashed.




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