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21/f, 27/m
Hello,
I am currently talking to this guy. We actually just met online. I was interested in him and we went on a date and I thought it went alright. We recently went out again the second time and he kissed me. I have been getting mixed signals from him and I'm not sure what to think. These are what I have observed so far and reasons why I get mixed signals:
1. He sometimes talks about seeing meeting my family or coming to my house and having my mom make him this particular food he likes.
2. He holds my hand when walking in the street, driving in the car, etc. He also kisses me on the cheek, tells me I'm pretty and I have a cute personality.
3. He sometimes makes dirty jokes. Most of it relating to coming over to his house late at night and "doing stuff". He has been making those type of jokes since we first chatted online.
4. When he kisses me, he seems to be a bit aggressive and wouldn't let me pull back. The last time I saw him, he asked if I wanted to come in and "meet the dogs", yes he does have pets, but I'm sure he wanted to proceed further, I said no.
5. He listens to me when I talk, he's spoken to me about his issues before, his past, etc. Him in general doesn't come off as someone who would try to "get laid". He comes off as a gentleman when I talk to him.
6. He doesn't talk to me only on the weekdays, he speaks to me everyday.
7. I caught him getting online to meet girls, my guess is that he is trying to keep his options open but then it makes me wonder if I'm just someone he's planning to 'score' with and go back into the 'dating game'
He recently invited me to go to the symphony with him and I accepted. My manager was thinking that I have the ball in my court and that I should wait it out and see if he's looking for an actual relationship or that he's testing to see how far I would go.
I asked him if he was expecting anything from me (hoping he'd be completely honest), he said, "no. why would I expect anything from you? We just met." But he also told me that he's "open to anything." Even though the first day we met, he told me he was looking for someone be in a relationship.
What are you thoughts? What should I do? (link)
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Well it looks liek he IS looking for a relationship but it also looks like your just seeing some of what his personality traits are. So if hes doing things you dont like, you can still pull back and say \"i really like you but, i dont like when you (do this or that) in your own words obviously. or say that youve noticed, that this or that happened and it bothered you alittle, and just see what he says about it. If he says hes sorry and didnt know you felt that way, then you have no reason to believe hes not being honest right?
About the online dating thing. sometimes guys can fall into a pattern where even though they found someone they like, they\'ll continue to go on the same websites their used to and have grown a liking for. If youve just started dating then dont expect everything to be all about you when it comes to love. he might be just as unsure as you are right now and just doesnt know how to talk about it because hes a guy, or have the balls (like you do) to reach out and ask for advice.
so far everything sounds up to par.
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