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I'm 23 he's 22.
We've been dating for a little over a year but we've been friends for 8 years.
Lately, we have just been fighting incessantly. We can't even be on the phone for 10 minutes without wanting to kill each other. He swears he's not seeing anyone but the way he's acting makes me think otherwise. We usually fight but not to this extent. Usually when we fight he'll call back and apologize and be sweet and we'll get over it. But lately he seems like he's just saying and doing anything to hurt me and then goes to bed without any regard to my feelings. I'm not usually a person who cries in front of him but that's the only way I can get him to stop being mean to me. He will continuously poke at me to get a response, at the beginning of our relationship we agreed to not cuss at each other because it's disrespectful but now he's doing it nonstop and calling me a b****. I can't talk to him about our problems without him just giving me responses like "ok, whatever, and you're not?, and you don't?" I just wanna yell at him and be like give me some emotion!!! but it's no use. I didn't get into nursing school and all he had to say was "that's not the only one in america...." :/ is it time to end things and move on? What can I do? (link)
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Yeah this relationship is over is neither one of you is willing to just A:stop nit picking at each other over things, and B: not communicating the right way. Its kinda funny cause YOU feel hes not communicating the way YOU like, yet your willing to use a feeling you dont have by communicating with another (tears) so your both doing each other wrong. just say \"OK THATS IT!! WHAT IS REALLYYYY GOING ON HERE CAUSE IM GETTING MIGHTY TIRED OF THE FIGHTING AND NIT PICKING SERIOUSLY ENOUGH ALREADY!\" then just stand there and let him say something back and see what you get. see if his answer sounds creditable and REAL, and if it does then find the closest chair and sit down and talk about it. let HIM tell you how hes feeling, and dont judge, jump interrupt, just say \"uhuh....yeah\", \"ok i hear what your saying but you acting like a d-i-c-k, isnt making things better around here, its just gonna make me more angry and then i cant support you the way you need because your just pushing me away. heres the secret here ok? all those statements i just gave you are general enough that they will work on almost ANYONE thats doing these kinds of things. so you SHOULD get some kind of genuine response from him. Try also having small civil conversations with him, show him that your still interested in his life and you enough to ask him when he walks in the door how hes doing. ask him how his day at work was, or when YOUR eating, ask him if her wants some too, then get him to sit down at the same table with you so you can get him to talk to you. when your out and one of you buys food for the other, try saying thank you and giving him a peck. its the small things that will show him that you WANT to be there for him but that his current behavior is totally unexceptionable. im also married to my best friend of 12 years and EVERY DAY, EVERY TIME he buys me food i say thank you still. This will also show him what he\'ll be missing out on if he continues to act like this. ; ) good luck
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Thanks for your help! But once I really confronted him he said that I wasn't sending him enough naked pictures and that was pretty much the breaking point for me. I really appreciate it though!
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