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My boyfriend and I have been dating for 3 years and it was an amazing 3 years. We always know how to make each other laugh and each other happy. We love and care for each other very much. About a few days ago, he came to me and wanted to talk. He told me he was re-evaluating his life and wanted to take a break from the relationship so he could "find" himself. He said also he needed some change. I know this break is meant to help us be able to go out and enjoy life without worrying about the other but it really hurts and it's really hard on me. He said that the spark between us was there still but it just wasn't kindling like it should. What makes me more upset about this "break" is he wanted this beautiful necklace back that he gave me for Christmas last year. I'm not sure what to do and honestly this break hurts me more than it is helping. I don't want to seem desperate but I really miss my best friend and I wish he knew that. (link)
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first off NO, he does not get the necklace back, it was a gift fair and square. whatever B.S. reason he has for wanting it back just say \"NOPE, you should have thought of that BEFORE you gave it to me SORRY\" ; )
secondly, YES after a while \"the rose\" can \"fall off the bloom\" relationship wise and thats when the real layers of people can start to show and that can be a scary time. maybe he was scared off by that? idk.
From what you said HE said, it sounds like he was just \"having fun\" and now that things are getting the slightest bit serious he wants out. In what WAY is he feeling like he needs to \"re-evaluate\" things? and why cant you be there with him, by his side to help him do that? if not as a gf but a best friend? who said that your all the sudden no longer good for helping with issues hes having? you should be number one for this stuff. These are the things that would be going through MY mind at least.
why dont you wait it out and see if he comes to you. dont call him. dont text. lets see if hes really serious about your relationship EVEN through all this \"re-evaluating\" hes doing. ; ) good luck sweetie.
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Thank you so much for the advice. And I did give the necklace back to him but that was me being nice. I haven't talked to him since last Friday when I returned the necklace and you're right, I should see if he does come to me. If not, oh well. At least this gives me time for myself. :)
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