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19/f bf also this age
I've been with my bf for six months now. We see each other once a week or once every two weeks.
Recently, I've been starting to feel dis-satisfied with the relationship-even sometimes looking at other guys. My bf is nice, sweet, and fairly generous, but he isn't as caring as he could be and sometimes I don't find him attractive at all.
I'm his first relationship and I feel he's really clingy as well. Like talking about our lives together and he bought me teddy bears (2) and shocked me by saying "Just like our own little family".
I know this is typical for a first relationship-but its not my first relationship.
I don't want to break up with him, because I'm prepared to try things again.I want advice on how to tell him how to improve (in a nice way, obviously) Thnks (link)
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Ok, your not seeing enough of him thats for sure because if you HAD been, you would have realized alot sooner that hes not for you. lol. Secondly it sounds like in your subconscience your just not SURE about him, or if hes your cup of tea compatibility wise, but if you hardly ever see him then how would you really know for SURE? people need ore time together to get to know one another and you cant really maintain a relationship being together so seldomly like this. you might as well just be distance FRIENDS while your at it.
What you could do is try asking him when you sitting together ALONE somewhere, how he feelings about you because your feeling like you care about him lots but your not sure. (dont let him actually answer when you ask during that \"how do you feel\" part, it\'ll give time to think about what to say next and prepare himself for what to say back once your finished talking. this will let YOU get your feelings out on the table first. lastly he doesnt come off as clingy if you guys only see each other only every week or so, not even THAT. he sounds like a normal guys thats just really smitten with you and wants more time with you.
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Well actually we can't see each other more because he and I study and live an hour apart and its expensive on the train. So what do you suggest now then-there is such thing as long distance relationships you know
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