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14/f So I had this friend let's call her "Jo" and since we got in a huugeeee fight after we graduated Elementary school, she's been messing up my life... She stalked me on social media and talked shit about me.. But now that highschool has started, I barely see her so when my friend (let's csll her Amy) came up to me and said Jo was gossiping about me I grew concerned... Obiviously in life people are going to talk behind your back, gossip and spread rumors and no matter what anyone says about them not being affected at the end of the day, they are. So when I heard Jo was talking about me, I told my mom who wanted to solve this problem once and for all, She called Jo's mom who arranged for us to come over and talk.Long story short, Jo said she wasn't talking shit about me (she's a liar btw) and her mom believed her. But after another friend had a party this weekend and didn't invite me bc maybe it wss last minute but anyways I'm not convinced she's stopped tskking about me and I feel like she's out to ruin my reputation... am I being paraniod or a narcissist? (link)
This is all just unnecessary drama. If she is talking bad about you, it's just because she is bitter and holds grudges.
The only way to show her that her talking about you isn't going to get to you or bother you is to ignore it and act like it's not a big deal, if it's just petty things she's saying about you.

Now you'll never know if she's gossiping about you or not. You'll just hear what other people tell you and you choose to believe them or not. You'll never know unless you hear it come out of her mouth.

So you honestly can't make her stop talking about you. You don't have control over other people but you do have control over you and how you handle the situation. As long as you don't go off and try to get back at her or do something immature, you should be fine.
If someone comes up to you asking if these rumors are true. It's more about how you act than what you say. If you freak out or anything like that, they'll assume and Jo will get the reaction she wanted. Simply tell them that it's not true and it's a dumb rumor.
It was good that you talked to your mom.
I'm also going to say that even though you should ignore her, it will be hard and whatever she says will hurt you, but if she does go to the extreme and says things that are really harmful like anything sexual, anything at all that is really bad, you need to tell an adult.


Rating: 5
Thank you for the excellent advice! I'll take what you said into consideration and I'll keep it in the back of my mind




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