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Well, I feel like I have no real friends. I do have this one friend ''fernanda'', we go out and have fun and laugh and stuff, but that's about it. I have tons of friends on facebook, but I don't know most of them in person, all I see are pictures of them having a good time together and just...happy. Something I haven't been for a very long time, see, I'm very insecure...sometimes I feel like I'm just not worth it, and well my story is much longer than what most of you would be willing to read, so let me just cut to the chase and ask you guys...what should I do? I'm not even sure what I'm asking here, it's christmas and I'm looking at all these pictures on facebook of people having fun with their friends, and I'm here at home, nobody called me, nobody cares about me...sometimes I feel jealous of these people, I wish I could be with them and have what they have...happiness, fun, friends... I think I'm a pathetic loser...sometimes I think I don't deserve love, or friends, or any of that for some reason, or maybe my personality just sucks. I'm interested in things like philosophy, history, languages and all that...I just can never find someone to talk with me about that, but at this point I don't care...I just wish I had friends. What should I do? I feel very sad and often cry a lot cuz I think my teenage is passing by and I'm not enjoying it...life is passing by and I can't move on because I feel like a part of it is missing, like something I never had...and maybe never will.

I know where you're coming from regarding not feeling like you deserve other people's love and attention. I feel the same way and am pretty insecure myself. What could help is reaching out to other people and inviting them to do things with you. Maybe they are feeling lonely, too, but are too afraid to reach out? I remember this one time, I saw a lady all dressed up and my mom and I got into a conversation with her. She mentioned that she was going out dancing and didn't care that she had no one to go with. She just wanted to have fun anyways. I thought that was really cool. If there is something you want to do like see a movie, go shopping, or try a new restaurant, do it regardless of if you're by yourself or not. You may meet some new people along the way.

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