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Im young, so I haven't experienced everything yet, but I'll try to help.I am 18 years old, studying A levels in sixth form. I've watched all the dramas of school and family life happen around me though.
People say I think sideways... so if you don't mind that ask away.
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I'm a 22 year old girl.( my question is long but your answer mean alot )
It's about 4 months that I entered a group of friends and I like one of the guys. He is 22 as well and has been so helpful to me and really kind and understanding. But I am so attracted to him especially because it was feeling like I've known him for ages even the first day I met him. We have the best time when we are together and He said that he thinks of me as a mature, strong and kind girl that he likes to show to others. He respects me a lot.
I am a very tough girl in a way and I have reacted to some guys when he was around and he knows no one should cross my comfort zone and flirting is not my way and he also knows that if I get offended that's the end of relationship.
By the way, I've talked to some of my friends about how to show him that I like him and I've suggested to open up with him. I am actually trying to let him touch me a bit or flirt with him in a very subtle way (it's all I could do basically).
However, I see the other girl in the group flirting with him really obviously and touching him without boundaries and being jealous to me. And I know that he is helpful and kind to her as well but he tends to not to talk about her in front of me so I can't say who he is more helpful or kind to. But he has told me that he thinks she is a playful child that he thinks of her as his little daughter!(it's strange because he is 22 and she 19!!)
The problem is that even when I am around he talks about other girls. Also, his friends know about his love relationships more than me (so I don't know if there is anyone else in his mind or not )and I hear random things from his friends or brother, like you're a loser and you have to wait for the girl to decide and him saying that he is not a loser and he is over it. Plus, he never stops the other girl from touching him, instead he stares at me at all the above situations :(
I am really confused and don't know what to do to see if he really is into me? or it's me judging everything in my favor?
hmmm this is a tricky one, but if what you say is really true about the looks and touching, it sounds like he does like you!
I understand the whole not flirting thing, but maybe follow your friends advice and open up. Be more carefree, mysterious, pretty.... ect. and be way cooler than that 19 year old- she seems to obvious and "available" (haha) . Instead of you chasing him, try to make him chase you for awhile!
(Rating: 5) Your answer is really helpful. Thanks alot :)