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I really need someone to talk to and need advice. I've been in college for about a week and I'm not enjoying it. Today was a really bad day for me. School doesn't actually start until the first week in september, but I moved in early because of fall sports. We are in preseason right now and its taking up the majority of my time. My roommate is one of my friends. I've known her for 5 years and we play on the same fall sport, so we pretty much see each other every minute. We get along okay... We don't hate each other but there are some things I don't like about her. She is boy-obsessed- meaning she already has a boyfriend but is already flirting with the football team and getting guys numbers and possibly hooking up with them later. She doesn't really respect me because one night it was 3am and she couldn't sleep so she turned the lights on, watched tv, and skyped with a friend.. while i was trying to sleep. We still get along but I kinda wish I had a different roommate. But I admit its nice to know someone in my college.

There are just so many things going on right now that make me feel bad.. my boyfriend won't return any of my calls. He was supposed to pick me up and go to the mall today (since it was my only day off from practice) and he was 2 hours late and didn't bother to call and tell me that. I had to wait for him. Another thing is that I just feel so lonely. My fall team isn't too close with me. There are some cliques/groups starting to form on the team and I really don't like that. Nobody on the team really matches my personality. Most people on the team are party freaks. They drink and stay out late and hook up with guys. Its not my personality at all and i really don't want to be around them outside of the sport. But it makes me upset that I'm not really good friends with any of them. I really don't know what to do.

I've considered looking into a therapist because I honestly feel like I have nobody to talk to about my feelings. I tend to keep my feelings bottled up. I can't talk to my parents about it because they live in a different country (europe) and its long distance which is expensive to call. I don't have a car so I can't leave. I just really wish I had someone close to talk to. Oh and I can't really talk to my boyfriend about these issues because he says i'm weak sometimes and he says I need to toughen up. I'm scared to talk to him about stuff like this because I don't want him to think i'm a little baby. I just really don't know what to do. I'm not enjoying myself. I'm homesick, lonely, and just exhausted. What do I do??

Also, i'm not very outgoing so its kind of hard for me to make friends. I also have trouble finding the right friends.

thank you.

Wow! You pretty much just described me! I know how hard it is to be around people that lack morals. (Drinking, partying...) I'm not religious myself, but if you are, try to meet some people at church (or another place of worship). I'm not saying every person that goes to church is a quality person, but it's worth a try. Also, try volunteering with little kids at the YMCA. You'll probably meet some nice people doing the same thing you're doing. Good luck!

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