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~A little Advice for the broken hearts~
You are afraid and hurt and you dont know what to do. You feel empty and alone, like the whole world has just ended. You have a hole in your heart one that feels like it can never be repaired, but just know that in time that hole will be gone. Getting your heart broken is like getting a deep cut. It hurts really bad, and no matter what you do you cant stop thinking about it because you know its there and its hurting, but with a few stitches and a little tlc (friends and family helping you through) and some antibiotic ointment (ice cream) soon that cut will only be a scar (a memory) it will always be there but it wont hurt anymore, you are strong and you can make it through this!!
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My boyfriend suffers from multi-personality disorder. We almost broke up last night but finally he told me what was going on even after he told me I deserve so much better than him. But somehow I just couldn't bring myself to do it.
He told me his disorder causes him to have different personalities. When we first started dating, he was all over me and complimenting me and showering me with love even when we weren't with each other in person. And then just suddenly he changed and I felt like he lost interest in me. But he told me this person he is right now "doesn't feel like talking, doesn't feel like fixing things" and if he isn't accepted as he is then we're not going to work out, and eventually if I give him time and space he'll be back to normal and he loves me very much. I thought it'd be wrong to break up with someone for something they can't help. He didn't asked to have this disorder. At first I thought it was just an excuse but I know now it took a lot to fess up and tell me. I know now he really trusts me. So I have decided to give him time and space and see where it goes.
Still, I don't know if I made the right decision... What do you think?
Youre right he didnt ask for this problem. But if you are not happy its not fair to you to feel trapped in a relationship. You could go to couples counseling and see what it is that can help you cope with his problem and what he can do to make it easier on you if you want to stay with him. But if you cant handle it and you are not happy it will not be wrong for you to step out. good luck and best wishes
(Rating: 5) We ended up breaking up today. But thank you so much for your advice!