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~A little Advice for the broken hearts~
You are afraid and hurt and you dont know what to do. You feel empty and alone, like the whole world has just ended. You have a hole in your heart one that feels like it can never be repaired, but just know that in time that hole will be gone. Getting your heart broken is like getting a deep cut. It hurts really bad, and no matter what you do you cant stop thinking about it because you know its there and its hurting, but with a few stitches and a little tlc (friends and family helping you through) and some antibiotic ointment (ice cream) soon that cut will only be a scar (a memory) it will always be there but it wont hurt anymore, you are strong and you can make it through this!!
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I don't know what else to do, or who else to turn to.. not that I've turned to anybody because I'm afraid talking about it is going to make it worse.
I've been with my boyfriend for six months, and I love him so much. He loves me just as much... if not, then more. He tells me he's in love with me and I'm the most important person in the world to him. He tells me I'm the reason why he's going to try to get into college. And I'm so glad I could do this much for him. I've always loved hearing this, us making scenarios about our future together like getting married and everything. We have legit plans to go to school near each other so it won't be too much of a long distance relationship.
I have never once doubted my love for him. I know I'm young, and so is he, but I never felt so strongly about somebody before. He electrifies my life. I love being with him, being at his house doing nothing but eating & watching movies, and I really like his family & vice versa.
But out of NOWHERE a couple days ago, I began feeling uneasy about this whole thing. I don't know if it's a long, committed future, or if it's that he's suddenly gotten a bit clingy (I get reminded how much he loves me dozens of times a day, and I don't understand why, because he knows I know already).
There isn't anybody else, I don't want anybody else. I want to be with him, but there's something stopping me from returning the words "I'm in love with you too", which I've already done before and I'm afraid he's going to think something's wrong.
Which I think there is. But I don't know what. I don't know what to do. He knows something's wrong but nothing this serious. I mean, it could be worse. But with the slightest doubt about ME scares me so much. I don't want to hurt him, I'm not ready to end this. I don't know what to do.
Just today, just a few minutes ago, he noticed I was a bit upset so he said, "Don't worry about me breaking your heart, okay?" assuming it was about that. I shook my head, telling him that's not what I was thinking about: I was worrying about me breaking his.
I don't know what's wrong, or how to approach it. But I need to fix it because I want to have that 100% feeling again like he does about me. But right now it's not 100%.
Hopefully this is just a phase. But it hurts me to tears. I'm scared of breaking his heart, along with breaking my own. I don't want to feel this way anymore, and I'm not ready to give up.
Any advice? Any similar situations? Thank you SO much.
I once had this feeling before my hubby and I got married... But I realized that the whole thing was that I loved him so much and I wanted to be with him forever but inside I was thinking the same thing you are... But for me I got so scared of hurting him and it made me push him away... I later realized that it was infact the total opposite... I thought I was afraid of huting him when really I was afraid of him hurting me and leaving... I was so use to people hurting me it just became natural for me to push people away that I loved... you need to talk to him and let him know how you feel. let him know you love him and you want to be together and the reason you have been acting odd is because you are afraid to hurt him... because if you hurt him, he will leave and you dont want to lose the best thing that has ever happened to you... Its going to be okay, dont keep your feelings bottled relationships need communication... if you talk you and your relationship will get stronger good luck
(Rating: 5) thank you so much, I think you're absolutely right. :)