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~A little Advice for the broken hearts~
You are afraid and hurt and you dont know what to do. You feel empty and alone, like the whole world has just ended. You have a hole in your heart one that feels like it can never be repaired, but just know that in time that hole will be gone. Getting your heart broken is like getting a deep cut. It hurts really bad, and no matter what you do you cant stop thinking about it because you know its there and its hurting, but with a few stitches and a little tlc (friends and family helping you through) and some antibiotic ointment (ice cream) soon that cut will only be a scar (a memory) it will always be there but it wont hurt anymore, you are strong and you can make it through this!!
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Ok, so I don't know what to make of this to be honest. My boyfriend of 8 months has been nothing but good to me, he bought me everything I ever need from books to jewellery, and swears he'd always protect me even if we weren't together.
Anyway, I know he has a violent streak in him, I've never seen it but his family knows and he told me some of the stories from his past, which didn't worry me too much because he's never once hurt me or anything. But last night he told me about his attitude to relationships when he was about 17, and most of these stories involved him treating his girlfriends like crap, dumping them after a day and using them to buy him shoes and give him money etc.
I don't know if it's possible to change from this attitude though, I mean, he's lovely to me, I give him freedom to go to parties and tell him he can chat up girls so long as he's clear that nothing happens, and he says that made him respect me more, but since he told me that I'm worried I'm just going to be another name in a list of people he humiliated and hurt.
Is that something I should let go because it's his past and he's changed?
He is doing great with you and he treats you with respect and love... so he had a sorry past... dont hold his past against him if he has changed... that would be like someone bringing up every mistake you have ever made and even though you learned your lesson and wouldnt do it again they decide you know what you are not worth my time... dont do that to him... it had to be hard for him to tell you the things he has done but he wouldnt have told you if he didnt care about you and trust you... dont leave him unless he gets mean or aggressive with you. :) good luck and best wishes
(Rating: 5) Thank you, I agree with you mostly, I suppose if he has changed then I shouldn't hold it against him :)