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Q: If a friend ( a person who claims to be a friend) is terrible about returning phone calls or email. How often should one contact them until they do? Actually for fear that they may never call at all. Would it be proper to avoid them completely and just let them do the contacting and risk the friendship?
A friend who will not return your phone calls, emails, or text messages in a timely manner - is not a friend at all. It requires little effort to respond to someone with technology the way it is these days. I have someone that does this to me a lot and when confronted, he comes up with every excuse in the book. I don't buy it for one second.

It hurts A LOT and I understand how you must be feeling.

You could avoid them completely until they are willing to initiate a conversation. The problem with that, however, is you have to ask yourself "why all of a sudden does she want to talk to me?" Is she bored? Lonely? Does she have nobody else to hang out with? "

If you don't feel you're being treated the way you should, you should end the friendship. I always tell myself I rather have one amazing friend than a dozen fake ones.

Ditch her! She doesn't deserve you, not the other way around.

Thanks, along the lines of what I was thinking but wanted some feedback.

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